as a senior citizen what does one do when her spouse has died and she is alone? all my dreams and the future I planned towards have died?

You don't feel like it, but you move on! You don't want to see people, but YOU MUST go out and meet new people, and socialize. I didn't feel like it, but my first two (over 60) dates initiated sex on the first date. This was a return to a previous era for me. Returning to the world is necessary. Things are different now. It's up to you to help yourself. It's actually a chance to improve yourself and your life. DO NOT sit round feeling sorry for yourself. They call this "mourning". It's counter productive. You need to move physically, and DO things. No matter how much you don't want to. Try to avoid religion. They will try to get your money and will encourage unhealthy inactivity. Like praying and reading, instead of DOING.

I am a widower for almost 3 years now.I am 80 and home alone.

I want to stay in my house and not move into an apartment or nursing home.

I am scared alone,especially at night.I would like to have a woman again.

I put my trust in Jesus Christ my Saviour.

volunteer for some charity, get out of the house and do things, keep your mind busy and active, i am very sorry for your loss, may godbless you x.

Change as little as possible in the early days. Don't move house immediately and, once you have had time to grieve, give a lot of thought to any changes you might wish to make to your life, who you'll visit, what you'll buy, whether you'll have a holiday or redecorate the house etc. Don't be tempted to do everything that your loving and caring relatives might want you to do. Only you know how you feel but they might think that they know better about what would help you - they don't but they'll mean well.

Get help from a good friend or relative regarding downsizing, giving things away etc. Unless the house needs to be vacated very soon you don't need to rush with anything.

As for dreams for the future having died - I'm afraid that this happens in many ways -not just to a person who is recently bereaved. All I can suggest is to not rush anything that does not have to be rushed and accept all the help that near friends and relatives will offer but don't allow anyone to take over and make decisions for you.

I believe the best thing to do is not set and mope. Get out and visit with other seniors. Listening to their problems will diminish the pain of your own.

I guess, focus on yourself, and your children and grandchildren, knowing that one day, you will be re-united in the spiritual plane of heaven

That happened to me 1 1/2 yrs. ago. You feel in limbo and nothing has meaning and you have lost your entire future. It is very difficult. I spoke to a psychologist, two grief groups, two clergy members and received some writings on the subject and a lot of remembering kept my mind occupied. It is over a year and I havent started again. Just living off the old memories. It helps if one has grandchildren and children.

There are many rewarding projects just waiting for you to do.

Genealogy

Family History

Plant flowers and greenery indoors

Play online checkers

Get a pet

Go on walks in the park

Learn to play an instrument

Join a senior citizens group

Write letters to relatives

Go to church

Put the TV in the dumpster, spend your time doing things, not watching others

It’s a part of life, and you’ll find several people in your position by reaching out. Enroll in a local gym, learn a new hobby, or engage in an interest you’ve had or would like to explore through classes in your area, and you’ll meet others. Volunteerism is the best thing going.

Start your new life. Pray for God's will and direction. Be optimistic. Your hubby wouldn't want you to be miserable for the rest of your life. Look up Philippians 4:6-8. It will take a little while to readjust but your life is not over. It's just a new chapter.

P.S. My condolences.

And there's the issue with planning your future based solely on your spouse. Now you must revise your plans to fit your status. And how you do that only you can decide because we have no clue who or what you are.