My bf will push away then expect me to do things later. This is when I’m dressed and also not dressed so that don’t make sense?

You deserve better.

Time to let him go

Get rid of a guy who calls you names and cusses at you when you won't "service" him. That's ridiculous and extremely unattractive behavior. Just don't put up with it . You weren't put on this planet with the purpose to make sure your bf received sexual contentment on demand or you get treated badly. That's NOT your purpose! How is he worth the wonder of you? Seriously. How is he worth that?

Move on. He does not consider you an equal, and does not respect your free will. You can do better, so why waste any more time on him?

He is playing a game, but it is probably not a conscious game.

But it is toxic and will cause a slow painful death of the relationship.

Talk with him about this.

If he doesn't understand, change, or is not willing to work WITH you or even CARE about your feelings .... break up. And do NOT get back with him.

Just because someone is willing to be your bf doesn't mean you SHOULD be with them.