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Have I done something wrong?
So I gave someone a birthday card and wished them happy birthday in person. Now they've told me they're upset because I didn't wish them happy birthday over Facebook and I feel bad for upsetting them but here's the thing - should I feel bad?
Perhaps I'm old fashioned but I'd rather have someone see me in person, or even ring me, rather than post some generic 'happy birthday' message over social media, but of course not everyone feels the same. I mean, is social media really that important nowadays? I feel slightly angry that they'd even bring this up to me. Is it selfish to ask for birthday wishes? Or have I just been narrow minded?
I'm not gonna tell you what relationship I have with the birthday person but I'll give you a small hint: we're related. Does that change anything?
Gimme some opinions.
3 Answers
- Anonymous3 years ago
Do not feel bad. she is a jerk
- JanetLv 73 years ago
No, you shouldn't feel bad.
We have control only what WE do, and we have NO control over how the other person handles that information.
What you did was kind, respectful, and it acknowledged that they had a birthday. If they don't like it that is THEIR problem. It wasn't like you went out of your way to kick them in the balls or something equally painful.
Yes, you did what YOU would like done for you. That is how we love others. We cannot read their mind, so we cannot love them they way THEY want to be loved. And it takes a certain amount of security and kindness - a certain largesse of spirit - to accept how others love us.
