Old friend (just classmates) she asked me for relationship. Both 36. Singles. we don't know a lot about each other. How do I trust her?

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Difficult situation for me.
She was my teenage crush in 9th grade, i gave her a love letter, didn't seek for answer, we moved out of town and never met again.
15 years later, found her on facebook, started chatting like old friends. I was married, now divorced recently. 
She has been contacting me obsessively and I can't blame her. At this age, she could be aggressive. She said I made her feel comfortable, if her father is the man she look up to and I am the 2nd, strong words. But only been a month or so, I am not sure her feelings are real. 
We both working class, average.
She lives in Burma and I am in Los Angeles.
I don't want to think immigration could be a part of it but she knows better. Very straight shooter as well, hopefully no tricks. Need help still.

ez2tock2 · Answer

The only way to find out if something/someone is a MISTAKE is to do something.
Life is made up of Experiences.  If you never get any... you've been existing as a Zero.

sparrow · Answer

Well, take it slow. It's not like you'd have to get married right away.
See if she pushes the issue to get married or not. 
She may want both. You're companionship AND a greencard.
Doesn't necessarily mean she will leave you.

Staap It · Answer

SO in 9th grade you were living in Burma ? OR was she an American who became a citizen of Burma ? One just happened the other was a choice now she may want to reverse.

Either way they ALL want to find a way to the United States. Literally MILLIONS of "mail order" brides from every foreign country. See, that all works backward. Like the woman holds all the cards. NOT SO. In their countries as you know women are not highly valued, a burden to the family. Often in many the bride must bring a dowry payment to the man's family to take her on.

SO if you do this, KNOWING this is NOT for love as much as to help her, likely no return for you. I think a wise man would demand some cash in your pocket to help her immigrate. They do pay others to help them. If you do, why do it for free, knowing that next thing she will not be happy, and divorce you taking a LARGE part of your wealth with her. Of course they all seem so honest to get what they want. Once in your hands, not so much.

SORRY sir, but, that is like a prediction of your future if you do this.

? · Answer

immigration?    what does that have to do with you two?   is that why you can't trust her?   Explain more.

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Old friend (just classmates) she asked me for relationship. Both 36. Singles. we don't know a lot about each other. How do I trust her?

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