He asked me out on a date and when I agreed to it he blocked me then unblocked me?

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This guy I liked has been asking me out since January, he keeps telling me how much he likes me. He asked me out on a date and I said yes then straight after he blocked me off everything I couldn't get in contact with him, I assumed he had met someone else and that I wasn't good enough. Last night he added me back on everything and messaged me saying 'I need to explain something to you, is that okay? X' I said go for it because I wanted to know why he had blocked me with no explanation. He said 'I've been having a tough time with my dad, I didn't want anything serious and I kinda bailed because you seemed interested and I didn't really know what to do because you seemed interested, that's why I blocked you. I really really liked you but was in a bad place so didn't know how to deal with the situation but I do really like you so I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings in anyway x' I told him he could have asked for space and I would have left him alone and respected that, I asked him if he was seeing someone else and he said no then he said 'can I see you this weekend? Been thinking about you a lot and I feel so bad so wanna meet up to make amends and spend some time with a girl that's pretty hot, been thinking about you loads recently xx' I dunno if he's just trying to play me and use me for one thing or if he's being genuine and using his dad as an excuse because he's confused about his feelings for me??

BeatriceBatten · Accepted Answer

At best he sounds like he's got a lot of baggage ... at worst he sounds manipulative and like he's playing mind games with you, and such games/manipulation would likely continue throughout the relationship.

There's no reason why his relationship with his father should affect his feelings about you, especially at this early stage. He's likely using it as an excuse. Either that or he needs intense therapy.

Either way, I wouldn't get involved in this mess. You do NOT need this kind of emotional rollercoaster in your life. I would say "No thanks," block him, do not contact or respond to him ever again, and move on and forget about him.

Getting involved with him would cause you nothing but trouble. Again, at best he's going to look to you to be his personal therapist and "fix" him, which you cannot and should not do. At worst, he's going to intentionally screw with your emotions in order to give himself an ego boost. At ABSOLUTE worst, this could turn into emotional/mental/physical abuse.

You haven't even gone out on one date with this dude and he's already causing you grief. Don't even get involved. Just say no and walk away and leave him far, far behind you. You can do better.

Anonymous · Answer

He's seen your YA account and realised he doesn't want to date someone with OCD.

ez2tock2 · Answer

THIS IS NOT A QUESTION, quit abusing the Question Mark.
"He asked me out on a date and when I agreed to it he blocked me then unblocked me?"

The only way to find out is to give a person A CHANCE.  If not... 
feel free to always wonder and torture yourself with curiosity.

? · Answer

Hmmmm... sometimes you don't if someone is being genuine until you've hung out with them.   I guess you could at least give it a shot?

However, if your gut is telling you this guy is no good, then PLEASE listen to your gut first.

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