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I am curious as to if service members who have been on active duty and have served in the Reserves or Guard for 20 years are considered for the 20 year rule?

I am wondering if they would have to be active duty the entire 20 years, meaning having a full-time military job, five or more days a week as well as having been on deployments to qualify for this rule. Or, if a combination of both active and Reserves qualifies. Does anyone know for absolute sure? Thank you. :-)

Okay, so how many men out there who are straight like to have a female put things up their butt? Is this normal, or could he be bi-sexual?

I don't understand what it means when it is mentioned for the 20/20/20 rule for military retirement rule. I know you have to be married 20 years, active duty 20 years, but what is 20 years overlap of military time mean?

Does anyone know of any really great books out there that are helpful to someone who is trying to get through a divorce when the spouse cheated? I need something that focuses on how to cope with emotions, as well as depression, OCD, and anxiety which have cropped up significantly over the last week. I am seeing a therapist is a couple of days, but a book or two would be very helpful as well. Also, any technique that has helped any if you who have gone through this, if you dont mind sharing would be appreciated. By the way, the relationship is definitely over, so please, no advice in reconciliation. Thanks.

My husband of 19 years is having an affair. I have to say that it is completely over between us no matter if he changes his mind on down the road or whatever. I will not go through this again. With that being said, how can someone say that they will always love you and care about you, but they are no longer in love with you? I gave him his wedding ring which was here at the house and told him that I was selling mine. I don't want to see it. He looked shocked and said that he was keeping his because 19 years meant a lot to him. Why would you keep your wedding ring if you were supposedly in love with someone new? He also does not want a divorce, even though it would benefit him because I do not have a job and I wouldn't make out as well as I am now with a separAtion agreement. I think he has a screw loose?

My husband is a First Sergeant in the Army. We have been married for 19 years. We live in the state of PA. I have never worked any substantial job during our marriage because he traveled a lot and I stayed home with our daughter and took.care of our home. (She is 18 now.). We have a marriage separation agreement Affidavit which pays for everything my daughter and I need. This was signed by a notary because the state of PA does not recognize Legal Separation. My husband doesn't care about getting a divorce, ( This makes me suspicious.) because he knows we need medical insurance. I also found out after this affidavit was signed that he has been having an affair for six months. I'm confused. I don't want to screw up all the money he is agreeing to pay by ticking him off, but...I have to be absolutely sure that it will stand in court if it is broken. With him being a First Sergeant, I don't want him finding out that I went to his Commanding officer for advice or to the JAG. The lawyer, however that I found who knows his military stuff is $500.00 1st visit with a 2,000.00 retainer fee. Which direction should I go? Also, what benefits might I receive if I go the military route vs civilian?

How do I move my question out of the wrong category into the correct one?

Please help. I don't think this is PTSD, but..my husband and I started having marital problems after he came back from Iraq 2 years ago. We had a few before then, but not anything serious. Things were fine for a few months, and then it all went to crap. Although he was never a person to talk about his feelings, he started to totally shut me out. I tried to get us counseling, etc....To make a long story short, we are now separated and he says that he isn't in love with me anymore and that this woman hes been cheating on me with for the past 6 months makes him feel loved, etc...I honestly tried that, I gave it my all. Hes been very odd acting these past couple of years. He would just stare at the tv, twitch in bed, sleep in a fetal position. He also shows many signs of OCD. He has a very stressful job. He always rushes to get things done. Last night we were talking and he finally broke down and cried and actually talked to me. He didn't say he wanted me back or anything, but he said he wished we could have fixed our marriage 2 years ago because now, he is just numb from it. Then he started pacing the floor and saying he was, "full" and he had to go clear his head. He just kept saying that. Then he said he had to clean the back of his car out because of his OCD. He really scared me. He is usually the calmest person in the world. Then he sat down beside me and just hugged me. But he kept saying he was full. He said that that's all he could talk about now its either full or not talking at all. And then he left. Please help. Even though he did me wrong, I am worried about what is wrong with him. Sorry this was Sooooo long

My husband of 18 years left me. I have always stayed at home with our daughter, mostly because my husband is full-time military and travels a lot and I didn't want someone else raising her. She, is, however starting college in a week. I don't have a problem working, except that I have many health problems which prohibit me from doing so. I do not qualify for SSI since I have not put in enough hours of work. I do not have family or friends that I can stay with either. At the end of the month, the house payment will be due and I will be out on the street. Is there anything that I can do about this? Is he responsible for any of the bills or for the house payment since he just walked out? Also, what can I do?

