TennesseeGirl

Does this mean that the person likes you but doesn’t yet consider you a friend or is it a term of wisdom passed down? Or something else?

Neighbors have a yeppy dog that they stick out on their front porch 15 hrs a day that is 20 feet from my carport and barks at me whenever I go or come and whenever I’m outside or have company over then 2 more in back yard same WOF WOF no peace to BBQ or walk to my car or watch kids play outside. I nicely asked them to reduce time outside due to the nonstop noise and they said “we are allowed to have dogs”. I’ve been a good neighbor to them

And am not sure why there is such a lack of respect? 😢. I help them with their kids in times of need and let them know avoid things going on in the community etc am Friendly and helpful and feel hurt that my peace and quiet is such a low priority. If the situation were reversed I would try to be less annoying to a nice neighbor. Any suggestions?

I have this grumpy ole neighbor next door that keeps complaining that my indoor/outdoor cat is coming into his yard etc cat doesn’t do anything just walks across the yard etc but I typically have the cat indoors by dusk as to not be roaming at night but cats can be unpredictable. He leaves his trash unsecured and raccoons or something have on occasion gotten into it and it’s always blamed on my cat. I never have an issue with my garbage so perhaps the problem is his trash containment? My cat is very mellow sleeps on the carport most of the time and plays with my kids. Not sure why he’s the scapegoat of this? Should I just ignore this unless he provides proof it’s my cat?

I have a so called friend who discourages me whenever I try to better myself. Like always points out the negative about the endeavor instead of the positive. For example if I decide to go back to school she always has a story of horrific end to someone else trying that endeavor. We also sub at the same school and she tried to talk me out of that said it would take 6 months to get a sub job. I got one in a week. Then the other day I was moved to sub in a certain class and she told everyone that she didn’t think I could handle that class and everyone was checking on me all day. I had a good day no problems what so ever even a compliment from the principal. Our kids go to school together so I don’t want an enemy, but at the same time I’m not getting the same respect back that I give.

I have a friend who is always offering to help me out even picked my kids up from school occasionally if one of mine are sick or something. I try to return the favor by offering to run an errand for her or pick up her kids and she never takes me up on it. I’m very responsible and have four children of my own. It makes me uncomfortable not ever being able to return the favor. What should I do?

My son has a boy In his class that he wanted to hangout with he’s in 2nd grade. He asked for a play dates and The boy requested that he be invited to his sleepover birthday party So they both like to hang out and have a blast. All summer I have been Inviting him to come over to play or go to the pool etc. I never can get his mother to get together, but For the last two years they have invited us to both of their kids birthday parties. But I can never get her to do a play date. I gave it one more try and invited her to the pool today and she said “I don’t have to pay to go to the pool because my mother-in-law has a pool.” That was her reply to my invite!! I can’t decide if she is rude or high on something 🙄. I got mad and told her that her comment was extremely rude and to please take me off of the birthday party invite list and I would take the hint and quit inviting her to things. I just don’t understand why people are so antisocial poor children they want to have play dates and the parents are comatose.

I had a friend whom we both liked each other a lot at first then realized we were not compatible as friends. She was very introverted Which was a big deal and didn’t think it would be. I still like her and miss her but was never happy in the friendship does this make sense?

A friend and I broke up because she said I was too involved and complicated. (I texted her maybe once a week to say hello dropped her a card in the mail 2x in last yr a sentumenal card. And I invited her to go to Lunch or out 1-2x a month. No harsh words or conflicts. I did notice that I was the one that usually reached out. Just very frustrating when you think something is going good and apparently you’re getting on the other persons nerves by being nice and trying to grow the friendship. It would have been a lot easier if there was a big blowup then I would’ve known what I did wrong. Has anyone else out there had this happen where everything is going really good and then all of a sudden they don’t want to hang out anymore, and only have time for family suddenly? Or their husband. I’m also thinking this could be a jealous husband situation?

When my friend and I hang out we have an absolute blast. Two weeks after we went to a concert I invited her to go shopping and she had company coming no big deal now two weeks later asked her again and she was busy. I asked her what was up and she said I seemed impatient. What does that mean? She’s always responsive when I text her etc. I don’t want to give up on someone who I get along well with and want to be friends with but this is very frustrating and hurtful and I told her so and she said we were just different in how much we want to do things. She definitely doesn’t have a ton of other friends so I know that’s not it. Is a homebody. Not sure what to do? Help

She said no more quizzes. We are good friends and I wanted to share so she could know more about me. Confused why she was annoyed but don’t really want to ask. She said her own sister doesn’t even know that much about her. I guess she thought I was gonna ask her to take it. I love her to death but seems very guarded. What should I do?

Feeling confused. Most times when I invite them they go and always keep plans but never initiate, and I feel confused. Should I continue to invite them?

