Tricia

My partner of ten years is his brothers usher at the end of september. Their suits are navy with pink tie. I am trying to find a dress that will go well in photos with his suit. Pink is out due to bridesmaids. Should i be looking at navy, a different shade of blue, red or another colour all together? Any advice appreciated.

Hi i am not normally crafty but have decided to make christmas eve boxes rather than pay almost £30 for each box alone when i need more than one of them. I was wondering the best type of paint to cover an archive box. I know it will take a few coats to cover the writting and i will have a spare box to practice with as they come in a pack of three. Any help will be appreciated.

I fractured my ankle in 3 places as a toddler jumping off something i shouldnt have. It took 6 weeks for the hospital to put in plaster after many trips to different ones as due to my age they did not want to xray it. They only did so once we went with my gp and made us travel to my nearest hospital for the plaster(nearest would not xray even with gp there). This has lead to it setting at an angle of about 30 degrees out. It has in the past few years became painful at times and is getting so more frequently. This has always caused isdues with things like shoes wearing out within 2 months as the way it has set means i cannot walk with my foot even to place weight evenly. It was supposed to be reset when 18 but did not happen. Can anyone tell me how i go about getting it corrected or do i have to deal with this medical error permenantly?

Hi I am taking my 8 and 5 year old sons abroad for the first time in November. My youngest is not a problem as both parents are going but with my eldest having no contact with his father in over two years I don't know where I stand. We are taking them for a week to cape verde do I need consent from him if so what exactly is it I need. Many thanks. Tricia

For what ever reason our local hospital would not xray due to my age our GP eventually came n got it done in another hospital but they said my local one had to plaster it. After 16 weeks it went into plater for 18weeks to heel. However it didn't set straight and to stand comfortably is at a 45 degree angle outwards. To stand or walk with it straight causes pain so I tend not to but now have noticed the pain more and more recently. They landed to reset at 18 but I had moved areas am I still able to get the procedure done and if anyone could tell me what's involved would be appreciated. I have two young boys so recovery time is one of the main factors.

Hi my partner and i were renting were in the uk and due to many issues including damp faulty electrics and holed in roof seeked advice from the eho as was affecting our sons health. We were evicted for this as he didnt want to repair it. Now his trying yo charge us for cleaning of mould fue to him not repairing the roof. Were appealing to dps but can we claim for damages to our property n cleaning costs due to smell of mould on our furniture as we have lost clothes shoes kids table set bedding duvets baby equitment cot matress all due to rapid mould growth n its left my son with asthma.

Hi my partner and i were renting were in the uk and due to many issues including damp faulty electrics and holed in roof seeked advice from the eho as was affecting our sons health. We were evicted for this as he didnt want to repair it. Now his trying yo charge us for cleaning of mould fue to him not repairing the roof. Were appealing to dps but can we claim for damages to our property n cleaning costs due to smell of mould on our furniture as we have lost clothes shoes kids table set bedding duvets baby equitment cot matress all due to rapid mould growth n its left my son with asthma.

The damp is in every room in fitted wardrobes on ceiling there is mould meldew you can clearly smell damp when walking in. Since living here my eldest son aged 5 has developed asthma. The roof leaks and so does conservatory repairs don't get done I call the agent someone has a look landlord says no will do himself and doesn't. The water Gehenna rains is blowing our fuse box as it gets in the electrics I am very worried and can't raise a deposit to move any time soon council list is 6 years what can I do to get this sorted or who can force this to be done or how can I get re housed ASAP before my 2 year old also developers asthma.

