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My question is two parts: One, I want this look for my groom and his groomsmen. I have no idea where to look or how to find a jacket like that. Everything I am finding is chunky and ugly, and not at all classic looking like this.

Two, I am getting married in July, and my colors are purple and turquoise. I love this whole outfit, and I think the only thing I would change wuld be the dark colors since it will be july. Could I do grey instead of black for the vest?

Here is the pic:

http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Carson-Kressleys-Co...

Links and terminology would be greatly appreciated. I am really bad at knowing the names of cuts and such when it comes to fashion. All help is greatly appreciated.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 years now, since we were 14/15. We got engaged on our 10th anniversary. Since then, we begun to have problems because he says the idea of kids is making him panic. I found out in Dec that he was seeing one of his friends romantically (he said they never slept together) so I moved out. We were working on things, everything was getting better, and on Valentine's Day we fully reconciled after he said he had been going to counseling and had completely stopped talking to her. Last night, a friend texted my sister and said he was out at a bar with her (when he was supposed to be working), and seemed much to cuddly/couply with her. I feel sick over it because I really thought we were making progress and making plans. My question is twofold:

Part One, should I stay- if we decide to go to couples counseling, can we fix it/ should we fix it?

Part Two, why do I want to fix it so badly? He has hurt me so bad and I am devastated, but I have this overwhelming urge to fix it. It really makes me feel pathetic, and this is not the first time he has done something like this and had me stay. He is a habitual liar, but I keep hoping for change and keep thinking we can fix it. What the hell is wrong with me?

I would appreciate any general opinions, but counselors are especially welcomed and encourage to answer.

I'm not speaking to my sister.?

My sister and I have had a falling out. There have been many things to lead up to this:

-She was supposed to live with me for only 2 months, and ended up staying for a year and a half.

-She was consistently late on paying shared bills.

-She broke my boyfriend's Xbox controller and took 3 months to replace it.

-She let her cats pee all over the carpet in her bedroom (in the apartment we shared).

--------------------->She said she would replace it by 8/31, it is almost October and still nothing.

-She invited me to a Taylor Swift concert (that I was going to pay for the ticket of) then uninvited me, then re-invited me, then officially uninvited me again. The last time she uninvited me was because the person she invited was paying for the ticket, but so was I-- no sense.

-Overall, she treats me bad, talks to me in a snappy tone, and is not supportive in the way I need her to be.

Additional stress:

-My boyfriend also feels extremely mistreated by her as well and it causes fights when she and I are on speaking terms when she still has not taken responsibility for her actions (carpet replacement mainly).

-She is a wonderful friend to everyone she comes in contact with, except me.

It's been a couple weeks since I have spoke to her and I am starting to miss her. That does not change what she has done to me and what she continues to do to me. She has given me an insincere apology (through text no less), and I am trying to figure out if we should be back on speaking terms or not and if I should initiate. I just don't know how to proceed. I feel it's bitc#y not to talk to her, but I also feel extremely betrayed, and as her older sister, I feel like it's my job to teach her how to treat me.

Please let me know what your opinion is and what you think I should do.

I took Ethics in college and I remember there were three main reasons why an act was categorized as wrong. I know two of them but cannot for the life of me remember the third. The first I remember is if it hurts someone else (emotionally, physically, etc), if it takes away a person't autonomy (i.e. the ability to make a decision, like lying or withholding the truth does), and then I cannot think if the third. Please help!

Is there a way to install the new 120GB iPod classic software on my 80GB iPod classic?

I'd love to get the Genius feature on my 80GB iPod classic. I'm sure the hardware is basically the same as the new 120GB model, so I imagine the new software would probably work if Apple wasn't blocking us from installing it.

Is there any way to trick iTunes into thinking that you have a different iPod model than you really do? How does it determine which model you have?

If that's impossible, is there any other way to update the firmware other than iTunes?

The last two times I have had sex with my boyfriend, when I have gone pee, I have noticed that I am bleeding a little. I have had an IUD in since November, and haven't really had a full period since then. Is sex just causing spotting or is this something else? It looks slightly different than period blood, and it doesn't last long, maybe a few hours at most. I'm not in any pain, though sometimes I experience a little cramping during sex. The sex isn't highly aggressive, or violent. The cramping during sex is no more than I have usually experienced before having and IUD.

This is an extremely personal question, serious answers only, please.

It's a person, place, or thing that rolls the plot forward without a lot of explanation, similar to a plot hole. An example of this can be found in Mary Shelley's Frankenstein when the monster finds clothing exactly his size on the side of a road. It is basically a writing blunder, but they usually go unnoticed. Does anyone know what the name of this is? It has totally slipped my mind and it's killing me!

Thanks.

About Me:

I seem to be prone to bulking up, I have always had a lot of muscle- I don't look as heavy as I am for instance.

I guess I will share my weight on here... I was 190 when I started; I have only lost 5 pounds bringing me to 185.

My Routine:

I have been working really hard to lose weight for almost a month.

