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My girlfriend rarely compliments me. What do I do?

So while me and her were at “talking stage”, she made it clear to me that she sometimes has a hard time showing affection and doesn’t know how to compliment me but she reassured me that it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like me or whatever.

I thought that wouldn’t be a problem because i know that she loves me however sometimes it’s just a bit frustrating because i regularly compliment her and make her feel good about herself and sometimes i would like if it would be reciprocated. I know that she still loves me but it’s still nice to have that bit of reassurance.

I don’t know if i should talk to her about it because at that point i feel like the compliments would just be forced and i would be able to tell when it’s forced so i don’t know what to do

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  • 7 months ago
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    You have to be careful with how you approach this when you talk to her about it, but yes, definitely talk to her about it because she may have no idea she isnt doing that enough for you. Simply bringing it to her attention will help because she will be aware this is something you need from her. So I would say something to her like, "Hey if Im wearing something you like or look good one day I would really appreciate you telling me that so that I know its what you like. It makes me feel good when you compliment me, I love hearing you say X Y and Z." Whenever she actually does it on her own, you need to thank her for it and reinforce that behavior like as if you would teach an animal.

    Im saying this from experience because a guy I dated said he felt like I never appreciated where he would take me. I thought I was making it clear that I loved where he was taking me because I was commenting on everything and smiling and enjoying being there but he needed to hear me say "I appreciate you taking me here" directly. I had no idea.

  • Anonymous
    7 months ago

    Find a new GF, if after all this time, she should be able to say something nice. She has a mental illness if she cannot even say anything nice or even, I love you.  Move on,

  • 7 months ago

    Listen to her heart beats to understand the Magic. Play the music to make her happy. Her smile would be a compliment to you.

  • 28AKO
    Lv 5
    7 months ago

    Discuss it with her. 

    She has to learn everything isn't about her and acknowledge others. It's not going to work out if u have to constantly remind her to compliment you

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