warrior77

My husband was joking with Coworkers about how he was going to this salon with pretty women, then set up a man cave at work with a wet bar and bar stools to get haircuts, an other man said he should be paying women with cash and going to different women so I wouldn't catch on. I found out about the email, he thinks it is a funny joke and I am taking it to seriously.

Our Blue Cross Blue Shield PPO rates are hiking. Wondering what people's experience with Blue Crosses's HMO has been because we are considering switching. Would love to hear from anyone having both.

We spent two hours at the shelter in a room full of cats. None of my children developed any allergy symptoms. On the way home, after we adopted the kitten of course, my son's eye turned red. They have been cuddling and hugging the kitten since we brought it home, and the kitten has just purred the whole time. My son's nose and face looks a little rashy, and it went away with benadryl. Any one know if he could adapt to the kitten over time? Am I putting his health in jeopardy by keeping the kitten? The kids are so attached already.

We have three children, 4, 3 and 1. We are trying to figure out how to bike with them this year, the 4 and 3 year old often get tired and want to sit down. Anyone have any advice? Two trailers would work if there are two adults only. I am also a runner and was wondering if there are any double joggers with a little seat (like the sit and stand) for a third child.

So I am wondering from you men out there, what qualities make for a really bad wife? And do you think you can ever be driven to being abuse to a women?

I recently made a friend who is a single mom and she confided in me that she is texting a married man. I am really disappointed in her, especially since her husband left her for another women. I don't think I can be friends with her, I find immoral behavior a huge turn off. My husband thinks I should realize people are people and take the good with the bad, but I just can't trust someone who wouldn't think twice about texting a married man. Is that too harsh?

My nephew has always been aggressive, but it seems to be getting worse as he gets older. When my four year son wouldn't jump the way he wanted, he grabbed his hand and tried to push his fingers backwards. My son of course cried and couldn't move his fingers at first, but luckily he is ok. I know boys can be rough and some mom's deal with hitting, but I don't know if this is normal. It seems way to aggressive to me and time and time again I think I need to keep my son away from him. My son is a very quiet and mellow child, so I don't deal with aggression really at all with him.

She asked me to call her mom when we first got married, and not wanting to be rude I tried to do so, but it has been five years and it never did and still does not feel comfortable to me. Too me, Mom is reserved to my mom only, the women who raised me and loves me, and my mother in law doesn't even like me. She even complains about me to my husband Aunt and cousins (I know this because they have told me how much they like me and how they "don't believe a word she says about me" ). So can I stop calling her Mom without being rude?

I just seem not to progress. I have been getting contractions for over a week, sometimes they are patterned and get painful, so I think its the start of real labor. Then within an hour or two, nothing. I am due in a week, anyone experience this and when did there labor come?

I have flat feet. Recently, I started staying home and so I spend most my time barefoot. I developed a painful callus on the bottom of my foot I have to have removed, which seems to come back. My podiatrist said it can be do to the start of a bunion, or maybe a foot spur. She recommended I get a good pair of shoes, and wear them at all times in the house. But I have been reading that wearing shoes can actually make your feet weaker. I am trying to avoid developing full bunions and needing surgery. Any insight?

This question is directed to individuals who have or have dealt with people with a drinking problem. My husband had a drinking problem prior to us getting together, and I believed he struggled with this early on in our marriage. But has told me it is under control. Recently, he is very withdrawn, and whenever I try to ask him why he gets upset that all I want to do is talk about emotions and he just wants to be left alone. But I cannot help but notice how withdrawn he is and ask why. I have seen beer in the fridge, and I am not monitoring it....I don't think there has been a lot...in fact I think he tries to only buy a little amount (or one of those big cans) to keep from drinking to much. In every other way he is functioning normally. But I am wondering if he is so withdrawn from because he could be struggling with drinking issues. Anyone out there with experience have insight to offer?

