Padeecat

I have just found out that my partner of more than 3 years hasn't been where he says he's been...

He travels to manager's conferences fairly regularly and I have just 'discovered' that when he said he was in London he stayed with friends somewhere else.

I have asked him about this and he says he stopped off with friends on his way back. I'm happy to accept that is true as I know he has friends in that area. He says he has done it numerous times and never bothered to tell me.

He doesn't view it as lying but I'm a bit cheesed off about it! He feels that because he doesn't actually say he wasn't going to stay with his friends he doesn't lie.

I think that's a load of old poo!

Sorry that's not really a question, but I am looking for opinions and thoughts. Thanks.

Is there a way to find out what interactive services have been used from a mobile? The bill lists short text numbers that you would normally send a code to. Any ideas how I can find out what these services are?

I've got some .r and .d files on my memory card. I don't know what they are or how to view them.

Can anyone tell me how I can see what they are?

I want to know what websites other people have been viewing using my internet connection.

Is it possible to get a full list of sites accessed through my wireless enabled modem even if I don't have access to all machines using it? If so, how?

I think other people may be making use of the connection.

My partner has just been 'found' by his birth family. I am trying to be supportive but he is giving me a huge amount of grief. Can anyone out there suggest any good support groups that might be of help. He's not interested but I hoped someone might be able to help me...

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It has been recommended by a number of people and I would love to get hold of a copy.

Any suggestions anyone?

2 years ago I met my partner on the internet. He moved in with me when things became serious. He pays nothing towards my bills or mortgage but works away so spends a fair amount on petrol. I have also bought him 2 cars and he owes me an additional £1600 when I have bailed him out about a year ago.

He’s started coming to bed at 2 in the morning but over Christmas & New Year it was around 6am on occasions. I saw him looking on a site but he said he was just playing and assured me he wasn’t subscribed. I decided to snoop (making me a bad person, I know) on the computer and found he has spent over £200 on internet dating and chat sites in the last year. He has been giving out his e-mail and making out that he lives with a friend and is looking to move closer to work. More importantly, he’s been lying to me.

I’m gutted. He has said he wasn’t going to do anything and I’m over reacting. Having written that this seems like a silly question but, is this man playing me for a fool?