Sashy

A tad lengthy if you can bear with me....I feel so unreligious, i love my religion but i don't pray, though always think about god and death.

I'm very depressed so days are a massive blur of fog and lying in bed (job hunting is a bit difficult to find something).

in my family, no one gets along, I don't visit home as its such a toxic environment that defeats the purpose of ramadan. I get upset due to it as i used to love ramadan, that feeling of closeness with muslims and safety of it all as everyone comes together to be better muslims.

Most of my family are not religious enough to make an effort with each other over it. So i feel really alone, i don't have muslim friends either to feel like I belong. i have non muslim friends who i dearly love, but it usually means i end up doing things their way.

i live alone and my depression is so bad i need to force myself to see people - mostly friends as my family is so broken. If i don't then my mental health seriously declines, i can't function, eat, just end in a bad way. i just wish i had genuine muslim people who won't judge me due to appearance, i just keep to myself as the muslims in my city just ***** about everyone and you can't trust them.

I miss my faith but end up sinning, like feeling pressure to have 1 or 2 drinks when with friends, this doesn't happen often as i hate it and they know that so i don't get forced, but in certain social settings i cave which makes me feel awful. Please help me save myself and my faith.

In the name of Allah...my wish right now is to never have another Ramadan like this again.

I feel that my family has ruined Ramadan. Basically my parents resent each other so there is this awkard tension when both are home. I resent both of them because of a lot of stuff that's happend in the past. No one is excited over the start of it, no one does family iftaris we don't go over to each others houses, or relish in the spirit of it. Most of my family don't fast, my mum is anemic so she can't, my sisters find it hard, usually it's me and my dad. At iftar times i hate them all so much, we 'have to sit together' for 10 mins, no one talks, it is painful but all he does is sit there, sulk and show he's are pissed off and deliberately ignores my mum, my mum doesnt even join the table until my dad leaves. It doesnt feel like Ramadan. It's not that they all don't pray, they do. Just doesn't feel like Ramadan. I feel so isolated and alone. I always think that if one day I have my own home, i will never let it get like this. Obviously this is just a fraction of the reason why i'm upset. My sisters ignore me, too busy with their friends on watsapp/fb. My mum always showcases her disappointment in me for being a failure/loser, so i dont talk to her. I have no friends, no job and no future prospects. So i just sit all day on the laptop either jobhunting or just wasting my life away. I just wondered what you guys would do if you had this awkward type of Ramadan.

I wish I was gone from this place.

what is your name, do you like it? If not what would you change it to?

mine is Sasha and i don't like it haha

Something cool and authentic not something like 'um my bedsheets are blue - fact'

E.g did you know that if you turn a shark upside down on its back/fin then it becomes paralysed...it's called tonic immobility!

10 points for anything i've not already heard about :)

Cheers!

Peace

In this clip Yusuf Estes makes a very striking comparison between the two: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JfMwlzNKTbQ

I think it is very interesting.

I have another question about the link in general as I think videos like these are most authentic in understanding Islam. As muslims, what do you guys think?

http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=As...

Happy Ramadan

due to fasting i am starting to feel kind of sick and full very quickly after iftar and that way i can't force myself to eat anything for seri (i hate sleeping on a full stomach and become sick if i do) which then results in me feeling really awful the next day from fasting with lack of food in me.

Problem now is that i don't even feel like eating during iftar except from a little fruit. I do want to eat but nothing appeals to me.

Can anyone give suggestions to help my appetite? What are you having tonight?

Happy Ramadan guys

This is the first time i'll be sitting in itkaaf in my life.

I'll start on thursday due to the last 10 days of ramadan. I am a bit afraid that i won't make it but really want to, i've had a really bad past 2 years and things keep getting worse(primary reason is i can't get employed for 2 years and have money difficulties because of this, on top of lots of other issues i'm dealing with too). I was losing faith because i just felt like god was refusing to help me, but then thanks to allah the thought of sitting in itkaaf came to me so that i could concentrate on my faith again.

