what are some good ways to get a guy to notice you?

I used to be in your shoes trying to get the hottie across the room to notice me. It was a very similar situation to yours because it was also at a hangout spot. And I was hopeful the whole year she would notice me. I felt like Jodeci. But I would sit back and observe her all year and she never even noticed. But her friends did notice. They tried to mix and mingle with my group so that we could join groups but it didn't work. She was always there across the room, and I was always there on the other side. I remember the first time I noticed her she was playing ping pong and I looked up and saw her she was chasing down the ball but not aggressively or anything. She was wearing white pants and a carolina blue hoodie. It reminded me of the beach and brought a lot of good feelings. Then she bent over to grab the ping pong ball with most of her hands covered in her hoodie but just the fingers showing in a really shy kind of way she grabbed the ping pong ball. It was by far the most graceful and elegant thing I'd ever witnessed in my entire life, and in that moment I caught feelings for her, feelings that I had never felt for anyone before. I would watch her for a whole year. I found out a week after the first time I saw her that the person she was playing ping pong with was her boyfriend. Then I began to ponder did she even like ping pong because her boyfriend was really skilled and would smash the ball at her all the time. It almost seemed somewhat abusive. But of course ping pong was a fun sport. So I came up with a theory that she played ping pong as a sacrificial gesture to make her boyfriend happy, and I thought that was the sweetest thing anyone could ever do for someone. I used to stare so much one month in my buddy started noticing me staring all the time and when I got out of my trance I noticed he must have been talking to me for a minute and he looked shocked that I hadn't registered a thing he said. He was shocked because I usually hang on his every word. But he didn't make a huge scene about it because he knew how embarrassing it was for me. So about 8 months in of me staring at this girl, the other friends in her friend group start to befriend my friends to expand the friend group. But they didn't friend me directly because they figured I would join along since they were joining my friends which was true we eventually did fuse together. However my then crush didn't join so I felt really sad about that. Then a few months later she was dumped by her boyfriend and I saw her crying in the hallway. I wanted to comfort her but I knew she didn't know me at all. She was cradled against the wall. And I could feel her pain because I knew how much she had sacrificed for him. It made my own heart feel heartbroken. So 3 days later another guy scooped in. She wasn't on the market for very long. And months later they got married. So bottomline is thats how life works. You can become infatuated or wooed by someone but it might never be fated. In my case it wasn't. But we live on. You know? Life goes on. Eventually you will find someone fated for you.

Allison, you have been asking questions for over five years now. This is your 666th known reply. You need to start maturing and thinking more for yourself.

Be yourself and be friendly, if you want someone to notice ou. If you are too shy to speak to the person, you will lose opportunities. Shyness is sometimes inborn, sometimes a result of upbringing, but it can be dealt with. Go on line and see what you can learn about overcoming it, including building your self confidence.

And learn to be a great listener. If you focus on asking questions, being genuinely interested in what someone has to say, then you won't be focusing as much on yourself and your own insecurity.

I hope your "Sunday hang out place" is observant of covid restrictions, as you should be, also. Good luck,