Mel

So my bf is really independent. He's pretty happy being left to game and stuff. I'm needier than that, but because I love him, I make sure to give him his space while we aren't in person. Most days he eventually messages me saying "baaaby!! Love meee!" and I don't know what he wants me to do to 'love him' when we're not in person. When I message him saying that I want cutesy/sweet stuff of some sort for a few mins to fill up my "love bar" then I'm good and go back to doing my own thing.

I've asked him before what I can do for him while we aren't hanging out to show I love him and he's like "Idk, I'm pretty independent and don't need much. I guess just let me do my own thing..?" So I do that and then I'm lost as to what to do when he messages asking for loves cos I just spent the whole day loving him the way he's said to before..?

He s so independent. He comes to me for a few mins of attention here and there, then he s good. His "love bar", as I call it, is full, and off he goes to do whatever it is he wants to do. He has offered to pay for me, but I feel bad. We re still new and I don t want him to feel like he has to pay for me already. He answers texts and stuff. I try not to overdo it. I wait a few hours so he can enjoy his stuff, then message him, he answers and I wait a while before I answer.. I try really hard not to exude needy .

I ve explained to him I need more time/attention for my "love bar" to fill and he tries to be more accommodating but it starts wearing him out and feeling like it s a chore. He s even started making it a point to give me a day every week where it s just him and me, which I love... but then the next day I m back at square one when he wants to go game or w/e.

How do I gain this independence he has? I don t want to be needy and insecure anymore. I don t want to be sad when he goes off to pursue his hobbies with his friends. I want to be happy to let him go do what makes him happy. I try to find other things to do but really I m just sitting there waiting for him to get back, and I hate that feeling. How do I be genuinely happy to go do my own thing? How do I stop feeling so desperate for his attention ALL the time?

He s so independent. He comes to me for a few mins of attention here and there, then he s good. His "love bar", as I call it, is full, and off he goes to do whatever it is he wants to do. He has offered to pay for me, but I feel bad. We re still new and I don t want him to feel like he has to pay for me already. He answers texts and stuff. I try not to overdo it. I wait a few hours so he can enjoy his stuff, then message him, he answers and I wait a while before I answer.. I try really hard not to exude needy .

I ve explained to him I need more time/attention for my "love bar" to fill and he tries to be more accommodating but it starts wearing him out and feeling like it s a chore. He s even started making it a point to give me a day every week where it s just him and me, which I love... but then the next day I m back at square one when he wants to go game or w/e.

How do I gain this independence he has? I don t want to be needy and insecure anymore. I don t want to be sad when he goes off to pursue his hobbies with his friends. I want to be happy to let him go do what makes him happy. I try to find other things to do but really I m just sitting there waiting for him to get back, and I hate that feeling. How do I be genuinely happy to go do my own thing? How do I stop feeling so desperate for his attention ALL the time?

We got back together like 2.5 days later. We're still kinda stand off-ish, but we're slowly getting back into our old groove.

I'm still mad/hurt though... I know he hated being w/o me as much as I hated being w/o him. I know he loves me and I know he'd never hurt me but like...

he did...

It was only a few days, but that was a few days of crying really hard. Of no "I love you"s, no good morning texts, nothing.

I know we'll eventually find our way back to being back how we were but... I'm scared I won't be able to let this go so I want to talk to him about how I feel. How do I bring it up? How do I talk it out like an adult? I feel a little bitter and I have childish thoughts. I just want to resolve this and know that I can trust him to stay.

My boyfriend and I have been together for five months. Everything was great. It was perfect. He was always so happy to see me and would spend the whole day with me and we would be disgustingly adorable.

Then after he got home from work the other day he asked me for a video call. As soon as I answered and he saw my face he got the happiest look on his face and his eyes welled up with love. Nobody has ever looked at me like that and I felt so special.

He said he loves me so much and even went as far as saying he could see us getting married someday after we meet in real life. But... until we live closer he just can't handle the distance anymore... and he broke up with me.

Today was the first time I woke up with no cute, lovey texts. The first time he didn't message or call before he had to go into work. The first time he didn't message me as soon as he got home. The first time he didn't tell me he loves me. The first time he didn't message me til he passed out...

I feel like a huge part of me died and I feel so unbelievably broken.

I just don't understand what happened. We were so happy. We gave our "cringelovers" friends a run for their money of being the most adorable couple. He's everything I've ever wanted and it's my first time legit being happy in a relationship in 12 years.

iunno what happened. please help ;-;

My long distance boyfriend and I have been together for five months. Everything was great. It was perfect. He was always so happy to see me online and would spend the whole day with me and we would be diabetically adorable.

Then after he got home from work yesterday he asked me for a video call (not our first). As soon as I answered and he saw my face he got the happiest look on his face and his eyes welled up with love. Nobody has ever looked at me like that and I felt so special.

He said he loves me so much and even went as far as saying he could see us getting married someday after we meet in real life. But... until we meet he just can't handle the distance anymore... and he broke up with me.

Today was the first time I woke up with no cute, lovey texts. The first time he didn't message or call before he had to go into work. The first time he didn't message me as soon as he got home. The first time he didn't tell me he loves me. The first time he didn't message me til he passed out...

I feel like a huge part of me died and I feel so unbelievably broken.

I just don't understand what happened. We were so happy. We gave our "cringelovers" friends a run for their money of being the most adorable couple. He's everything I've ever wanted and it's my first time legit being happy in a relationship in 12 years.

I don't understand what is going on that makes him feel like it's worth it to break my heart.

I love him so much. But we re both scared we won t get along in person because we re both more shallow that we want to admit. I can t do short guys and he can t do plus sized women.

Our personalities just click and we love each other so much... what can we do to let go of our shallow-ness and really give us a chance?

Also, yes, I m dieting. I don t need you guys telling me to lose weight, I just don t think I can lose 50 lbs in 1.5 mos.