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Planning on moving out on my own and leaving my brother behind to fend for himself. Is this wrong?

Hello, I've been living in shared apartment for 5 years now and one of my roommates is my brother. But I this past 5 years I have grown disdain and resentment towards him.

He's never supported in my long journey to achieve my dream job saying that I should give up and go work somewhere else like McDonalds or be a janitor or a job picking up animal droppings in the park. I told him and everyone else "No, I can't and won't see myself doing anything else" I kept paying the rent by doing freelance computer jobs. For more context, He is a graphic designer major in college and he works for Amazon delivery from a job that the government got him in a job placement program. where he makes less than minimum wage. I on the other hand wants more and aimed higher, I applied for jobs the right way and though it took 4 years, I finally got my dream job.

He tries to physically harm me whenever he loses an argument. Not a fan of his personal disgusting habits.

Pretty much I'm tried of this roommate stuff tbh. I'm tried of sharing my space with a revolving door of strangers, I'm tired of being told what to do when I want to relax from work. But the problem is when I tell people this, they say no, "Don't leave him behind" "You guys should stick together" etc But he brags about his Amazon job even though he makes money to rent a shared room but I make enough to get a 2 bedroom but I only want one. So I figured he'll be fine.

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  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    The only thing that matters in that litany of complaints is that he's tried to physically harm you. In which case you of course move out.

  • 2 years ago

    i dont blarne you, if hes hurting you you should tell the police on hirn

  • 2 years ago

    Ultimately, you are not responsible for your brother, his life and his choices, and there is no obligation for you to remain where you are or suggest he join you in your new living situation. This does not suggest you love him less or you do not care, but you can choose to live your life in a way that makes sense and feels right for you. A family relationship is not an automatic pass for someone's detrimental behavior, and your own emotional, mental and physical wellbeing is paramount for you.

  • ,
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    According to your previous posts, you've been having trouble with your brother for at least two years. You know you should move out but my guess is - you'll never do it.

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  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    He WILL be fine, I assure you. As a matter of fact, you will see a tremendous improvent in your relationship.

  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    Get out of there. You and your brother are toxic for each other.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    if you have your dream job--and your brother's a PITA--then go get your own apartment=problem solved.

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