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I'm trying to understand this. Why would someone get back with an ex after breaking up due to geographical reasons and then, back together because the ex didn't want it to end. But life wasn't so great after the reunion. Life was miserable, grey, grim and doomed for the entire year. My friend broke it off but to get back within a few months later. Said that they have resolved their differences. At the moment, they're supposedly doing the long distance thing. So no wonder things are ok because the crazy ex isn't here. But really, can you resolve your differences that easily after living through a year of grey and doom? My friend called things comfortable, but love should be passion and not just physical I'm talking about here.

Anyways, if the ex is back, will it last? Or has the ex blinded my friend's judgement on what's right & wrong?

Your thoughts?

Is it hard to create your own website? Or can I follow the steps from a sort of "website for dummies" software? Also, do I need to work with particular fonts or can I use my own fonts? What do I need to get started?

I'm working on a Mac & hope that someone can help me out.

Thanks.

Because of the latest disasters in Asian, do you think flights coming from Vietnam or Cambodia are delayed? And if you have travelled there, would you connect elsewhere, say, Hong Kong?

I'd like to know what is the correct order in dealing with a second party to produce something.

Which comes first:

1) placing an order with the party

2) pay a deposit

3) signing the contract

I've been told that I must place the order, then, pay a deposit & finally they will sign the contract. But, isn't that wrong?

How am I guaranteed that they will adhere to my contract if I'm asked to do most of the things first?

Any advice you have would be appreciated.

Thanks.

So there is there guy who planned to see me, asked me to wait & even promised his words. Then, all the sudden, in less than 24 hours before our last talk, he doesn't want contact with me. He gave me no explanation. Nothing. Just completely left me in the dark wondering what happened. I don't think I did anything wrong. Do I have the right to ask him what happened? If he won't respond, then, how can I get through him?

He asked to see me but then got called to work on the day we were suppose to meet. Other days he was busy & same for me. But we kept in touch. We talked Thursday and he told me soon that we can see each other and that I should know his situation is making it hard (the ex). Our conversation was fine.

Then, Friday came. I text to see if he could meet. I was finished work & same for him. Minutes later got a message telling me that he's taking heat for my messages & that he'll contact me soon. I wrote back. Lashed about the ex. He told me not to stress about him, don't wait and that he moved out of the country. That he can't promise anything. I responded and his last text: "Please don't contact me anymore. Please. Not once more." From the entire time we've been in touch, feelings were exchanged, told me to wait, said soon we'll see each other. Thursday's conversation was fine. And suddenly, I'm asked not to contact him anymore? I know he is not perfect but was he asked to write that from her? He is a very gentle person that I can't understand if it was real or just for now because of the situation. He told me to wait. He told me his feelings. In less than 24 hours from Thursday-Friday, I'm at a lost.

What went wrong? What now? Sitting with guilt because of the ex? Exploded because I wanted us to meet & the ex was angry. Couldn't take it? Was it written by his over jealous ex? Was he pushed to write it with her next to him?

Help.

Is the following correct:

Not once more.

It literally means "not anymore," right? Do native speakers use this in proper or casual language.

What are the etiquettes & health guidelines regarding jacuzzis at the gym? At my gym, it is assumed that one rinses off before entering the jacuzzi, however, I have yet to see this. I find it unhygenic & distasteful to see a person completely naked, walk directly into the jacuzzi without rinsing off first. I think because the jacuzzi is a public facility for everyone's disposal, that, a swimsuit should be worn before entering. However, I have yet to find real answers on this as I would like to present my thoughts to the manager at the gym. What's your take on jacuzzis at the gym?

He asked me what I wanted to which I responded. However, when I asked him the same question, he hasn't given me a respond. He's not interested? He's confused? He's thinking? What? I don't get it.

The problem also is his ex walked back into his life to my surprise considering him & I were getting close. Now, we're not really talking though we have text. But why hasn't he responded to my question? I mean, if he doesn't want to be with me, can't he just let me know? I know no one wants to hear that, but what is he thinking??

Is it because he can't control himself over the fact that his ex is back? And he's just not into me?

Help.

I'm not talking about showering gifts or being annoying "in your face" type of thing. I mean, really, can you win someone's heart with kindness, sincerity, honesty and charm? Now, here's a twist..Can you do that when the ex is in the picture? If so, tell me.

Thank-you.

Hi there...

Just don't know how he feels about me now. We had a fight 3 weeks tomorrow. And 2 days ago, we started talking though it was awkward. The cause of the fight: his ex is here & will be for the next 6 months.

I received a text from him yesterday which said:

>>>I just don't understand what you want? Friends? Or what?

It took that night to think hard what I wanted to say. I simply said:

>>>I want us to get to know each other. What do you want?

So now I don't know how he feels because he hasn't responded. Is he avoiding the subject? Thinking? Confused?

Help....

Thoughts?

What would you do in this situation?

I got a text from someone whom I had a fight with recently. The main reason: The ex is in town...

