My 17 year old daughter was sleeping with a guy in his 40s. But the age of consent is 17 in our state. So that means i cant call the cops?

If that's the case you are correct.

No, you can call the police, also tell everyone in the neighbourhood, i would put up posters of the guy, he is a pedophile, nasty man.

Lucky guy. If she still lives with you, you can kick her out.

(1)

If the man is a decent guy you shouldn’t have a problem.

In my 40’s I slept with a few girls in their early 20’s.

The relationships were short-lived but we got what we

wanted out of it which was a good, and sometimes not

good, sexual experience from it.

These girls were done no harm; they suffered no damage.

These were all just experiences.

(2)

It’s part of the realm of trial and error and you should allow

your daughter to go through it as long as the man doesn’t

do anything violent.

Even if she is hurt emotionally you should allow it. It is the

only way to figure out which relationships are good for her.

Not everybody wants to meet one nice person and to remain

with that person forever.

There is the trail and error phase and many people wish t go

through it. Just be there for her if she ever needs your

emotional support.

(3)

Finally when I was 17 there were women in their 40’s whom

I found attractive.

They didn’t want me but if I had become involved with any of

them I sure would not have tolerated anybody telling me that

I must stay away from them.

You can’t tell people who they should like.

You can't but you could call a hit man.

Correct.

Ground her...she's 17

Yes that's correct.

I don't think it's appropriate either, but if your daughter is making an adult decision to sleep with another adult, then you're stuck having to accept her choice.

Personally I'd be annoyed enough to check whether he's feeding her drugs or alcohol, because that's something the cops can do something about. However if you call the cops upon the premises, then she can be arrested too, which you don't want.

Perhaps use that as leverage and also pay him to leave her alone.

Your daughter could end up resenting you, but it has to be a better scenario than her being with someone way too old for her. All round it's a difficult situation.

I'd even consider having a private investigator check into his background. Any sexual misconduct or illegal activities can be used as leverage.

just ignore them and he will go away. if u criticise him to daughter etc she will stay with him

You should probably check those consent laws again. Typically, if one person is under the age of 18, there's a limit for the age difference between themselves and their partner.