My wife never makes me coffee?

If this bothers you just stop making her tea. I've been married a long time and I don't think I've ever served my spouse coffee (nor has he served me).

I don't understand it ether. It seems that, if you are making the effort, the same effort should be made in response.

Is she like this in other aspects of your lives together? Does she expect a whole lot more than she gives to the relationship, to you? If so, that does need to be addressed. Be prepared for some resistance to any change since she has gotten away with this for so long. That is not to say it can't be changed, just don't expect an instant one.

Or is her way of showing you love just different from yours? Does she show her love in other ways? Are you two just miscommunicating what is important to you? Then all that may be needed is a frank discussion of what you BOTH want an need from the other.

It's not her job to make you coffee.

Does she put out ?

If she does stop moaning.

Make it yourself, lazy troll.

You’ve been married many years and if that is the only thing that is bothering you, it is really not so bad. You’ve put up with that all this time and you’ve been making coffee and tea for her. She is now used to you making it. I am sure that she does many things for you, always. Vacuum cleaning, washing, ironing, cooking to guess ? Try not to overthink it and see it as something you do for her because you love her. You are spoiling her in this little way and she loves that. But if you think it is causing a real problem and a rift between you, why not sitting down and communicate the issue. Suggesting that you take turns for instance of you bring her coffee during the week and she does it in the weekends. But try to be reasonable . Doing special things for each other makes a marriage stronger . You don’t have to count equal kind acts. Giving is a good thing and brings a lot of happiness in a relationship

... I don't see the problem here. You're upset because she won't make and bring you coffee? No offence, but it's not her job. Your choice to bring her coffee and tea are just that. Your choice. You're choosing to be nice. She's choosing to do her own thing. If you don't like it, talk to her about instead of complaining on YA.

Make coffee for yourself. Maybe she doesn't like coffee?