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Child protection services ordering me to leave with my son?
I have been cooperating with my caseworker but my wife hasn't wanted to engage. Over the last 4 days I endured some very terrible verbal and emotional abuse and objects were broken in the home. Some of it was in front of our son. I've caught my wife yelling at my 2.5 year old son to get out as well. Really terrible stuff.
They told me the case is extremely serious and that they support me to leave because if I didn't leave over the weekend, they would be escalating to see if my parents could take over custody of my son.
I have packed my bags and taken everything in the car to work overnight in my night shift and I'm planning to quietly take my son to my parents' home tomorrow morning.
My greatest fear is that she will see the car and go absolutely crazy. I mean smashing the car again crazy. And screaming and standing in front of the car to stop me leaving. Then the police will need to be called and she will be charged or taken away for assessment. I don't want my son traumatised by that.
So pray for me that she stays asleep and I can quietly take him out to the car and into safety.
I'm planning to notify my wife when I get to my parents' home and tell her about the reports and the seriousness of everything. That I'm also willing to work with her if she wants to work with the child protection service for counselling etc.
It has been an issue going for 2 years now since she had an altercation with her mum and smashed up our home. She was also punching me.
Police called by me when that incident happened and she had a violence order put on her for 12 months. A psych report revealed the need for CBT to treat depressive mood disorder and it read like traits of NPD to me...
I listened to the recording of 2018 when she snapped and smashed things and hit me. I wished I hadn't because it was like the trauma came back. I spent several minutes crying, shaking and hyperventilating. It brought back a lot of pain for me :( I will continue to work with tbe counsellor to address this. Especially the possibility that I have been trauma bonded for about a decade to my wife.
5 Answers
- Anonymous4 months ago
Same as every other time you've posted some version of this story - WHAT IS YOUR QUESTION? I'm a social worker. NO child protection service is going to say, "Well, if you don't change something in a couple of days we are relocating your at risk child." Ridiculous. They would be responsible if anything happens to the child between now and then.
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If your version of being a strong father is crying, shaking and hyperventilating, then your child needs to be removed from your care.
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Pray for you? Contact a prayer hotline.
- seedy historyLv 74 months ago
Why don't you just take your son and leave? Seems you are playing a dangerous game. I don't see the point of it.
- 4 months ago
Do what you've got to do. He's young. Hopefully he won't remember by Gods grace. Good Luck xx