my bf of four years and i have two boys. he cheated last summer with a gd friend or least i thought she was until then. it happenex a few times. whn i found out he was honest n.said he would prove i can trust him. yet whn he goes out with his mates never bac whn.he says in feb came home wit some girls numba whn i saw n went to call it he went nuts sayin.was for his mate which i.didnt believe but left alone. now his come bac last week drunk.with another girls numba he txt her soon as was in inclydun **** like she should save herself for him. he says he was drunk n dont know why he took it n nothin happened or would have but im not convinced. now his accussin me of cheatin n i could honestly say i never have and wouldnt do that i know how much it hurt me and couldnt do it to him even now. im really confussed as too why surely alcohol isnt a excuss if so why keep drinkin. he says he loves me and doesnt wanna loose me but im not so sure

hey lookin for some male insite. my bf of almost 4 years cheated last summer with someone i thought to be a friend we have two children so i stuck around as i do loe him. then in feb he came home with some girls number he said it was cos his mates battery died n was for him but deleted it once confronted. his mate doesnt recall n he says cos drunk its happened again n he had messaged her says was drunk n nothin happened would u give out your number before nethin happens with a girl or after

my five year old calls my partner of almost 4 years dad because he sees his aged 2 do so and when his brother was 2 months old his dad stopped all contact with him for 18 months. it was purely his choice and we see it as it will always be his choice to make. however now that his dfather is involved in his life again he keeps teeling my son he cant do this. i have tried to explain to him this is my sons choice to make and no one elses but he wont accept this and my son comes home from their every time in tears as he keeps trying to force him to stop doing so. im so close to telling him if he cant accept the choices my son makes then dont bother but i know my son now likes having him in his life which he use to hate. apparently im making things difficult but if i wanted to do that when he walked away from him i wouldnt have let him back in. we split before i even knew i was pregnant im not trying to make things hard i just want my son to be happy and his father is confussing and upsetting him.

to cut along story short my ex and i had split before we even knew i was pregnant and he only decided to be involved when he was two weeks old out of pressure from his mother before this they had both wanted him aborted. any way in the past five years he hasnt exactly been a consistent part of my sons life and in june 2010 he decided not to bother at all. there was one visit in febuary 2011 and he said he would not let him down again but sure enough he never made contact again until november for his 5th birthday. i told him the only way he could see him was if he intented to maintain seeing him and since then he has. he has let my son down a few times however at the last minute. in the past my son use to have panic attacks going to them but now he seems fine since november. the real issue here is that we are both in new relationships and i have a son aged two with my partner of nearly 4years. we live together and out of his own choice my eldest child started to call him dad shortly after his biological dad walked out on him in june 2010 when his baby brother was 2 months old because he saw us refer to him as daddy to the baby. he went through a phase of calling him by his name and by dad at the same time but we allowed him the choice as it is his to make. now that his father is seeing him again he keeps telling my son every week that he cannot call my partner dad which is leading to a very upset and confussed child i have tried talking to him about this and all i get is abuse. the thing is the person i call my dad who brought me up is not my father and to tell my son he cannot call the man who has been there every day for almost 4 years dad i feel would be wrong. how do i handle this as he gets so upset im close to telling his father not to bother if he cannot accept that at 5 he is able to make his own choice. we are happy with whatever my son calls my partner even now he occassionally refers to him by name but we noticed it alot more since he is seeing them and now i know why as my son has told me when he came home in tears about it. he doesnt understand and i dont see why a child cannot have to active fathers many children have step parents and if the child is at such a young age whn they come into their life and have been there when their own father could not be bothered surely it is the childs choice to be made.

id be greatful for any advice on this and before you say it if they have a child in the future i know my son may call her mum copying his sibling or he may not depending on his age and again i feel that would be his choice to make.

Tax credits renewal confusion. what happens when your claim changed during the year?

i know how the system worked before as a lone parent anything owed from previous year was back dated in april however i am slightly confused as in november i moved in with my partner and on the day we moved in we updated all details with them which meant my claim was effectively closed and a new one started. i was on maternity leave for 6 months during the tax year which was before we moved in together meaning on my old claim and i know this will mean that i earned less and will involve a back date my question is what happens about the months prior to us moving in together as this was on my old claim but obviously i would have been owed from this period too. do they work this out do i have to querie it or does it not matter.

