What is the difference between jealous and territorial in the relationship?

They amount to the same thing. You want to own and control the other person.

You may be jealous of the attention your loved ones give to others, but in a healthy relationship you must trust your partner.

We are meant to love many and do no harm. So in a relationship you will not try to control who your partner can or can't talk to.

Being jealous is not wanting your boyfriend or girlfriend to hang out with his/her ex, another man or another women because you're afraid he/she will cheat.

You’re insecure and you want to hold on to your boyfriend or girlfriend for as long as you can because you know that one day you will lose him/her.

The truth is, you’re right -- but with that attitude, you're most certainly going to.

Being territorial is not wanting your boyfriend or girlfriend to hang out with his/her ex, another man or women because you don't trust his/her ex, the other man or women at all.

You know your boyfriend or girlfriend will remain loyal, but you still don’t like the thought of an ex or someone of the opposite sex trying to get back or get into his/her pants. Are they just friends? You can never really be sure.

Even if you trust your boyfriend or girlfriend, there's no good reason you should trust his/her ex, another man or women. You know what your lover can do in bed… who wouldn’t want to have that again or experience that for the first time?

Being jealous is not wanting anyone to look at your boyfriend or girlfriend in fear that he/she will realize he/she can do better than you.

There are only two reasons a person would have such thoughts: He/she either doesn’t think very highly of him/herself, or he/she knows that he/she could be a better boyfriend or girlfriend.

Whether it’s jealousy or shame doesn’t really matter, because they're just two sides of the same coin.

Being territorial is not wanting other people looking at your boyfriend or girlfriend because you find it to be rude -- you're standing right there, after all.

If you’re not around, you still don’t especially like the thought of it, but if it boosts your lover’s self-esteem, then why protest?

As long as he/she stays faithful, you aren’t too bothered.

Being jealous is hating the idea of your boyfriend or girlfriend socializing without you around.

You’re worried he/she will be flirting with other people and that it might lead to other things happening.

If you find yourself in that situation, then the matter of fact is this: You either have no reason to be jealous or you do have a reason to be jealous.

If you have no reason to be jealous, then you’re just being stupid and allowing your emotions to get the better of you. 

Being territorial is not liking when your boyfriend or girlfriend flirts, but appreciating when he/she takes out his/her sexual energy on you.

Flirting is, more often than not, harmless. If flirting were a guaranteed lay, we’d all be humping like rabbits all the time.

If only it were so easy… So, what would make you think that your boyfriend or girlfriend flirting would guarantee something more?

Flirting in your presence is definitely a no, but flirting on his/her own can really be harmless. Being flirted with makes a person feel good -- why should we refuse ourselves of such a pleasure?

We want to feel wanted and deserve to be reminded that we’re attractive. If your boyfriend or girlfriend loves you, it’s really only the ego seeking the attention -- his/her more conscious self is still in love with you.

Being jealous is not liking your boyfriend or girlfriend hanging out with his/her friends -- even when they're of the same sex.

You’re always worried that someone is going to have guy friends or girl friends over (depending on their sexual preference) and have them over.

You can’t possibly expect to keep your boyfriend or girlfriend away from every single person who's interested in sleeping with them.

If your boyfriend or girlfriend is attractive, then I have some bad news: Every man or women is going to want to sleep with him or her. The question is whether or not you trust him or her.

Being territorial is not wanting your boyfriend or girlfriend to hang out with his/her friends, but knowing that he/she needs space.

We’re human beings -- the majority of us looking for boyfriends or girlfriends. There isn’t a person in the world who wouldn’t have several hundreds of suitors to sleep with him/her -- and you understand this.

You don’t enjoy the thought of others wanting to touch your boyfriend or girlfriend, and will more than likely prefer he/she stay by your side, but you suck it up when it's a matter of having some space.

Being jealous is hating when your boyfriend or girlfriend is anywhere but right by your side.

It’s as if you’re afraid he/she is literally going to get up and run off with someone new -- or maybe just run away from you.

Jealousy is never healthy. It’s fueled by feelings of disappointment, worry and insufficiency. You’re not really even interested in keeping the one you love as you are interested in not losing him/her. It’s loss aversion. You don’t want to feel like a loser.

It’s all about you.

Being territorial is wanting your boyfriend or girlfriend by your side so you can be there for him/her.

They are your special other half -- you will fight tooth and nail to keep them from harm.

You care about them just as much as you care about yourself but, at the same time, you are an egocentric being that wants to possess, at the very least, a part of the person you love.

You aren’t so much afraid of losing them as you are keen to keep hold of them, which is like holding someone hostage.

Your mind isn’t focused on the possibility of loss, but rather on the hope of further connecting with them.