How to tell my mom about my online boyfriend?

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OK so here's the backstory. I met him about 2 years ago online and we have been an official couple for a bit over a year now. We met in a game, and he is from a different country entirely which is what makes telling my mom even harder. We voice call each other every day for hours, we have been on video call multiple times. His whole family knows about me but I am too much of a coward to tell mine. He has even introduced me to his niece on video call. Also a few months ago I actually met up with him. I went on a trip to his country and we met up, and stayed together for 2 weeks, actually lived together just the two of us for 2 weeks! Everything was really good together, and he even introduced me to his mom. It was her birthday during my time there and he went to go see her and took me to meet her as well. Everything was going so well and then I had to come back and we are back to just calling each other everyday. Oh right, our ages. I am 23 and he is 29, so we aren't teenagers or anything, that being said, it is a 6yr age difference.... but guys mature slowly compared to girls anyway right? :)
Anyway, I am confounded about telling my mom about him because of the distance issue, and also because it is frowned upon in my culture to be with someone outside our culture. That being said, I love him and don't care about the culture thing. And to be clear, I'm not asking IF I should tell, I just wanna know opinions about HOW I should tell my mom. All advice is appreciated!

Jerry · Accepted Answer

It's very difficult to say; too many unknowns regarding your culture, his culture and what country he's from.  Does your mom suspect why you went to that country?  Without knowing how ingrained in your cultural norms your mother is, it's a difficult call.  It sounds like you and he are more than a casual item...  Has he asked to marry you?  Is that what you're hoping for or want?  Is it love, infatuation, lust?  All of which are OK, as long as YOU'RE honest with yourself about it...    Seems you'd have to approach it deftly, gently, and in such a way as she sees where you're leading.  The age difference, is a moot point.  Are you prepared to stand up and defend the relationship to her if she's dead set against it? Why?  Why not?  I'm with you, if it's right and you know it, and it's what you both want, go for it.  You're both adults, seems his family approves of the relationship - that's a very positive thing.  Would your mom travel with you to that country to meet his mother??  Would they talk via video call?  Lots of variables, and I don't know enough other than to point out possibilities.  Hope it works out for you!!

Anonymous · Answer

You’re probably the same person who asked whether it’s possible for a 23-year-old female to be more mature than a 29-year-old male.

Hypothetically speaking, the way one should finally tell mom is to start with the two week visit. Get that out there immediately. Then when asked, explain how you met,

Linda · Answer

Take your mom for coffee or lunch and tell her about him and explain how much you care about him.

? · Answer

There aren't good or bad ways to tell them, you just bite the bullet and do it.
That's if you want to of course, since you are legally a grown adult and don't need their permission or approval.

Mai lin wong china republic · Answer

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