i know how the system worked before as a lone parent anything owed from previous year was back dated in april however i am slightly confused as in november i moved in with my partner and on the day we moved in we updated all details with them which meant my claim was effectively closed and a new one started. i was on maternity leave for 6 months during the tax year which was before we moved in together meaning on my old claim and i know this will mean that i earned less and will involve a back date my question is what happens about the months prior to us moving in together as this was on my old claim but obviously i would have been owed from this period too. do they work this out do i have to querie it or does it not matter.

geting him to help is a chore in itself which nearly ends in an arguement few times a week. he says that its my job to do most things at home virtually as i work 17 and half hours he works 35 i dont mind doing a larger share butt i would like to know if he says or i ask for something to be done it will get done. i have the 2 boys all the time when not at work he gets a couple evenings a week break i dont and we hardly ever do anything together these days outside of home. its not he wont let me its with the shifts he works its hard to make plans and i dont mind him having these 2 night for pool and football i mind the ones that suddenly crop up with no notice or the being told i will be back by 9 and at half past im worrying as i haven't heard to say his gonna be late he doesn't realise thats my reason for moaning. what i want is a tactical way to get him to get out of bed not just to go to work but to spend time with us first and help me out before he goes or when he gets home. i would love to get him to do just one night feed a week and one of the 5am wake ups so i can catch up on sleep as this is why i get so moody as i am exhausted. how can i get him to help out without sounding like im having ago so he wants to help out i think once we get past this we will be able to get things back to how they should be and it will free up time for us and with him helping at home a bit i can make sure everything is done for if we can get a sitter to go out together sometimes. i know i have issues and his not as bad as this sounds sometimes and if i've had the big row the following day he normally admits to being at fault and helps out a bit i just want him to do the odd small job im not exectin miracles just a little help to take pressure off and stop me moaning he can be great when he puts his mind too it

hi im 23 i have 2 children and to cut to the point my nurse has told me today that because i am not 25 despite her being happy to do he smar the lab will send it back undone due to my age. My reason for concern is that altought she has insisted that 95 ercent of cervical cancer is not genetic in my family my mum and 3 aunts have undergone tests showin many cancers run in our dna that included. my great aunt died of it and out of my nans 6 grandaughters 3 have had smears and all 3 had cancerous cells the latest being found on friday. i have 2 bos 1 is 4 years the other 10 months almost and despite my concerns i cannot afford to go private. i lost an aunt to cancer in october and now my other 2 cousins are geting tested as their over 25 but i cant i have 18 months until i can is their any way i can force them to do a test as i cant spend 18 months scared my boys will lose their mum as with cancer every day couns and could make a difference ith treatment i dont want to turn 25 then find if hey caught it a week sooner i may have survived. i know that sounds like an over reaction but my mind is going crazy over this

hiya my parents tv is an old one its not flat screen but it seems to be playing up. for months it has been taking ages to turn on so they came to the conclusion of leaving it on standby in the day however since this morning it is still taking about 15 mins to come on then when it is on it cuts out goes to standby then puts it self back on taking ages to come back on. sometimes it stays back on for a few hours but its starting to cut out more as the day goes on and has cut out 3 times in the past hour please bare in mind the time it takes coming on which indicates its been on no more than 10 mins viewing. has anyone a clue what the fault might be and an estimate for repair in the U.K or if it is not fixable. they would rather it be fixed than a new one as of the grandchildren touching it and worry of my nepthew knocking it over on himself when he visits as he almost did with his parents. thankyou for taking time to read this.

to cut to the chase his dad has decided 2 months ago to stop all contact which works for my son as he is 3 but has panic attacks seeing his dad. what i really want to know is what is a reasonable time period to leave it before taking legal action to remove his rights as currently i cant get my son so much as a passport to take him on holiday without his co-signature and he gets a say in his schooling etc yet he has walked away from him. please just give me an idea as to a reasonable time period to give him a change to change his mind. im not being mean if you knew it all you would know this is the right thing i just want whats best for him and for this reason will allow him a chance if he proves he deserves it as he has let him down so often