I have been working out on my Total Gym (TG) three to five times a week alternating between the Advanced Days 1 & 3 and the Advanced Days 2 & 4.

So far, I can really feel the difference- for example I am lifting things I could have never lifted before.

I work out of level two on my TG, so when I train I am lifting about 28 lbs for 3 sets at 15 reps a piece.

At this point I haven't included much cardio into my routine and I have been working on the advanced workout pages in my TG book.

Details-

Days 1 & 3:

Front Press - Chest

Butterfly – Chest

Seated Bench Press – Chest

Front Deltoid Raises – Shoulders

Side Deltoid Raises – Shoulders

Rear Deltoid Raises – Shoulders

Seated Curls – Biceps

Laying Curls – Biceps

Pulley Ab Crunch – Abs

Twister – Abs

Days 2 & 4:

Pull Up – Back

Arm Pullover – Back

Leg Pull –Legs

Lunges –Legs

Hip Abduction –Legs

Hamstring Pull – Legs

Inner Thigh Pull – Legs

Tricep Extension – Triceps

Kneeling Kickbacks –Triceps

Surfers – Triceps

My Issue:

My weight hasn't changed all that much, and I am noticing that the little fat I am losing is just turning into solid muscle- this is especially true for my arms! I measured them; they have only shrunk by 1/2 an inch, from 12.75 to 12.25 inches around.

I want to lose the fat and become slender, not bulky. At this point, I have guns, and I am not happy about it! Help!

My Questions for You:

Does anyone know any workout routines I can do with the total gym that will trim the fat and won’t bulk me up?

How much cardio should I be doing per day? How many times a week?

What should be my cardio to strength training ratio as someone who seems to bulk up easily?

I have done nothing to my diet, any suggestions?

Thanks so much for your time.

Here's the situation: I have been sick with what seems to be strep (pus pockets on the throat, swollen lymph node in neck, sore throat, fatigue, etc) since New Year's Eve.

I do not have insurance, I am very poor, so therefore going to the doctor is NOT an option. I have also tried free clinics in my area, they wouldn't take me.

I was cleaning out my bathroom and I found some old anti-biotics from a year ago (erythromycin). I have enough to take it everyday 3 times a day for 7 days, or 2 times a day for 10 days. Would this help me get over this bacteria that has dropped from my throat to my chest? Could it make matters worse for me?

I have been sick since December 31st, 2009. That makes it a full week today. My symptoms started with just some body aches, feeling hot and then feeling cold, and slight sore throat. I though it was getting better when I lost my voice on Sunday. My voice finally cam back today and I thought I was getting better, but this evening the pain in my throat came back with a vengeance and now it's difficult to swallow. This thing may be moving into my chest as well, which is not good since I am asthmatic. Unfortunately, thanks to the way our current healthcare system works, no money and no insurance means no doctor's visit for me. I already researched programs in my area, and I can't afford any of them. My voice seems to be fading out again too.

I need to get better so I can get back to teaching. Anyone know any home remedies to cure or speed up the process of a really bad sore throat that has caused me to lose my voice?

Symptoms include: runny nose, loss of voice, swollen lymph nodes in my neck, very slight pus pockets in the back of my throat, and lethargy. Chills have subsided and I haven't noticed a fever. Please, any help would be greatly appreciated.

My sister lives on the top floor of an apartment building built around 1920. It's considered a historical building so changes cannot be made to the building. The floors creak like crazy no matter where she steps in her room. My sister's neighbor below her constantly complains about the noise. The problem is that my sister works a late shift (1-10pm) and, even if my sister tip toes, this neighbor girl complains. Her complaints have gotten more and more harassing and hostile as of late which includes: banging on the ceiling, pounding on the door, and screaming "shut up," at the top of her lungs. My sister has explained to her time and time again that she is doing nothing extraordinary, she is just walking in her room, or sitting at her computer. My sister listens to her music on her headphones and uses closed captioning to watch TV.

My questions are: Can this girl complain to the police about my sister? My sister had asked her at least three months ago to go through the landlord for anymore noise complaints since this has become a harassing situation. Could my sister file a complaint against her for harassment?

I'm on the website, http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp I just found out that someone whom I considered a friend was fired from his job because of his registration as a sex offender. I looked him up to see what he did, but he is listed under "other offense," and his convictions are not listed. The other categories are rape, offense against children, and sexual battery. For all of those categories it lists specifically what the perpetrator did. If it isn't the other categories listed above, since I assume they would have to post his convictions then, then what could it be? Any insight or links would be helpful. I am just wondering what the hell he did. This man lives in Colorado if that helps at all, zip 80634.Every green box you click on doesn't list the conviction. You can also look at the link above to see the categories, the area, etc.

Thanks.

