I have a friend with cancer who used to smoke allot. Is it ok for me to say I told you so now or wait for him to die and then say it?

It is never ok to say I told you so at any time

Why would you say it at all? Are you perfect?

Theirs a lot more of a common denominator than SMOKING that causes cancer, look at the kids in hospitals that have it that have NEVER smoked a cigarette. I have a 87 yr old mother in law thats smoked for 71 yrs and she doesnt have cancer and never has had.....YOU need to rethink what you say to people, and be very picky of the words you use.

The hardest part of this obvious lie to believe is that you have a friend.

Tell him what you like. What should I say to someone with cancer that "did everything right"???

no it's not okay too say that at all

There is no time where this statement is proper. This does absolutely no good to anyone.

don't say it