Is it normal to talk to your opposite-sex sibling about your love life as adults?

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I'm 24 and my only brother is 27. We were really close as teenagers because we were homeschooled by our religious parents and we didn't have any other siblings. He moved out last year and we just haven't been bothering to make time to call each other and I miss him. I recently realized that I'm a lesbian and I've been dating some girls and I just wanna tell him what's going on with me. I think he's gonna be accepting and I feel like he's the only person who's gonna understand the damage our mother did to my developing sense of self-love. I think we're closer than most brothers and sisters, but we also might be less close because topics like sexuality were just not discussed in our household so we missed out on having a healthy development on some things. Obviously, it's between him and me whatever topics we're comfortable with, but I was wondering how much normal siblings talk about this. Like not that anybody's "normal" per se, but I think my family definitely falls at one end of the bell-shaped curve.

Elle · Answer

I talk to my brother about my sex life, but keep it very vague. Don't go into detail.

reme_1 · Answer

I hate religion; it destroys, not heals. And I find homeschooling for teenagers close to imprisonment and torture. How are you supposed to learn to deal with other people if you don't participate in a public school and extracurricular activities. Not just your mother but all parents who do this to their kids-  you are terrible parents!!!

Back to your situation. All you can do is bring up the idea that you need to share more with him because he is your only sibling. I wish you the best in this.

You might want to get some info from the gay center regarding religion and being LGBT. IT might help him understand that you can be a healthy happy gay person EVEN if you came from a religious home.

My concern is how you will tell your mother. If you plan to, contact PFLAG.org first. They are wonderful world wide support group of parents, families with LGBT kids. They reach out to other parents who are having trouble dealing with the idea that their kid isn't straight. (A mom started this group in '72 after she marched in the first gay parade in SF.) Anyway it is a great group and they will call parents. The group is made up of all religions so they can help your mom deal with this.

HUGS from  SENIOR lesbian

Anonymous · Answer

You are aware that the reason the homosexuals took up their negative slang of "gay" is because they are the most depressed and Highest group/ones that do kill themselves? 
Without GOD, none can feel any LOVE in their lives!  Is this the way you really want to go?

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Is it normal to talk to your opposite-sex sibling about your love life as adults?

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