Why doesn't my BF listen?

Maybe he told you that he would be home late in case

you tried to phone him from your parents house

or you wondered why he hadn't phoned you.

Good listening is an art form. Perhaps he has never learned how to really listen well, though its never too late to learn. But he has to be motivated,not just you. 

I don't get why a text saying he'll be home late proves he doesn't listen to you.  Assuming you live together, it's common courtesy to let others know about any changes in routine. If you're like most young couples, the problem is too much texting in situations where an in person convo needs to take place.

There is a difference between not listening and forgetting.

It's courteous to tell your partner when you will be home late regardless of what their schedule is.  

What if you had a dog and neither of you would be home to let it out for a wee?

What if you heard from your neighbor that he came home late without telling you?  Would you think he was sneaking around?

Communication...it's a thing we adults find helpful here in Adultville.

But knowing you, you complain that he doesn't listen and you'd probably complain if he didn't text you about coming home late either.   You're exhausting and I've only had to spend two minutes with you.  Yuck.

Who knows why?  I could think of a NUMBER of possible reasons why he does this, but no way to know which explanation it might actually be.

And it doesn't matter why. All that matters is what YOU tell yourself about it.  Either you can accept him as he IS, of the relationship will end up falling apart.

No one is perfect, and if we cannot accept them, we risk losing them.

IS he worth this flaw?  If so, then don't feed self-statements into your brain that feed your emotional habits and make you get upset with him.

Just don't listen to him

Everyone can't have as good of a memory as you do..