Truth be told i'm so scared that my situation won't get any better after i do this, all the jobs that i got interviews for and was told that i secured, pretty quickly just got taken away from me at the last second with no real reason at all. The first time it happened i thought oh well **** happens but then it happened again a couple times and i don't know why? I have a 2.2 grad degree but lots of experience but just can't get anywhere and feel like such a failure in life and i can tell my family is disappointed in me failing to get employed and i get so depressed.

This is my last resort, mind you i am also doing it for God and to seek forgiveness as well and focus on praying. I need to know though:

What are the benefits of sitting in itkaaf? Will god accept my prayers and duahs?

Any tips on how i can do it properly or to gain max benefit from it?

Finally, as a past sufferer of severe depression, one of my fears is of being alone with my thoughts and being isolated because i become really negative and lonely and since i am already in a horrible situation i am panicking in case i won't go through with it but i really want to from the bottom of my heart. I want to do it for god and do it for me. Advice on sticking through?

Thanks for your help, please be genuine in your answers the last thing anyone needs is nasty cruel people to make matters worse. Everyone needs a little help sometimes.

Happy Ramadan

I mean to say, do you think God would favour people that wake for fajr or thahujjad prayer over folk like me, who doesn't sleep but waits until fajr time and then sleeps after i have read it...which is exhausting but it's the only way i pray fajr because i find it terribly hard to pray it once i go to sleep at night...

I just hope my efforts are being taken into consideration that's all.

http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=201...

i'm infuriated

Also, where are you in the world and what's the time and weather?

I am sitting on my couch in Glasgow, Scotland... looking out at the dull sky and dark rain clouds :(

In Jan i got let go from work, had to move back in with the folks... and have since been unemployed, with unsuccessful interviews so far. Feel a bit thrown off from applying for more jobs, last week my bf told me he wants to see other people and left me in pieces, a few days ago i fell and fractured my elbow and banged up my knee. Now strapped in a frikin sling for 6weeks then...yesterday morning whilst trying to dress my self with one arm i stood on a dying wasp on the floor and got stung for the first time ever...and it hurt..more than the arm break...it was the final straw so i broke down crying like a 5 year old girl haha.

Anyway i need some motivation to keep my positivity up, i have no money, no job, no bf, living with my folks and turn 25 in a month..i want to fix my life but feel really stuck

i am still applying for jobs but feel a little defeated

My french is rusty and I want to text my french friend as he is leaving paris to see our best friend in california in a few days

i want to basically just say: how are you? are you excited to go see gaby in california? i hope you guys have a great time!

this is what i was thinking, does it makes sense???

ca va, tu vas content pour voir gaby en california? J'espère que vous amusez-vous!!

any corrections would be much appreciated thanks!

I feel like moving away out of britain and starting life somewhere else like the u.s

i feel like i have nothing here in britain no friends, a broken family, no trust, good memories, or life

i come home and the atmosphere is horrible my mum is borderline bypolar and my parents hate each other but dont have the guts to leave each other, my friends betrayed me and left, my extended family just bicker over how bad their life is and say how i dont know what real problems are.

the only one that kept me half sane was my younger sister and now shes moving away for uni and i don't know how i can go on.

i went travelling across the states last year and it felt more like home in those 3 months than the past 15 years here (im 24). When i think of just moving to a different city in the uk it still feels like i'll be just as miserable, maybe its too similar to my failures in life, same roads, same streets, same weather same culture etc I just know i'll be happier if i was out of britain

i want to start living, i want to find security and happiness when i come 'home' or go out somewhere in the end of the day...not the misery and suffocation that surrounds me now. I want to feel happy, proud and comfortable in my residing location.

has anyone ever felt the same?

p.s im in no means dissing the uk, i think its great but just feel like my past and experiences in life didnt justify it for me which is ashame. i guess its just not for me.

i mean i can't help to think how he could so easily get kicked or sluggered in the face bad enough causing some of his many facial piercings to rip off :O

same with wrestlers with naval piercings eeek

As a child my parents taught me to read the arabic language so that i could read the quran and pray the salahs

i was always confused by this as a child having to read the quran and not know what i am reading and when i recited it it was like speaking a language that i obv could not understand.

