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My friend has really disgusting BO...should I tell her or not?

One of my best friends has absolutely terrible body odor. It's this putrid smell, and it's something that's lingered around for YEARS. I've never had the balls to tell her. She moved a few hours away in the last few years, so fortunately, I don't have to deal with her BO that often.

But every time she visits or when I visit her (like this past weekend), I smell that same, DISGUSTING, rank smell that's similar to when you don't shower for several days. I KNOW other people smell it too because they've mentioned it, and when she linked arms with another friend this weekend, the girl quickly unlinked arms with her within five seconds and the reason was all too obvious.

The thing is, her hygiene is good! She showers regularly and uses hair products and perfume...but the smell is still there no matter what. I don't even know how her boyfriend deals with it. I let her use my deodorant and had to throw it away right after. I really think it's a deeper, underlying internal issue, and it actually makes me concerned for her health. She's overweight and has a terrible diet - I rarely, if ever, see her eat fruits or vegetables. This smell is making me not want to be around her. I really think I should tell her, but I don't want to hurt her feelings (even though I know that's going to be inevitable). How do I break it to her kindly? Or is that a bad idea?

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  • Anonymous
    3 years ago

    Tell her. even though it may upset her.

  • 3 years ago

    Yes you should tell her

  • n2mama
    Lv 7
    3 years ago

    So the short answer is yes, you should tell her, in as gentle a way as you can. If she is overweight, it is possible that when she showers she doesn't get all the skin folds and the areas in between clean, because she quite simply can't reach those areas. And that can get NASTY. Her diet isn't your concern, and I would not recommend mentioning that at all. But you are correct that telling her is not going to go over well, and you could lose a friend over it.

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