My boyfriend called another girl i know attractive when i asked him if he found anybody else attractive at my school is that bad?

oh school is so much fun.

So? I point out good looking people meaning boys and girls to my boyfriend and I’m a straight girl all the time. We have eyes , we are going to look. Finding someone attractive doesn’t mean you’re going to pursue them. If you’re that controlling to the point where you have a problem with your boyfriend looking, your relationship isn’t going to work

Well you did ask the question and he gave you the answer, probably not the answer you were looking for.

Everybody finds other people attractive, I’m married and I’ve been with my husband over 5 years and we tell each other who we find attractive and sometimes we drool over the same person haha. But that’s okay because it’s human nature, as long as he never acts on those feelings that that’s normal. Also just because he finds this girl attractive does not mean he finds her MORE attractive than you. I find a lot of people attractive as does my husband but at the end of the day I find him the most attractive than anybody because I love every single part of him.

Have you found anybody else attractive whilst being in this relationship ? I’m sure the answer to that would be yes. And that’s okay, as long as it’s just that.

Also I’d like to point out that just because you find someone good looking does not mean that you’ll like their personality or be compatible so it’s not always about looks.

How many damn times did I type the word ‘attractive’ in that message ^ 😂

He probably just wants to **** you and use you, you're more of a material not a people person to him, he may not literally say so but he'll act what his true colors are, this is the indication that he just isn't authentically being with you, he takes it causally.

No, its not like he said it randomly or out of the blue. You asked him and he gave you an honest answer, so let it go at that.

Maybe take up Jiujitsu?

Its okay to find other people attractive. Part of being in a relationship is knowing that yeah your boyfriend might find other people attractive but he finds you to be the most attractive of them all. Don't think for one minute that you aren't guilty of the same thing, it isn't a crime, its biological. I am attracted to tons of other people, not just my boyfriend. In fact, instead of being worried about it, make a game out of it. My boyfriend and I share a tinder account where we sit down on the couch together and swipe through people, talking about what we think of them and stuff. We know we will never cheat on one another, and we know that we will never meet the people we swipe right on but its fun for us to do things like that. Your boyfriend may find another girl attractive, but she isn't one the one he asked to be his, is she?

Well it is possible to find other people attractive if you are in a relationship. It doesn’t mean anything beyond finding other people attractive.

Next time, don’t hand out sticks to beat yourself with if you may not be happy with the answer. What were you expecting?

If you ask the question I should hope he would answer honestly. He's going to be attracted to other people and that's okay as long as he doesn't act on it.