He was nearly getting over her till she sprang the idea of coming here. This means things with him & I, well....hence the fight.

This is what he text me today:

"I just don't understand what you want? Friends? Or what?"

I hate text conversation. It's ambiguous because you can't tell the tone of the speaker. And plus, it's just bad form of communication. What is "or what?" Does he think more than friends? I don't know how to respond to him. I'm not sure if I should choose "or what" only because the ex is here. Also, afraid of what the outcome might be.

Thoughts?

I have a problem. I've been stressed over it.

I got into a fight with someone whom I cared about. I had a chance to enter a relationship with him but gave him time to get over his ex. But last week, she came here & will be here for 6 months. Hence the fight. We haven't spoken since. I wrote him that night with my feelings. Majority of what I wrote were real & true from my heart, the small percentage was out of rage and mostly shocked over what happened. I was spiteful and rude. I'm not defending him whatsoever. But I said that I hope he has "nightmares" while she is here & be annoyed with her. Now I sit with guilt because of my words. I'm really not this person but I was shocked & reacted out of that without thinking clearly.

Do you think he's completely decided to stop talking to me because of that? I know I hurt him but I want to contact him though I'm not sure if I should wait another week or just do it.

Last, I think it may be missed opportunity with him but I kind of don't want that even though I don't stand a chance because his ex is back in his life.

What would you do?

Thanks for reading...

Well, do you? I was told today that there are the "gods" above who lead us to walk a certain path in life. Do you believe it? I don't know. For me, I feel I've been lead to always walk the jinxed path. Hence, I don't believe in fate because of it.

For example, I met someone & now his ex is back in his life. I stand no chance. Then, why did the gods introduced him to me? And why did I accidentally meet him & the ex by chance? And why did this person finally revealed his feelings though the ex is back? I don't understand how life works sometimes. For me, I feel that fate is a curse not a blessing for me.

Thoughts?

Are guys generally the silent type when it comes to sharing their thoughts? Or after we talk to them? Is it true that they're slow when it comes to getting over someone unlike the opposite sex? A friend of mine told me this. I think both sexes need time to heal, don't you think?

Do you? For me, it's hard because my trust has been betrayed a few times before. Since, I've been careful.

I was suppose to meet this person on the weekend though plans weren't concrete. I found out just now that he can't because his weekend will be packed preparing for work for the following week. I know he's been busy these days, but I'm not so sure I believe him. I mean, what if he's just saying that so he could get out of it.

Is he genuine with his words? Lies? How can I find out?

I'm a little peeved. This guy I like though doesn't know my feelings...ok, I should let him know but I assumed that he knows. I think I will have to let him know. Anyway, I can't tell if he doesn't care or if he's just preoccupied with things. I mean, I need this important book for my job which he borrowed. It's somewhere in his apt though he hasn't taken time to find it. I've texted & rang today asking for it. And what do I get? He said he hasn't cleaned the house yet to find it. I've done a lot to help him. Perhaps, I'm a sucker but I'm a nice person at heart. It just disappoints me that he doesn't seem to realize how important it is to me....or doesn't take that time to search for it. And I've asked him to call & let me know. He text instead. Isn't that cop out? I told him that I'd like to talk to him face to face & to call. What are the odds of him really doing that? Should I just call him?

Advice please.

If he asks you to call back but you ask him to call instead, so why doesn't he just call? He was busy this evening but said he would call & it's been hours now. What gives? Who should make the next contact? Him, don't you think? But if he doesn't call, does that mean he isn't as interested as you would think he is? Ohh...so confusing.

Hopefully someone out there can relate to this...It's that dreaded drag on "good-bye" up close and wanting to lean in to kiss whomever it is in front of you. I can't tell for weeks now if he's interested. Seriously. I must be blind. I am shy though so it's not easy for me to make the first move because I worry about being rejected. But if he agrees to meet, spend time & talk to me without any interruptions, what does that mean? Is he interested? Or just wanting to collect another friendship? I can't tell. I mean, he knows by now through my flirting, well, hopefully, he knows how I feel. Doesn't he? Are guys that clueless? Should make the first move? I'm pretty shy as I worry about getting hurt.

What do you think?

I'm trying to make my head understand this...maybe I know but I'm a little ticked. This guy whom I'm intrigue & would like to know more of isn't over his ex, I don't think. We've gone twice & we've had lunch together a few times (we work together). Anyways, his ex would call literally everyday. She lives overseas. I found out today that he has called her a few times but on weekends. He's told me before that he's moved on & she's slowly letting go....Am I dumb? I mean, he's so not over her, am I right? I mean, if he is, he would tell her to stop calling? And he wouldn't even need to answer the phone, right? We're not dating though we're close....sure, call me jealous, but what am I expect to feel? Is it obvious now that he knows my true feelings? I wasn't going to say but I had to...it was bugging me. Are guys generally clued-out? Do I even stand a chance?

Help.