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My boyfriend used to be a drug addict. What s the chances of him relapsing?
So my boyfriend used to be a hard drug addict in which he spends years on gateway drugs and that further led to an opioid addiction. First with prescription drugs and then that led to heroin. After two years on heroin, he decided to quit and has been clean for 10 years. He reassure s me that he d never touch those substances again by telling me that while recovering he lived with an addict and still never touched the stuff. Also, all of his friends who used are now clean too. I know he would never want to hurt me, he used to smoke marijuana and chew tobacco when I first met him but stopped when I addressed that I didn t want to be involved with someone that did that stuff. So, I know he s capable of never touching hard substances again but I never know. I love the man to death and I know he wants to spend the future with me but I m scared to death that he may relapse on me. He knows how scared I am and I hate to address him on the mistakes he made in his past, so I very rarely bring it up. But, what s the likelihood of a relapse because he s pretty confident it will never happen but my best friends dad was 20 years clean and relapsed and has been struggling ever since.
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- ,Lv 73 years ago
Ten years is a huge accomplishment but there's a couple things you said that is bothersome. The first thing is "all of his friends who used are clean now too." Recovering addicts are encouraged to drop old friendships that might be detrimental to recovery. The second thing is your intuition. Despite his ten years of sobriety, something is telling you to be wary. You should think about seeing a therapist to explore the reasons behind why you're feeling this way.
- OnlookerLv 73 years ago
As long as he takes care of himself, there's a very good chance he'll never go back. The risk, of course, is that he could suffer an injury that would require opioids, and if he got hooked again he'd have to work harder than others to get clean again. Keep in mind that people who use opioids are trying to kill some pain, so if he has a good lover, reduces contact with difficult people, avoids situations that trigger him, he won't really desire them. There are many people who quit opioids and don't go back. I've worked with many of them. Give him my congratulations for being clean for 10 years. That's really awesome. He's a strong individual.
- kelvinLv 73 years ago
well that is up too him and because your friend relapsed doesn't mean your boyfriend will
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- ?Lv 73 years ago
He may be OK now, while (I presume) his life is going well.
But drugs are the ultimate escapism. If things go badly he knows how to get drugs, & he knows how to take them & he knows how to hide his use of them. So they will always be there at the back of his mind, tempting him.
Any quitter know how easy it is to relapse (alcohol, cigarettes, even ordinary fatties on diets)(I'm a fatty on a diet). So sorry, this worry will always be at the back of your mind.
- Anonymous3 years ago
An addict is always an addict but not in a bad way. It's part of his past, it's been 10 years, thats a huge accomplishment. Not many people make it out of a heroin addiction. Give him a chance, he made some mistakes, we all have
