I m needier than he is. How can I learn to let him go do his own thing without it upsetting me?

He s so independent. He comes to me for a few mins of attention here and there, then he s good. His "love bar", as I call it, is full, and off he goes to do whatever it is he wants to do. He has offered to pay for me, but I feel bad. We re still new and I don t want him to feel like he has to pay for me already. He answers texts and stuff. I try not to overdo it. I wait a few hours so he can enjoy his stuff, then message him, he answers and I wait a while before I answer.. I try really hard not to exude needy .

I ve explained to him I need more time/attention for my "love bar" to fill and he tries to be more accommodating but it starts wearing him out and feeling like it s a chore. He s even started making it a point to give me a day every week where it s just him and me, which I love... but then the next day I m back at square one when he wants to go game or w/e.

How do I gain this independence he has? I don t want to be needy and insecure anymore. I don t want to be sad when he goes off to pursue his hobbies with his friends. I want to be happy to let him go do what makes him happy. I try to find other things to do but really I m just sitting there waiting for him to get back, and I hate that feeling. How do I be genuinely happy to go do my own thing? How do I stop feeling so desperate for his attention ALL the time?