What do you do to cope with parents with impossible expectations?

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I am a minor, and i am just now able to drive, and my parents are putting a lot of pressure on me to get a job and volunteer. I am not opposed to this in any way. I lead an EXTREMELY busy life, i have something going on every weekday. I have been trying my absolute hardest to get a job but no one will hire me (apparently you need experience to collect shopping carts). This is not my fault, but my parents make it out to be, saying I need to try in person (did that) etc. I even started my own business (that has been slow) but that did not satisfy. The idea is that i have to pay for my gas and my insurance with is about 140$ a month. I (not always) get 10$ weekly allowance. That leaves me 100$ short and with no spending money at all. I have a few hundred in my savings account (all the rest was wiped out when I had to buy my own car) and it took me three years to get there. I don't want to spend my penny-pinched savings just to be broke, have to close my bank account(that i just got) and forfeit my dream of instrument ownership, just to satisfy them, but i don't know what to do. They want to teach responsibility, which i have already clearly demonstrated by balancing everything and still making good grades and being an All-stater. And money management (also demonstrated by hundreds of dollars from a 40$ a month income) how do I tell them that they are putting too much pressure on me over things i can't control without without damaging our relationship or starting a fight?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think perhaps you have done things the wrong way. The first thing in life is school, once school is over it’s time for a job, with that job you pay for things such as driving lessons and a car then rent for a house and you build up from there. The fact you got a car before a job is not going to work as your not making money to pay for the car. So who’s idea was the car? Did your parents pay to get you through your test? Cant you get rid of your car and sell it to get some money and ask to be put on your parents car insurance?

You can just tell them your very stressed that your not getting hired off anyone and it’s getting to you and you are trying your best

Star_of_Darkness · Answer

I don't see anything unreasonable,  just a spoiled child who doest want to do work

You are not trying hard for a job, if you were you would have gotten one by now.

It's good they made you pay for you own car, all kids need to do this

You clearly are mad that you can't waste money on things you want but don't need. Get over it. Once you are an adult all your whining and crying will get you nothing

edward · Answer

When you are looking for a job, regardless of age it is always who you know and your skill set.  I was a lifeguard when i was 16 (can’t be younger, the courses have an age requirement) it was about $18/hr at the pool and about $22 at the lake.  I got the jobs there because i know the supervisor at the pool and my family name is prominent in the community at the lake.  Even if the supervisor at the lake didn’t know me, someone else did.  Makes it very easy to get a job like that.  And even when i was doing that i was still captain of the swim team, straight A student, student body president, on the tennis team, stride team (basically track) and i was in the theatre club.  You need to use all the connections at your disposal, my parents would not have asked me to get a job if they didn’t already think of a way for me to get one.  They would’ve helped me out if i couldn’t see it

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What do you do to cope with parents with impossible expectations?

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