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Nothing In Common With My Friend?
I connected with this woman a couple of years ago, as we both run and at first we really got along well and she was very inspiring - she was supposed to run a marathon and she was a great support for me as I was taking on more races.
The past year, however, following an injury she had, she isn't really running much and we don't connect on that level any more.
I invited her to come out with me at least walking and doing something recreational. I also love to bike, and she hates biking.
The ONLY things she's into are knitting and if she gets together now, all she wants to do is sit somewhere and drink for 4-5 hours (this is all we've done together the past few times we hung out).
Even though she runs a bit, I run more often and longer distances and it's not something she wants to do together.
I feel like we're not really all that compatible. She's fun to hang out with and she's a great person, but I can't share my hobbies or things in common with her. It would be a shame to let the friendship go, but I don't feel motivated by her and I don't feel like we can really enjoy time together.
Any ideas or how to tell her I'd rather do other things than get drunk for hours sitting somewhere?
2 Answers
- Dr. StephanieLv 76 months agoFavorite Answer
You don't have to have an "either - or" situation here, you can still be friends with her, just tell her you aren't into the drinking scene, and make plans to do something else with her, as long as you both are practicing safe distances, masks, meeting outdoors, hand washing, because of the pandemic. And do you know how else she may be exposing herself? If she goes to bars and lingers, if she goes to parties, etc, if she hangs out with others who can communicate covid, then, i would avoid being in person with her altogether. Its not the running, its the health practices that are important here.
- chris nLv 76 months ago
Don't say that to her. Just be unavailable when she wants to meet up for drinks. You don't have to stay for that long anyway if you do meet her. Tell her you aren't drinking because of the running you do. Be out practising for a marathon when she wants to meet up. Use your imagination for a white lie to her. Contact her now and then and invite her out for lunch or a coffee or something that isn't going to be solely booze and cost an arm and a leg. A couple of hours over lunch with a beer or two would be ample.