I have obv read the quran in english so know what is being said but i feel like it is not as rewarding to god as doing so in arabic

now on special holy nights i really want to read the quran and read lots of lengthy surahs but because i cant understand the arabic texts it seems to take forever and i dont enjoy reading it :( i wish i was taught arabic properly. My mum reads the quran for hours and says thats part of praying to god but i want to know if i can get the same reward for reading/reciting it in english?

It is my goal to learn arabic in the future, its just starting up a course that suits my timetable.

does anyone else pray like i do? what are your thoughts? if anyone has any links to sholarly articles etc on this subject please let me know

thanks and peace

so my bedroom is in the loft it was converted around 3 years ago and is properly done up into a room which i truly love, however every now and then-usually when the seasons start to change from cold to warm(like now) or warm to cold( around october) i get a lot of nasty creepy crawlies some tiny some horridly gross and big :(

I get very paranoid when im about to sleep incase there is some thing on/in my bed as it happened a couple times usually spiders which i hate (once i was about to sleep and a massive spider crawled out inches away from my face from under my pillow, ive since been kind of arachnophobic :( and i always have to check my covers pillows loads of times before i sleep.

is there anything i can do to resolve this problem? i have started to leave scented candles around my bed to kind of keep the bugs away but i still feel uncomfortable, also the loft window is directly above my bed too and i get scared to open it incase bugs get in but cause its getting warmer my room gets stuffy and i need to open the window, no other spare rooms in the house either.

Has anyone had a similar prob? care to please tell me how i can sleep in peace lol

cheers

so my bedroom is in the loft it was converted around 3 years ago and is properly done up into a room which i truly love, however every now and then-usually when the seasons start to change from cold to warm(like now) or warm to cold( around october) i get a lot of nasty creepy crawlies some tiny some horridly gross and big :(

I get very paranoid when im about to sleep incase there is some thing on/in my bed as it happened a couple times usually spiders which i hate (once i was about to sleep and a massive spider crawled out inches away from my face from under my pillow, ive since been kind of arachnophobic :( and i always have to check my covers pillows loads of times before i sleep.

is there anything i can do to resolve this problem? i have started to leave scented candles around my bed to kind of keep the bugs away but i still feel uncomfortable, also the loft window is directly above my bed too and i get scared to open it incase bugs get in but cause its getting warmer my room gets stuffy and i need to open the window, no other spare rooms in the house either.

Has anyone had a similar prob? care to please tell me how i can sleep in peace lol

cheers

by change i mean from birth if u had ur way to choose your own name? what would it be

whats ur name and do u like it? what would u change it to?

so, i've lost my so called friends, they hurt me and betrayed me so i let them go

although i have a few mates that i see every now and then...once a month or two...i know i cant confide in them like a real friend, not that i want them to hear my sob story or whatever, i just don't feel like i can rely on them like you can with a good friend that u have known for a long time.

i have no childhood friends from high school cause i didn't fit in and when i started college uni, i was terribly ill that i had to take a year absence and start over and when i did the people i befriended just moved on i guess and we never spoke anymore. After i joined some societies i made good uni mates in the programmes but again we only just saw each other on meetings on when it was about the society, i never felt like we could just hang out etc and everyone always had their 'actual' friends either from uni or school that they would go out with all the time.

Anyhoo, i went travelling and became great friends with a girl i met in the states, u know the feeling when u just click with new person and u become friends, but now im back in the uk and we skype sometimes but its not the same since were apart tho we still miss each other a lot.

so...i dont think anyone likes me lol there must be something wrong if people keep leaving me?

please dont be mean in your reply lol