I need advice; I started a new job and theres a guy there that really likes me. Hes not on my team but he makes excuse to come ask me a ques?

Smile very sweetly, see how he responds

But, accept that he may simply wish to be friendly with you and the othe girl....with no romantic aim either way. Or he may prefer her. You cannot change him...but you can chsnge your attitude towards life.

Never a good idea to get involved with someone at work. It creates too much drama. You seem awfully jealous. He has the right to talk to anyone he wants to.

Look, just because he Likes you does not mean he "likes you" likes you. Do not make the mistake of this person being friendly at the office for good office relationship as being he wants to be "more than friends". Just because he gives you nice body language is not at all the same as wanting to be "more than friends". Just accept this person as being nice to you at the office for a good office working relationship, and let the rest of it go. So he looks at you, so what? Try treating him as a fellow human being on the planet and in the office and stop preening like a hen trying to attract a rooster. Put your head in the working office game and get back to work.

Do NOT get involved with a co-workers.

If he REALLY likes you, he will quit his job, go work somewhere else and then ask you out.

Liking you is NO predictor of something developing between the two of you, nor of you not ending up heartbroken BUT still having to see him every day.

Work is not a dating site.

You are there to do your job not find a husband or win a popularity contest.

Live YOUR life after work hours and leave your work out of your personal life. If you have ANY common sense or desire to be happy.

You deserve a guy that really wants you and I've learned the hard way, it's messy trying to get involved with a coworker or manager.

Well yesterday, a woman who led me on or changed her mind about me, had the nerve to tell me, "I've always been nice to you" and "I've never done anything wrong to you."

What she's said to me was a flat out lie which is how come I lost my cool and cursed her out (I didn't threaten her or break anything).

This woman and I used to flirt as I've had my hands on her hair and her body and we've hugged.

She told me to my face that she liked me and liked talking to me.

I met her back in June of last year.

We didn't start talking until last July though.

I would sit to talk to her and would walk to talk to her.

I brought up the topic with her of going on a date.

I can't say I wanted her as a girlfriend because I've had toxic ex girlfriends and have been led on and rejected but since we were flirting, I thought I'd at least ask her out.

We STILL haven't gone on a date.

When she gave me her cell # this past September, she told me that I wouldn't be bothering her whenever I'd text her. I've never actually called her up as I'm not into talking on the phone and I've never left her voicemails.

Fast forward to now, she won't sit down to talk to me and won't walk to talk with me.

She'll blow off some of my text messages and not reply back to me and not even apologize for not getting back to me.

I was nice and sweet enough to surprise her with birthday presents last October when I didn't have to and wrote how I felt about her in a birthday card.

I have to talk to her still unfortunately.

Why? She's one of my direct supervisors.

I ignored her at work since seeing her just made me mad today and she got all defensive over me ignoring her.

I ended up cursing her out which I shouldn't have done.

I'm not a person who just blows up at anybody like you really have to be truly messed up to me to make me blow up at you.

I just cursed her out. I didn't threaten her or break anything at work.

I got written up and suspended. I go back to work next Tuesday.

It's easier to talk to her older sister who is my other direct supervisor too than it is with her.

I can't have an honest conversation anymore before I ended up ignoring her today and blowing up at her.

In my past, I've had an ex girlfriend who ended up dumping me through text messages and another woman who led me on, tell me they were a "good person."

If she had dropped the subject about me ignoring her today or just at least approached me gently about me why I was ignoring her, I wouldn't have blown up at her.

I blew up at her and her sister.

They gave me Christmas gifts last week although I suspect it was her sister who got them since it was her sister who gave me them to me (a big box of baklava and other sweets).

Now when I see her again next week at work, I really have to talk to her.

You don't want a guy who cares to talk to another woman besides you especially a guy you work with.

I hope that I've helped answer your question and take care of yourself. I mean it. ~Alan