Is this a case of a young college woman being passive-aggressive to me?

A few examples of something that happened to me at college. Other things like this have happened. I m not sure if it s in my head because I cared about her, or if she is actually being mean. I wouldn t be so upset but it seems too habitual to be coincidental.

We had gotten to know each other a bit and I had helped her with homework and drove her home, helped with things here and there.

1. We were supposed to eat a meal together at a food place on campus. She waited till I paid for my meal, then changed her mind at the last second and went somewhere else, saying she had homework to do. I perceived this as rude and inconsiderate.

2. Three of us were at work while it wasn t busy. She got out a game and said loudly something like "I love playing the games the two of us." And the other two began playing some game on paper.

3. When she left work where we both work I was waving her goodbye. She completely ignored me and said loudly to another guy she saw entering, along the lines of, "Hey it s great to see you! I love giving you hugs!" and gave him a hug. And then left.

On the one hand it seems to be in my head. On the other I can see how she might be being spiteful or something. What do you think?

Can I ask a bigger question about this? Can women be hurt easily? How can you be hurt by someone if you don t care about them?

Or am I simply imagining that she was hurt when she really doesn t care?

I always get the feeling she s trying to make me emotionally in pain?