How can I get my boyfriend to think more positively about marriage? ?

Here's the hard truth and I will give it to you now before you waste another 6 years on him. He doesn't see a marriage with YOU. I can guarantee that when you break up a few years down the line, he will meet a girl and marry her within the year. It sucks. It hurts, but it happens. It's life. He sees you as his Miss. Right For Now, not Future Mrs. _____.

Marriage is a heck of a lot more than 2 signatures on a piece of paper. What happens if one of you ends up in the hospital and the other partner would have to decide whether to keep the other on life support or pull the plug? You can only make serious, life changing decisions like that once married.

IF you are considering having children, how would you feel knowing that the child will have a different last name from one of you? It will feel weird for your possible future child because he/she might not fully feel as if they are part of a complete family. Imagine them explaining: "My dad's last name is ___, but my mom's last name is ___. I still have my dad's last name, even though mom gave birth to me. I'm so confused." 

You can't. You need to seriously 

evaluate whether you want to 

stay with someone who thinks 

you want to "use it differently". 

If it's just a piece of paper with 

two signatures on it (actually, 

there are more than two), then 

why is he so against it?. If it is 

something you really want, then 

it is time to let him know you are 

moving on if he can't COMMIT 

(which is what it's really about). 

You can forget about him asking you to marry him. He is so against it, there is nothing you or anyone else can do to change his mind. So, You decide stay unmarried, or leave him.  You know in your heart, he will never marry you.

1. If you've been with him for SIX years and he doesn't want to marry you, you are fighting a losing battle, hon. Its either his way or the highway. You've been posting for over ten years, received over 1,908 replies, if not more. Time to think for yourself. 

First and foremost the image that he has about marriage in his mind is the responsible on that he thinks that way. But honestly some of the things that he has said are true. Maybe he has lived situations where his friends or family have experienced those horrible things. You know, It's really hard to change a person's perspective about how x or y thing is. Just talk to him and let him know your wishes. If you want to get married and he doesn't I think that the relationship won't blossom through the time. i get you love him and you both have a big bonding but sometimes if the person you are going to spend your life with doesn't have the same wish like you do so it's better to let them go. 

Good luck

There is no point. He doesn't want to marry. My ex never did and we were together 16 years. The woman he's with now for many years, he won't marry her either. If he doesn't want to marry you after six years, he never will. 

Oh, hon. He's not the one. Marriage has to be a mutual relationship. This one is one-sided. You've been wasting your time with him and deep down you know it. And he knows that saying he's not that into marriage goes down more easily with you than saying he's not that into you. He is at a point in his life where he thinks it's nice not to be alone but he just isn't ready for marriage. Could be money issues, responsibility issues, emotional issues---who knows? But it doesn't matter. He's not ready.

And you are.

Take it from there. You're not going to change him. You've got to change you. Live with this or move on. I'm voting for moving on to someone who can't wait to marry you.

Best of luck.