My daughter received her SAR today. My question is about income tax proof. We have already completed our income taxes and reported the information on our daughter's FAFSA. Will the college request this at a later time, or will we need to go back into the FAFSA application and link the tax info to the college? Thanks.

I have been diagnosed with Hyperinsulinemia. My Endocrinologist found it by having a C-Peptide test ordered for me. She noticed that I have a lot of weight gain in my stomach area and that my blood sugar fluctuates from low to normal.

I also have a few auto-immune diseases such as, Hashimoto's Thyroditis ( Hypothyroidism ), Sjogren's, and Rheumatoid Arthritis.

I have done lots of research on the auto-immune diseases that I mentioned above, however, I do not know much a bout Hyperinsulinemia.

I do know that I am producing too much insulin and that I do not yet have Diabetes. But...I know that it can be a pre-curser to diabetes. Could it lead to Diabetes Type 1 since I also have the auto-immune antibody present or would it just be type 2.....IF I develop it at all?

Thank you for your help.

I am trying to decide between the LG Vortex or the Samsung Continium. Do any of you own either of these? Or have any of you heard good/ bad things about either one?

Thanks so much! :-)

ranked 18th in her class of 196 kids, what is her average based on a 4.0 scale? (Obviously math is not my cup of tea.) I mean as far as using a 3.5 or 3.7 or 4.0?

Also in what percentage is she in her class? Top_______ % ????

Thanks for any help! I appreciate it.

Hello!

I am interested in a career in Clinical Pathology. I know that I will need to attend Medical School after acquiring my bachelors degree in college, but what major should I be taking to prepare myself for Medical School? I read on a website that I won't necessarily need to major in a science, but if that is the case, then what would be another option? Thank you in advance!

I have been trying for months to download Internet Explorer 8 along with some other updates.

I added RAM, I have tried all the different steps listed on every website that I can find, but for some reason they will not download!

I keep getting 80007371B for Internet Explorer 8 as well as for update: KB980195

800736B3

Also, 643 for KB973688

And, 646 for four different Office 2007 updates

How important is Internet Explorer 8 anyway?

Thanks everyone!

Does anyone know the name of the mall that is somewhere near Niagara Falls, NY?

My daughter went there a few years back but cannot remember the name of it.

There are several floors and has a huge 2-story Dick's Sporting Good's store?

We live in the city and have city sewage. Is the city responsible for part of this?

I know this is probably a stupid question.....But, is merchandise available for both baseball teams at a Major League game and not just for the home team?

Hello,

I am at my wit's end. Here is a list of my problems:

Severe bloating--For the last two years

Extreme weight gain in stomach area--Within the last two years

Irregular periods which sometimes last for 2 weeks (Not heavy bleeding)

Bleeding in between periods. Not a lot just a little

Dull lower back pain on my left side

Dull left pelvic pain on my left side which worsens during intercourse and when going to the bathroom. This just started about a month ago.

Either diarrhea or constipation quite often and accompanied by cramps (Gas cramps, not menstrual) This has been going on for several months.

Fatigue -- This has been going on for years

Symptoms of Hypothyroidism but tested often and is normal or near normal.

I cannot be pregnant since I have had a Tubal done and my husband had a Vasectomy.

No STD's

I have given birth once and have never had a miscarriage or an abortion.

I just had a Pap done and it came back negative; thank God.

I do have a pelvic ultrasound scheduled later in the week

Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-)

I am attending an Indians/ Yankees game in July. I am trying to decide between the following seats:

451A 452A 453A 454A or 448A. I am wondering about noise such as vents, etc...or view obstruction. Also is there that much of a difference in the view from these areas for those of you who know the park? Any other suggestions would be great.

I have never been to a baseball game before. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!