Cecilia

i m going to be 20 in less than a month. i failed my second year of college after a really difficult transfer and a move back home. my degree is difficult, and i m digging myself out of the trenches. i want to pursue my PhD, but i don t have the grades to get into any research labs. by the time my grades will be good enough, i ll be done with my degree. my boyfriend is a year younger than i am, just finished his freshman year, and is doing great things in a summer research lab. it makes me feel like ****, but i have to stand in and be the supportive girlfriend. i feel like i m at a dead end. i just hit one year at a job that i like as a barista, but it s sucking up my time and preventing me from doing my school work. at the same time, it serves as my social life--i don t have any friends at school because i transferred and i live at home. i don t want to quit my job because it could serve as a backup plan, but i know if i want to really succeed in school, i have to quit. i have a mood disorder, and anxiety, which triggers OCD behaviors. i just started seeing a therapist again, but i don t feel like she s helping. i feel like i m in the same place i was when i turned 17, and i d rather die than turn 20 laying in my childhood bed. i don t know what to do, i don t have anyone to talk to, and i m afraid if i bring up these things to my boyfriend it ll be seen as selfish--he s going through his own stuff, i should be there for him.

can someone please simplify this for me, and then explain to me how they got it? you don't even really have the simplify it, just explain how to do it. thanks!

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i've been dating my boyfriend for about four months now and i really like him, there aren't a lot of problems in our relationship. i keep having dreams that i start dating someone else (usually a random person) and don't feel guilt at ALL. last night i had a dream i started dating one of my ex's (a person i dated casually for about two months, if that) at the same time as my boyfriend, and then a long term ex boyfriend (very abusive and manipulative) convinced me to break up with both of them to date him again.

in my dreams my boyfriend is never present, and i never actually break up with him--i just say i will a bunch of times.

what does this mean?

i'm training for a half marathon and for some reason i'm having so much trouble pushing myself over 5-6 miles. physically i know i can do it, but mentally i'm not there and i find it hard to push myself. how can i push past this in my training? any advice, personal stories, or words of wisdom are greatly appreciated.

i'm in the process of converting to islam, and i'm looking for some advice! i'm a full time student and work quite a bit in my spare time at a cafe, does anyone have any suggestions about how to fit prayer into a busy schedule? also, how to approach people on the topic of prayer (ie, i need to have my break at this time so i can pray, etc...), no one really knows that i'm in the process of converting.

thank you!

i was brought up in a very traditional Catholic house hold. i really thought catholicism was for me, until i started at a Catholic high school. i've taken classes and explored many different religions, searching for something that called to me. for a while i even called myself an atheist. it's been a long journey for me, but i've finally realized that islam is what has been calling to me.

the problem is i have a boyfriend who is Catholic, very adamantly Catholic. how do i even begin discussing this with him? i love him, and i don't want to have to leave him...but i know he would not be down for converting, and we're both way to young to be married (i'm 18, he's 20). we're both still virgins, he wants to wait until marriage, but we've planned to be together for a long time.

also, i'm really worried about the judgements i'll receive from friends if/when i start wearing the hijab. how do you explain to people at work and school, and friends that you're not that close with?

i would really appreciate any and all guidance, thank you.

i purchased a guinea pig about four days ago, her name is Rosy and she's 8 months old. yesterday i noticed she was itching quite a bit, and today i noticed two tiny scabs on her. one on her lower back, and one behind her ear. i called the pet store where i got her and they said it might be her bedding, i have her on paper pet bedding, but the pet store had her on some kind of wood chips. she's eating and drinking just fine, she's very active and doesn't seem sick at all, there isn't any hair loss.

so i'm wondering, is this more likely to be a case of mites, or is it actually just her getting used to this new bedding? should i wait a couple of days to see if it settles down? and if it is mites, is there an at home treatment i can use? my mom refuses to allow me to take her to the vet, even though i've paid for everything and will continue to pay for everything, so i would like the safest solution possible!

thank you!

I dated a boy for about a year and half and he just really screwed me up. He was extremely emotionally abusive and mentally ill. Two years later, I still find myself thinking of him every day--I'm afraid that he'll try and contact me. I don't tell people things because I don't trust them, he used everything I ever told him against me. Things between us got so bad that I began extreme self harming, he triggered many of my manic episodes and I'm now on serious psych medicine. Looking back, I realize now that he was the reason I took that downward spiral. Even after we broke up, he would text me in the middle of the night telling me that I was the ***** that broke him, that he was killing himself because of me, etc...

