Is it crazy to leave my family and move to another country for a boy?

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I met boy boyfriend online through a game, we have known each other for 2 years, and been together in a relationship for a bit over a year. We talk on the phone everyday, I am from the US and he is from Australia. I traveled there and met him in person a few months ago and stayed with him for 2 weeks. I even met his mother during my time there. We get along really well together and I love him. I an not happy in the US right now. I pushed my friends away a couple years back when my dad passed away and became more of a loner, i got no decent job, so I don't really see much holding me back here. Only thing would be my family who don't even know about him. His family knows about me but i haven't told mine yet because they expect me to be with a guy from my culture and wouldn't approve. Am I crazy for considering moving to be with him?considering I'm not happy where i am and I think I will be happy with him

Update:

Also we we both in our 20s if that makes any difference

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You're an adult. You have to make your own decisions. The only advice is to assure you have the financial and legal ability to move to Australia. It's not like you can just land there, get an apartment, and find a job. You're not even engaged to be married. You can visit, but immigration has laws.

choko_canyon · Answer

It's not 'crazy', but it might be a foolish move to make considering how relatively little you actually know each other. You've spent 2 weeks with him. Do you really think that is the same as being in a real-life romantic relationship? It's not. Consider carefully. Move slowly.

Anonymous · Answer

It would be crazy not to....good luck to you !!!!

? · Answer

This is a very very hard decision and one only you can make ultimately.   I know of several girls in your situation and had "gaming" bfs over long distances.   None of them worked out.   Three out of four had VERY serious issues:  anger management, stalking, death threats, etc - ugly stuff.

So - from where I sit - no I would not cut and run.  There is truth to the adage that the "grass always seems greener" with the operative word being "seems."

Although from you description it sounds like you might be accepted on his end - imagine the pain you will cause (not to mention the surprise) for your family.

Further - it sounds as though you need to work on you frist honestly.  FRom what you wrote, you may be depressed after the death of you dad and are not seeing things clearly.  While I am profoundly and sincerely sorry for your loss, I can only think of the young man you want to run to:  HE deserves the best you can give him.... and running away from things without dealing with them is a disservice to yourself and to him.

Respectfully suggest you focus on healing the hurts in youir heart and soul first.  Seek a licenced therapist for help if need be.   The stronger you are personally, the better your future will be with him or any guy.   IF he is truly "the one" he will be supportive and will wait.

LOTS for you to consider... take all the time you need.... the additional hurts you will create in your family will make it tough to come home if things don't work out down under.   Be certain you go with the best shot of success and be sure to tell your family before you do..... hard as it will be, it is the right thing to do.

Good luck.  Best wishes.

drip · Answer

You can not just pack and move to another country.  There are immigration laws and visas.
Have you checked in to that at all?

Student visa requires you to be accepted to a university and proof of funds to attend

Family visa. Have family that lives in Australia

Work visa   Have a job lined up wiht an employer whose will sponsor your visa.

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