I work MeMe's Food Court in Greeley, Colorado. We sell snack foods, soda, etc. At night I bring a wagon load of stuff to sell at a concessions stand. I started on Wednesday, and until yesterday hadn't had one break or lunch. I told her I was taking a fifteen minute break, she later told me I only get a ten minute break. That is fine with me; however, she is now telling me that since I work the ball park and since it is rather slow, I shouldn't be getting my break as regularly and there is a different law. I think she is full of ****. Does the law about breaks and lunches apply whether or not I am working a slow job at the concessions stand?

http://www.ewin.com/articles/restper.htm

At this website it says Colorado: 10 minutes for every four hours worked.

Here is something else I found:

http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/state/meal.htm#Colorado

Colorado

Basic Standard:

½ hour after 5 hours, except when workday will be completed in 6 hours or less. On-duty meal period counted as time worked and permitted when nature of work prevents relief from all duties.

Basic Standard

Prescribed By:

Administratively issued Wage Order for 7 industries

Coverage:

Applicable to retail trade, food and beverage, public housekeeping, medical profession, beauty service, laundry and dry cleaning, and janitorial service industries. Excludes certain occupations, such as teacher, nurse, and other medical professionals.

More:

http://www.legalandrew.com/2007/06/07/lunch-break-...

A few states give you a right to short breaks. In these states, you generally get a 10-minute break for every 4-hour shift. These states include: California, Colorado, Illinois, Kentucky, Minnesota, Nevada, Oregon, and Washington.

What do you think? Does the law about breaks and lunches apply whether or not I am working a slow job at the concessions stand? Is this woman just trying to screw me over?

I have already seen multiple dermatologists who have determined it's not an allergic reaction, and just prescribe steroid cream that thins my skin and doesn't help with the itching.

THIS IS IN TWO PARTS, THE HPV QUESTION AND THE QUESTION OF WHETHER OR NOT I SHOULD LEAVE HIM.

This girl was a friend of mine, and a year ago she said she had HPV.

I am confused on whether to stay for one.

A bigger concern of mine however is whether or not I have Human Papillomavirus (HPV.) Does it work in breakouts, or do I automatically have it?

IF YOU WANT TO SOUND OFF ON WHETHER I SHOULD STAY WITH HIM OR NOT, PLEASE, READ ON:

We have been together for eight years. When I confronted him, he lied about it. It wasn't until I hacked his Myspace account to find out the truth and caught him that he showed any remorse.

He told me he slept with her the night we "broke up," and that alcohol was involved.

I guess I am just upset that it's eight months later that he's telling me and that he blatantly lied about it when the girl told me.

I only found out the truth because I did some digging. If we were broken up, ok- I get that. But he should have tested himself before having sex with me.

Now I am at risk. HE LIED. What do I do with that?

PLEASE READ EVERYTHING. I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP. We have been together for eight years. When I confronted him, he lied about it. It wasn't until I hacked his Myspace account to find out the truth and caught him that he showed any remorse. This girl was a friend of mine, and a year ago she said she had HPV.

Should I break up with him? Should I stay? I feel so betrayed and depressed. I don't know what to do or were to turn. I love him, but I can't look at him the same anymore.

Again, this was eight months ago, and it was so long ago that I can't be sure that we were broken up. If we were it was for a VERY short time.

He told me he slept with her the night we "broke up," and that alcohol was involved.

I guess I am just upset that it's eight months later that he's telling me and that he blatantly lied about it when the girl told me.

I only found out the truth because I did some digging. If we were broken up, ok- I get that. But he should have tested himself before having sex with me.

Now I am at risk. HE LIED. What do I do with that?

I posted a blog on Myspace saying how much I loved my boyfriend and how great he was. I then got a comment from one of his closest girl friends, whom I thought he had a brother-sister type relationship with, saying that he hasn't been completely honest with me. I pursued this through e-mail and, long story short, she told me that they had sex when he moved out last August.

He had moved down to Denver (I live in Greeley,) to go to school and take advantage of better job opportunities. As a side note, he blamed me for all of our problems at the time because I had convinced him to move to Greeley while I finished school. This is why he moved back to Denver.

I told him what Kat, his "sister," had said and he totally denied it. He said she was lying, that he didn't think it was her and yah yah yah. He looked me straight in the eye and said, "I did not have sex with her, you are the only one I have been with."

He said he was going to call her and allow me to listen to their conversation. However, I found out he created a Myspace and messaged her. I took the time to hack his account. This is not something I am proud of, but I needed to know the truth.

He did it. He had sex with her. It is all there in black an white. I confronted him. He said the decision of what to do next is up to me. He says I don't deserve this, that I am a good girl and and good girlfriend, but that he loves me and wants me to stay for purely selfish reasons. He said that he thinks I should leave because I am better than what he did to me.

I don't know what to do. We were most likely broken up, however I am not sure of the time line since he has kept this from me for so long. I think it would have been different if he had told me right away. I also know that alcohol was involved, not that it makes a difference. He still had unprotected sex with someone, who has HPV by the way, and didn't tell me for 8 months. I do not know what to do. I love him, but I don't know if I am cheating myself by staying with him.

Please help.