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I'm currently widowed, own my own home, and my adult children are living out on their own. I'm planning on selling my present house in New York State and using those proceeds to purchase a new home in Florida. The deed will be in my name only. My boyfriend of 3 years will be living with me, and I want to make sure that the newly purchased house goes to my children upon my death. I've already told my boyfriend that if anything were to happen to him, I want his 2 children to get his stuff that is rightfully theirs, and my 2 children are to get my stuff that is rightfully theirs if anything was to happen to me.

My 50th birthday will be coming up soon and it falls on a Saturday this year. I have feeling my adult kids will have their own agendas to tend to and probably won't remember my birthday unless I remind them (which I won't do). The man in my life will want to treat it like any other event, just take me out to dinner. I actually want this one to be something special that I'll remember forever, and the reminiscence will bring a huge smile to my face. So my question is where should I go and should I celebrate alone or take someone along with me?

My late husband passed away 4 years ago, and I've been seriously dating this one man for the last two years. Now my daughter is getting married in October and doesn't want my boyfriend at the wedding because she thinks it's disrespectful to her deceased father. I do understand her thinking but my boyfriends adult children have never not included me in their family gatherings. I think it's a little disrespectful of her towards me to ask this man I care about not to attend her wedding. The wedding is also going to be held out of town. So my question is "what is the right thing to do here'? Also is this going to be her constant excuse for future events such as birth of children, etc.? If so how do I deal with this and still keep the peace between all of us?

I've been exclusively dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now. We've both been married once before. My husband passed away 3 years ago so I'm totally available. He's been separated from his wife for 11 years, they've never gotten a legal divorce and I feel that he's not totally available. We've been talking about living together and possibly even marriage for awhile now. I told him this weekend that what I wanted for Christmas from him was for him to have his final divorce papers in hand so we can move forward in our relationship and I can finally say he's definitely all mine. I know in my heart he is my man, but technically and legally he is still attached to someone else even though neither of them wants to be with the other. I get along very well with his ex-wife, his adult children and all of his brothers and sisters. My daughter and his youngest son even went to high school together and they were class king and queen in their junior year of school. We do want to be with each other and to spend the next half of our life together. But I can't and won't live with him until he's legally divorced. So was I wrong or right to ask him to get that divorce finalized? Because a part of me is wondering if I'm putting too much pressure on him to get a divorce that should have been done a long time ago.

I've been dating this guy for a year now. He's always been quiet. In the beginning of our relationship he even told me that he's quiet until he feels comfortable then he opens up more. My question is how do I get him to speak freely about what he thinks or is thinking when I start a conversation with him? It generally goes like this:

Q.) Now that summer is here I'm planning on taking some vacation time off but I want to coordinate it with your vacation to do things together. When do you want to take some time off?

A.) Ahhuhh or Ahummm.

I get the caveman grunt instead of an actual verbal response. In the beginning of our relationship it was cute, but now It's really starting to wear on me and pi$$ me off. How in the h3ll am I supposed to plan anything when I don't get a proper response out of him? The questions usually only require 1 or 2 word responses and I get this bull sh*t instead. I've tried to talk to him about it and ask him how he would feel if I gave him those kind of answers or none at all and it doesn't do me any good.

My mother has stage 4 lung cancer and is not doing well at all. I honestly don't expect her to be with us this time next year. The problem is that she has just a little money in her savings account. We asked her a month ago what was left in that account and she told us a denomination. However when asking her the same question last week for a second time she told us a different denomination which was considerably lower than the original amount quoted. My brother and I think and feel that she is giving this money to her loser male companion. I'm going to go through all of her financial records tonight when she isn't home. I already have legal power of attorney papers that she signed. But I need to know what I have to do to stop any more transactions against this account so he can't get anymore money from her?

As I'm sitting here thinking about my family, friends, former relationships, etc. I realized that I did most of the caring and had the safety net ready when anyone crashed and needed help getting themselves back together. I can't remember when I ever really felt safe enough to let my guard down around anyone and just trust they would do the right thing for me. So then I was wondering when was the last time you really felt safe in your life or world?

The guy I'm dating made it perfectly clear in the beginning of our relationship that he wasn't interested in ever getting married again. That was quite alright with me because I came from a marriage where my life was destroyed, and I'm trying to get it back on course where I feel safe, secure and stable with a new career that would allow me to be self sufficient for the rest of my life and never have to rely on a man to financially take care of me. This past weekend he told me that he would like to eventually get married again. That he was happy knowing there was someone home waiting for him when he came home from work everyday. This took me by surprise because I was never planning on ever getting married again. I told him that I had issues with marriage because of the destruction that occurred from my former marriage. Heartbreak is one thing, but to have your life totally destroyed was quite another and because of that, marriage scares the hell out of me. I also told him that he could have someone home waiting for him when he got home from work everyday, but it would be called co-habitation. I would like to know if anyone knows why he changed his mind, and am I wrong for feeling so insecure with my life right now? I have a few more years of college before I get my degree and can move on to a career in that field where I finally feel secure.

