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Should I stop accepting rides if he makes me uncomfortable?
I had this friend that’s been driving me to school, he asked me out during the summer and I said no, so far it was good until today. He was holding my hand in the car which I don’t mind, me and my other female friends do it all the time, but today while waiting to leave he was with his friends and I joined them because he said he’d drive me home after, and he came up to me and started kissing my neck. I was very obviously uncomfortable but that didn’t stop him and I didn’t wanna say anything because we were with his friends and I really needed that ride (my house is a couple of miles away). The entire time I was just slightly etching myself away from him. Our friend group has had this problem before and he knows it. Should I start walking home? Bus is not an option, I only have one class.
7 Answers
- ?Lv 72 years ago
Yes, you need to distance yourself immediately. You're sending this guy mixed messages by declining his dates yet also letting him drive you around and hold your hand.
- ?Lv 72 years ago
Honestly, you're not too bright or totally naive. You let him hold your hand! A girl who isn't interested in a guy romantically isn't going to hold hands with him. It's NOT NORMAL to be holding hands with a guy who is driving you to school who is also a guy you're not interested in going out with. It's just not. I can't even understand why you think it is.
Holding hands with this guy has given him the message that you're interested in him. It REALLY IS.
And you said you didn't want to say anything when you were uncomfortable about him kissing your neck. You need to get ASSERTIVE with guys and tell them "that's uncomfortable STOP it" when you're not comfortable. Why are you so passive? You have EVERY RIGHT to come out and say what you feel. Why are you putting yourself into uncomfortable situations and then saying nothing about them?
You weren't etching yourself away from anything by holding his hand. You were ENCOURAGING the guy when you held his hand.
Stop being stupid. Be assertive. Say NO when you mean no and when you're not comfortable. Might as well start now because you're going to meet a lot of other creepers in your life.
And you're ALLOWED to say NO.
- ?Lv 62 years ago
A girl riding in a guy's car always has the sexual connotation. You make it sound like he is a player and is not serious and the situation has no future, and you have no interest. If you don't want it, then don't get in the car. There is no middle ground here. The more you ride in his car, the more he expects. And that you are just playing hard to get. Which will only make him ignore any negative signals you send.
- Anonymous2 years ago
If you continue, one day they will find you with your panties around your ankles and a knife in your bosom. Knock it off !
- ?Lv 62 years ago
YUP... stop accepting rides from him. Stop letting him hold your hand. You are sending him mixed messages. Find your ride somewhere else or start walking.
- ?Lv 52 years ago
Why not just tell him you're not interested in him that way. By not saying anything or not pushing him away, he thinks you like it and that his behavior is acceptable. You probably should not be in a car alone with him.