I have an introvert fried who sometimes sends mixed messages makes me question if she is interested in hanging out but whenever I make plans she always keeps the plans so to me that is a clear thumbs up right? But rarely initiates texts so I am sometimes feeling confused. But she usually says yes when invited and never cancels so what’s your take?

We hang out often and whenever I text her she always text back and a lot of times we text for 30 minutes or more and have long conversations. And we have a blast When we hang out. She has given me every indication that she wants to be friends she always keeps our plans etc. I just usually have to do the initiating such as texts but as soon as I do she’s interested. Am I just being paranoid or is this one sided?

My mom and I have had an on again off again relationship, A lot caused by poor choices she has made and then blames me for them. That is a long story short. I recently allowed her back into my life but I told her due to the instability of our past I wanted to not involve my kids until we were in a more stable place in terms of our relationship. Then a week later she called asking to talk to the kids and I told her no. She then told me she had sent me some money and to send it back! Insert arrogant tone. I told her that I had explained the ground rules for rebuilding our relationship. She then sent the kids package after package in the mail. Then called a week later asking to talk to them. Part of the reason it never works out between us is always seems like she has an agenda,and she has done things in the past that has made me not trust her. Every time she tries to reestablish contact she does this and tries to guilt me into seeing the kids, and fails to see my Desire to involve them when our relationship is more stable. I do not know what to do to get her to understand that my children aren't a business arrangement where I can be bought. I have tried to explain to her why this is not acceptable and she just does not get it. I do not know what else to do and I'm tired of being manipulated

Help with how to handle this situation?

My moms husband is a controlling stingy ***. I offered to get my mom a tablet to check email and see pics of my kids etc and their is a neighbor who has a B and B with wifi so I suggested she ask to use it and if it works out then think about getting it. He completely shut it down and said it s through the phone lines long distance call to do that etc (it s not he has no clue) but didn t even offer to find out more info. They changed tv from analog to digital for those who don t have cable in the area end it was going to cost $30 to get a converter box and he refuses to do that. (Who really needs tv) blah blah. And he has $$$ We have plans to go visit but for above reasons I really don t want to be around him at all! Is it too unreasonable for me to ask her to come join us to do something In town and visit us at our hotel? I really don t want this turd breathing my air honestly.

My moms husband is a controlling stingy ***. I offered to get my mom a tablet to check email and see pics of my kids etc and their is a neighbor who has a B and B with wifi so I suggested she ask to use it and if it works out then think about getting it. He completely shut it down and said it s through the phone lines long distance call to do that etc (it s not he has no clue) but didn t even offer to find out more info. They changed tv from analog to digital for those who don t have cable in the area end it was going to cost $30 to get a converter box and he refuses to do that. (Who really needs tv) blah blah. And he has $$$ We have plans to go visit but for above reasons I really don t want to be around him at all! Is it too unreasonable for me to ask her to come join us to do something In town and visit us at our hotel? I really don t want this turd breathing my air honestly.

I ve always heard the saying that others don t make you feel like certain way. How can this be? Yes it s an empowering statement but really? For example if you walk up to someone and say "you re ugly!" Didn t you just make that person feel terrible? This irritates me because when someone does something to hurt you and you confront them then answer always is well I didn t make you feel any way. I m wanting some opinions on this. I think the phrase that I didn t make you feel any way is complete bs!

Stepmother, not mother in law so not the woman who lives to feed her baby boy. Not the situation. I have several kids so there is lots to do around the house. I love to cook and it is tradition for me to feed family and guests. Problem is she insists on cooking and cooking what she likes which is turkey every dinner, and turkey ham for breakfast. 🤔😣, I offer to cook and share the kitchen (and she knows I love to cook and I m a good cook I ve been told I should open a restaurant). So I know that is not the issue. She said "I like to cook so I ll take over the kitchen." But when she does she ignores any requests such as could you please cook my steak med well. (The one night I bought steak). So I didn t have to eat turkey 🦃, and she ignored my request to put mine in early and I got rare steak then was told to just microwave it. I m so fed up with help from people who don t help with the mundane chores such as laundry or cleaning and try to take over my kitchen

My mother wants to be involved in my life but doesn t play fair what can I do?

My mother wants to be in my life but I have not been in touch with her for over a year, because of her childish narcissistic behavior. She took care of me as a child to a decent level yes but as soon as she had a boyfriend suddenly I was on the back burner and she deserved a life. This even went so far as to not show up my wedding because I didn t allow her to be the maid of honor. that s a short description. as an adult I ve kind of lowered contact but she keeps trying to get back in now that I have kids and I try to tell her that this hurt me when you did this and I feel a lack of trust. When I do she doesn t apologize just tells me to stop being childish and refuses to listen. Then tells me I m horrible and then drops me for six more months then tries to reappear. I really want her to either try to mend fences and show some respect or just not contact me. but she won t do either. 😒