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My best friend is pregnant and her boyfriend is a flake and they are woefully unprepared. Generally my role for my friend has always been her primary support person (emotional, financial, informational, moral) and mentor. When her boyfriend bails, because I'm certain he will I want to know as much as possible.

I know this is an impossible question because I dont even know for certain what she's going to do. I just know that I'm going to end up being her strength and probably a parent figure to this child before its over. I guess I'm mostly just nervous. I guess I'm just looking for any advice you can give.

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  • Anonymous
    5 months ago

    You need to learn how to set appropriate boundaries with your friend.   You aren't "helping" her.   You're enabling her to continue being a moron.

  • LizB
    Lv 7
    5 months ago

    Uh... your friend's pregnancy is her problem to figure out, and the fact that she relies on you so much for everything is really unhealthy. You cannot protect her from her bad choices or unfortunate life snafus, and doing so continually is actually enabling her to continue to not stand on her own two feet. By being her "primary support person," you're helping her avoid taking basic adult responsibility for her own life.

    If your friend is so incapable and incompetent at functioning in life that you really think YOU might end up parenting her child, then frankly she needs to place that baby for adoption. She has no business trying to be a parent when she can't even take care of herself. 

    STOP. ENABLING. Also please read these articles about enabling and co-dependency:

    https://www.asktheinternettherapist.com/blog/who-a...

    https://sharonmartincounseling.com/understanding-c...

    https://family-intervention.com/blog/what-is-codep...

    You'll see references to "partner," but codependency is not limited to romantic relationships. It happens within family relationships and friendships, too.

  • 5 months ago

    Whether or not he bails, he will be financially responsible for his child. Your friend will have to go to court to get child support established.

    If she does not have insurance, she may qualify for pregnancy Medicaid.

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