Recently, I tried dating this boy that I really liked. After two weeks of us "talking" he came to me and told me that he just wanted to be friends and one of his reasons was that I was too "secretive". I want to tell him things about me--I just really can't. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel totally alone, no one has the patience to break down these walls that I've built up. How am I supposed to get over this?

my best friend bought me a wooden yellow birdcage, just for decoration, for college. she put pictures all over it but im already using pictures for something else. does anyone have a dyi project where i can use the cage? thanks!

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so, I'm going to college and I'm looking for a laptop. I know, vaguely, what I'm looking for but I do not know what sort of computer is best to take to college with me. Here's what I want:

No external fan! I've had my current laptop for about four years now, and the fan is very loud and very hot, I don't want to have to deal with that in class.

No "clouds". I really want a hard drive on the computer.

Some CD-ROM drive and plenty of USB ports.

Also, I'm a PC kinda 'gal, so I'm really not leaning towards any sort of apple computer at all. So if anyone has any experience with any sort of lightweight laptop that they'd like to share, recommend, or even send out a warning against, please let me know!

I am seventeen years old and I suffer from terrible headaches, every single day, and nightmares. these aren't normal nightmares, though. they're more like vivid hallucinations, just when I'm about to drift off. they are terrifying, and I think I wake up many times before I actually do. usually, my headaches are the worst after one of these nightmares. I have been diagnosed with a mood disorder and I do have hallucinations during the day, but they generally aren't as vivid as these nightmares. normally they're just flashes of things. we have been to a neurologist and there is no physical sign of anything wrong with my brain. I can't sleep at night because of this, I'm desperate for anything. could any of this stuff be inter connected? if you know anything, please help. every bit counts, at this point.

i've only been seeing this kid for a couple of months but we're...totally different people. he's a great guy but i just don't feel a connection. so, how do i go about breaking it off? like, i know what i want to say but i don't know when to do it, or anything like that.

please, help?

thanks.

so last summer i met this kid online. we texted and video chatted everyday. then school started up and things got hectic. it's a long story, but we're not talking anymore and i'm confused if we're on good terms. we've texted once after the whole thing, and it was more like...a closure thing. we like each others posts on facebook occasionally, but that's it. he's coming to my town for college in three months, and i'm staying in town for college. i really want to see him, i want to text him now because i miss him like hell.

should i text him now, or should i wait until he's in town as well? or should i just not text him at all, because...i guess if he wants to talk to me, he would...?

this is kind of dumb but i play a lot of tennis and my racket arm is just a little bit bigger/more firm than my other harm. how can i even them out?

I'm seventeen years old, and I've been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I'm on medication. This has been a three year long struggle, and I'm semi stable. It's still a pretty big part of my life, and I'm assuming that it always will be.

I'm kind of seeing this guy. We've been on more than a few dates and we've kissed but we're not "official". We're still kind of awkward/getting to know each other. Sometime that's really been bugging is...do I tell him about this? I really don't want to scare him away. I've had two boyfriends in the past, and usually once I tell them everything sort of goes to ****.

Is it really that important? If I have it semi-under control now, is it a huge deal if I leave it out? If he finds out later somehow, without me telling him, do you think he would be angry?

i just want to make sure that if i tried it, i wouldn't totally freak out because of these medications. i've been diagnosed with bipolar disorder but the meds keep it pretty much in check so i don't think that should really be a problem.

i don't know, prom night is coming up and i've never tried it before. is it a good idea?

I've been diagnosed as bipolar and I take lithium and amitriptyline. I told my counselor that when I got off to college in the fall, I want to go off my medication. It's pretty obvious that my psychiatrist will no longer have a huge roll in my treatment, but why did she say that she would also no longer be able to see me?

I saw this guy at a party last night, we've known each other since we were just kids but he's REALLY grown up...if you know what I mean...anyway, we really hit it off and when I got home I had a facebook message from him that basically said that it was really good to catch up, etc...we talked for a little while and he told me that I looked really pretty at that party, and then he asked for my phone number. Once I gave it to him we exchanged a few more messages and then he said that he had to go to bed, but hoped that we could hang out again.

Next morning: nothing. Now it's afternoon, still nothing. I didn't get his number, so it's really up to him. Do you think he'll text me?

I've been thinking of taking some sort of diet pill, and I was wondering if they worked and if anyone had any suggestions?

I'm taking lithium and amitriptyline (anti-depressant), would a diet pill have any sort of weird effect with these pills?

Any all natural type of pill would be appreciated!

and also, if anyone knows, what are the steps to be taken after undergrad?