Is it normal to feel like everyone secretly dislikes you, being your friend only out of pity or kindness? If so, how did you over come this?

That’s not normal, you probably should see a counselor, you might be able to deal with it on your own but that can be difficult.

Everyone and anyone who can read and wants to overcome their illusions about what friendship really is should read Aristotle's Nicomachean Ethics, especially books 8 & 9, but I suggest the entire treatise. After reading this you may as well keep reading and studying Aristotle, as it will be your only hope of overcoming all the manipulative nonsense you are exposed to on the Internet.

I've already past this realization, and for some of my so called "friends" even found this out to be true, much to my dismay. I know the real me is a lot more recluse and reserved, but I'm fine with that and I'm not changing just to "fit in" with people that probably still don't care. 

Maybe a lack of self esteem and self worth, along with anxiety caused by ideas of reference, but a hint of social longing (normal); or maybe actually a bit of a Paranoid Personality Disorder. The first one is what I strongly believe. The latter is there for a "just in case" reason. Either way, seek help. I know what it's like to feel this way. It is very unbearable.

Btw, I myself feel like nobody saw me as a friend; im just someone extremely compassionate people have to tolerate.

I know of someone who unfortunately has financial issues through their own fault. As a result this constrains what they can and can't do. As a person they also I would say aren't very interesting. They don't have that many hobbies but as a person they are really really nice. I think as you get older you realise that you should spend time doing the things you enjoy and spending times with those you hold most dear.

If you feel like this person then may be re-invent yourself or find friends who have similar interests. Some people love mountain climbing and others like photographing trains.

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