Recently it has come to my attention that my mother in law and sister in law are talking poorly about me to other members of the family. The cousins and aunt who have revealed this to me did so because they don't believe what they hear and thought I should know. Seems as though the reason is that my very bossy and bully Mother in Law/Sister in Law team just don't like the fact that there is another women in thier son's/brothers life, and I have stood up to them, not through words or confrontation, but rather non-compliance with their controlling demands. My questions is, they seem to be using the kids in this competition they seem to think they are in to win (for example, grandma not even calling on childrens bday when she actually hosts the other grandkids parties, sister acting over the top to see my son when she has an audience only...kind of a look at how good I am kind of show). I could take limited contact with them up until this point, but I do not want me kids to be used and I am feeling the need to keep the kids from them. Is this out of line, to just let me husband have the relationship with them and keep me and the kids out of it? Things that have happened just don't make me trust that they will have the best intentions for my kids in mind...

My son was very excited to start preschool. And he was enthusiastic and happy about it for about a month or so, then suddenly he stopped wanted to go and asked to go to another school. He seems happy when I picked him up last time, but again, he keeps asking me to bring him to a new school. He is not saying he wants to stay home with me, or that he wants me to stay, so I don't think its seperation anxiety. When I ask him why, he says because he wants to go to a school with things he has never done before. He recently started saying it's because there are mean kids there? But I may have lead him into to saying that by asking him that. I am having a hard time knowing if he is bored and underchallenged since he is on the older range of the class (they won't move him to the 4 year old class because of his birthday date, despite him being 4), or if something can be happening to decrease his interest. I have signed him up for other things without me, he never has resisted. Anyone have any similar experience/advice?

I am have a terrible time finding maternity jeans that are long and slim. They are all too big and pouch out in all the wrong places. Anyone have any recommendations, that are not $200 a pair?

If my name appears in someone's friend list, then they will know I did not cancel my account, just took them off my friend list. So I want to make sure if I block them, they won't see me anywhere at all.

Says he sees an ear infection. But she is not showing any signs of pain at all (she is 1.5). We ALWAYS get antiobiotics. Just do not know why you woud give a child with no fever or symptoms antiobiotics.

A visit or phone call with my mother in law just ends up leaving me feeling bad. She is always making comments to try to make us feel guilty, or make me feel like I am an overprotective or controlling mother (i.e. she repeats this same story about this kid who died because her mother tried to protect her from too many germs and she never built a good immunity.) She also seems to constantly throw her relationship with her daugher in our face (probably to try to get us to try to win her attention or come around more), She obviously treats us and our kids second to her daughter and her kids and does not even try to hide it. She seems jelous of my family, and I suspect this to be the reason why she is obviously trying to flaunt favorites in our face. I have tried to talk to my husband, who hates the whole topic and would rather just avoid it. Regardless, he has tried to talk to his mother, who just does not get it and does not change. I am ready to disconnect from her completly, since interactions with her only lead me to feeling bad and arguing with my husband. Maybe this is selfish, but it has been years of this and I dont want the bad energy in my family any more. Not sure what else to do.

Today I found a robins egg with a small crack, which I made worse by accident. A lady from our nature preserve walked me through removing the remaining shell, then directed me to put the bird back in the nest and watch for the mom. Although I saw the mom when I went out to put the bird into the nest, I had not seen her for hours and temp was droping, so I was directed to put the bird back inside under a lamp. The bird is laying on its side, embryo position (which is how its been behaving), but is no longer opening its mouth. I can see its breathing. I wonder if I am prolonging its misery. Not sure what to do.

My husband says that being nice to his mother when I have to see her is being a two faced phony, because I complain about the rude things she does and says to my sister behind her back. I do not act overly nice to her, or call her to chat, or even invite her over because we do not get along. I am only nice when I have to interact with her, and bite my tongue the whole night. I think am being polite and doing the right thing, while my husband calls me two faced phony.

My husband gets in my face, pokes at me, and even pushes at my shoulder when we fight. He critizes a lot during these arguments. Is this just normal fighting or is this abuse?