Should I stay together with my girlfriend?

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So me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year now and we just got back from college about a month ago (we’re both 20). We dont go to the same college, so we see most of eachother at hom. So far, the summer hasnt been going too well and after a long, painful talk, we decided we should take some time apart (basically breaking up). But the day after we decided that, we were discussing staying together but she was rushing me into a decision and i told her we needed a little bit more time to truly know what we want to do. So a couple hours after that conversation, I decided i wanted to be with her. I went out to the store, wrote her a card and got her favorite candy. I drove to her dads house(both of our parents are divorced btw) she wasnt there. I drove 40 more minutes to her moms house, she wasnt there (i did these things without her knowing). So then I texted her asking where she was and she was staying at her moms bfs house. I told her about what i did and she was really happy and we were gojng to get back tg. But then she told me she had done something. It might not seem that bad but, she started talking to other guys via snapchat only a couple of hours after we decided to take a little bit of time to think. She was talking to a guy who she would always flirt with when we first started dating and multiple others. This really broke my heart and i need some real advice on whether i should give her a chance, or end it. Please help me out id really appreciate it.

seedy history · Accepted Answer

Sounds like breaking up was the right thing to do. Then you panicked over it and over compensated. And, in the meantime, she panicked over it too and decided she needed immediate male attention to soothe her ego and had candidates at the ready.

Gals who react that way.. react that way. Keep that in mind.

bubula · Answer

My guess is that your initial instinct was correct--this relationship has run its course. Her rushing you toward a decision could indicate her eagerness to move on, which she did, promptly.
Relationships at this stage of life are often volatile and shouldn't be expected to last. You're both changing rapidly, and being in different college environments, there's little chance these changes are going to overlap. Be forgiving of her and yourself. Move on.
Best of luck.

NewBeginnings · Answer

There are some factors to consider. Why has the summer not been going well with you two? Why was she rushing you to decide? It sounds a bit fishy, like she was hoping for a break up so she could talk to to other guys, and that's maybe why she was rushing you to make a decision. I'd be careful, because it sounds like she's thinking about dating other guys.

♠ Merlin ♠ · Answer

I'm not sure I am buying the "she started speaking to guys within a couple of hours of breaking up"
Sounds like this has been going on long before this and seeing you and instigating a break, and pushing for a decision was just wrapping up lose ends
For her, it was already over, long before this

lost · Answer

she's a hoe bro you cant turn a hoe into a house wife bro rule number 1

also I did read your whole long as$ thing

nd omfg you stayed with her even though she was flirting with other guys bro where is back bone grow a pair and leave this hoe

sincerely you're guy friend

UPDATE is she was not a hoe why are you not talking to other girls to because you not a hoe like her that's why

UPDATE no bro she's a hoe iv dated hoes I think a hoe when I see one

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