My mother was just diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer that metastasis to the hip. Several things said by her male companion of 7yrs leads me to believe he will probably leave her when things start getting tough during her treatments that will begin on July 18th. I have Power Of Attorney and I'm her health care proxy. I have promised her that no matter what I will see her through this, good or bad. What else can I do to protect her from the hurt he will ultimately place upon her when he leaves her in her time of need?? I truly want to kick his a$$ to the curb for her but I know that it's not my place to do this or get involved in their relationship. What other options are at my disposal to make him leave now before he breaks her heart later once she becomes more vulernable???

My mother was just diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer that metastasis to the hip. Several things said by her male companion of 7yrs leads me to believe he will probably leave her when things start getting tough during her treatments that will begin on July 18th. I have Power Of Attorney and I'm her health care proxy. I have promised her that no matter what I will see her through this, good or bad. What else can I do to protect her from the hurt he will ultimately place upon her when he leaves her in her time of need?? I truly want to kick his a$$ to the curb for her but I know that it's not my place to do this or get involved in their relationship. What other options are at my disposal to make him leave now before he breaks her heart later once she becomes more vulernable???

I've was the primary care giver for my quadraplegic husband for 17&1/2 years before he passed away 2 yrs ago. Then I was primary care giver for my aunt who had breast cancer that spread to her brain before she passed away just 8 months ago. Now I just found out that my mother was diagnosed with lymphoma and I'm going to be her primary care giver, health care proxy, and power of attorney through out her treatment and hopefully her recovery. All of this is really starting to drain me. But there isn't any other family member able to stand up to the plate or take on the responsibility so I can get a break. They say that God only gives us just what we can handle. But lately I feel overwhelmed and that he has given me more than my fair share. So how much can one person take before they lose it?

I've been dating this man for the last 18 months. In the beginning he was very attentive, had a lot to say during phone conversations, missed me and looked forward to being with me on the weekends. He always brought a smile to my face when I would talk to or see him. Now I feel like I don't even know him sometimes. He calls me from work and from home but is always doing something that is noisy in the background making a conversation difficult. Lately, it seems like he doesn't have anything to talk about even when I start a topic and expect him to carry on with it. So why did he even bother to call me if he has nothing to say? I spend my weekends with him and I give to him my unselfish, unconditional love. He tells me that he loves me but his actions are starting to tell me otherwise. There are times when he still brings a smile to my face and warms my heart, but there are times when he seems so cold and distant. I don't know if I should stay or leave him?

My grandparents used to say that it was going to rain when they saw tree leaves drooping downwards, however recently another person said it was going to rain when the leaves start to turn upwards. Which is true and what one is a myth, or are they both right/wrong?

I'm looking for a recipe I can make at home that will remove cat urine permanently from all fabric materials. (carpets, sofa, etc.)

I'm looking for a recipe I can make at home that will remove cat urine permanently from all fabric materials. (carpets, sofa, etc.)

My boyfriend gets la*d 15 to 16 times each weekend we are together, which is every weekend (Friday night to Sunday night.) This equals 60 to 64 times over the course of a month. If you break it down further it is also equal to 2X a day every day.

Last night he refused my advances and said he was going to go out on the couch. I left and went to the couch instead. Most men that I know would have jumped at the offer. Not too many of you getting this much action from one woman.

So what would you have done if you were my partner and had this kind of offer and action?

My adult daughter has an attitude issue with me ever since my husband, her dad passed away 6 months ago, she has always been daddy's little girl, and no matter what I try to do or say things never measure up to what daddy would have done and our relationship just keeps getting strained more and more.

She lives 150 miles away from me and her brother, comes home maybe once a month, calls me when she feels like it or when she needs me to do something for her (which isn't a problem with me) The problem is the way she comes across to us with these things( sort of like the Till-of the-Hun) and if we make mention of her brassness she goes into the Drama-Trauma.(" I can't believe this...I've done so much for you and your treating me like this") and on and on she continues.

A few months ago I started dating someone, and she has a problem with this because she feels my husband hasn't been deceased long enough for me to start dating. We were married 25yrs and I just want to be happy again.

You go out on a date with a new guy(but have known them for a while) after being alone for quite sometime. You both find each other physically and sexually attracted to each other...If you give in and have sex on the first date (using condoms to be safe) they avoid you in the future, Yet when you don't give in they also avoid you!!!!

Keep in mind that they know upfront you are not interested in marriage, moving in with them, having kids, or falling in LOVE. All you want is to find someone you like and trust to go out on a date, spend some time with, companionship and sexual activity when your both in the mood for it!!!! What the F**K is wrong with all these guys and this picture?????

I just lost my partner of 25yrs a short time ago, and I wanted to know what would be an appropiate time frame to pass by before entering the dating scene again without having others judge your actions!!!