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tae♥
Lv 4
tae♥ asked in Social SciencePsychology · 2 years ago

How to “fake” confidence?

I find myself fretting about looks, 24/7. Literally every day, no exaggeration. I have 0 self confidence. People do tell me I’m attractive and that I shouldn’t feel the way do and how I’m too hard on myself, but the person I see in pictures is hideous. The girls that I think are attractive are truly attractive, no question. A stranger could see that they feel good about themselves, because they have a reason to because they’re actually attractive women. I want to “fake it until I make it” when it comes to building my confidence. I don’t have any friends, and that takes a toll on me and my self esteem. I have a boyfriend, but the way he treats me makes me feel like I’m undeserving of the nice gestures other girls receive from their boyfriends. I JUST WANT TO WAKE UP ONE DAY AND STOP HATING WHO I AM. Please help.

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  • Ana
    Lv 6
    2 years ago
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    Why do you hate yourself because you’re not attractive? There’s a lot more to a person then whether you’re attractive or not. For example, if you’re Christian like I am, you believe that God loves you no matter what, and especially God is happy if you follow his commandments and live a godly life.

    Also, people like Albert Einstein, Nicola Tesla or Stephen Hawking are ugly, but they have greatly improved humanity and created technology and mathematical advancements that have helped humankind enormously!

    You should probably focus more on other things that make people valuable, and stop obsessing about your sex appeal. If you actually focus on other stuff, then you will improve yourself as a person and also learn to love yourself more

    Last but not least, you should focus on helping other people more than you do about obsessing on yourself. All of the people I mentioned above were selfless. They were people that cared about their friends, family, community, country, and humankind.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    good question_!

  • Andy C
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    You can't. Get professional help with your body image issues. The cure isn't going to suddenly appear tomorrow or the next day.

  • You walk with your chin up and you never look at the ground while you walk; never avoid looking people in the eyes, if anything try to make eye contact with everyone you meet or pass by, be aware of your body so that you don’t fall into fidgeting habits (as fidgeting around does not promote confidence), walk with a little sway to your hips. When you talk to people, allow yourself to talk to them as if you’ve already known them for years (as in, don’t act awkward and nervous, confident people can talk to anybody). It personally helps me when I dress up in something I think is cute and practice this while I’m out and about.

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