Sabrina

We havent decided fully what path to take in a few years. First off i will mention(from previous comments on a previous question) just because i have two boys of my own does NOT mean i will love an adopted child less. im adopted and that was insulting i never felt neglected by my parents. second of all my carrier status of a genetic disease or ny injuries sustaoned in.childbirth does not impede my role as a mom.

so we wanna adopt in a few years because im a hemophilia carrier and dont wanna risk having another boy (fortunately both my sons are healthy) and have him be the one to get the disease.

what path to take? We were thinking domestic.maybe a older child from foster care. im not really a fan of international adoptions but either way we want a older child (between 18 monthd - 3/4 years) any race it doesnt matter since we are a interrracial family. buuuutttt we would really like a girl (but any gender would really be okay)

Wat r the pros and cons.of domestic adoption?

My husband an i have been married two years. Our first child was born at35 weeks in January 2012 but he is healthy two year old. We just had another son in November at 38 weeks by csection due to prior injuries from my firsts birth. My second son was tested for hemophilia because i found out i was a carrier while pregnant due to genetic testing. He was negative fortunately. however because of two hard pregnancies and a 50% chance of passing a blood disorder to any son i have when we want another child in 3 years i was wondering should we adopt? I am an adoptee myself i dont think id still be alie had my twin and been put in foster care with our medical issues. and my husband grew up in the system and wants to give a child a chance. ot is mostly because we dont want to risk passing a genetic disorder but we also want to give a child a home.

My husband an i have been married two years. Our first child was born at35 weeks in January 2012 but he is healthy two year old. We just had another son in November at 38 weeks by csection due to prior injuries from my firsts birth. My second son was tested for hemophilia because i found out i was a carrier while pregnant due to genetic testing. He was negative fortunately. however because of two hard pregnancies and a 50% chance of passing a blood disorder to any son i have when we want another child in 3 years i was wondering should we adopt? I am an adoptee myself i dont think id still be alie had my twin and been put in foster care with our medical issues. and my husband grew up in the system and wants to give a child a chance. ot is mostly because we dont want to risk passing a genetic disorder but we also want to give a child a home.

So apparently the unit has processes chapter paperwork.behind our backs (regardless that he failed a diagnositic PT test not a record and passed tape) we found out friday. they said we probably have less than three months. i am 21 weeks pregnant on monday. i am high risk for preterm labor, high blood pressure and delivery complications and wont be allowed to travel after 28 weeks (they dont know they just assume ill make.it forty weeks). In three weeks my OB will restrict me from plane or car travel. jessy tried explaining my health.prediciment and they basically said to.him "Not our problem, you all have to.leave not our problem she.might go.into labor". Now he is totally freaking out. we will try to see if i can stay with my parents on.my VA benefits but the hospital in the nearby town doesnt have a specialized NICU. Is there any way we can get a memorandum or something stating to restrict travel and the report date until a few weeks after birth? It probably isnt possible but i really wish his command wouldnt just brush of my health issues....

My husband has not taken leave since our son was born in January 2012, everytime he tries he gets denied. Recently he failed a PT test for the first time ever and though he passed tape he failed weight by 1%. He applied for leave before this so we can go visit family in August. However they are denying him because of a weight flag. The problem I have with this is that another soldier in the unit is was overweight and he got to go on leave. My husband has use or lose days and he is not only depressed but his morale is so low he can barely get out of bed in the morning. Soldiers I have know with being in trouble for DUIs and ect have been given leave but he has not. Today 1SG said he cant get leave cause he I flagged for weight - I was flagged for weight but I got leave. His NCO will go and try and convince the command to let him go home but if that doesn't work he is advised to go to IG like other Soldiers in the unit have done in this situation. So far reading through he regulation of AR 600-8-10 I have found nothing to prohibit leave unless you are flagged for being in trouble. What can he do besides going to IG or his psychologist for help?

I used to have at & t. when i left the army in november 2012 i couldnt afford it. i got a straight talk instead. my two year contract was supposed to end in april. i had the phone shut off in january saying i couldnt afford it due to inemployment. we moved and all a sudden i got a notice from a collections office. apparently i was charged continuously and i own now $546 but if i cut the contract off o thoight charges end. i told them that until tqx season when we get the refund i would pay off the previous end amount.of $150. The company said ok. now the stuff is about the be moved. but because of filing issues (which was resolved yesterday) i wont get the refund for another two or three weeks. im quite annoyed at & t went back on what was agreed and continued to charge me. i have been in contact with them since i was honorably discharged so i dont know what was lost in communication. i dont know what to do. i dont want to.pay such a high fine but i also dont want to get in trouble cause i cant pay (they asked why i no longer have a bank account, well duh.if.im broke.and unemployed i.have no money). Top it off usually they call from restricted or unavialable numbers and as a result i dont pick.it.up cause uzually....its spam phone calls. dont know what to.do i dont want to take out a loan when i know i cant pay ot off either. and as a stay at home mom i dont look for jobs (unemployment only.lasts so long anyways).

I am 22 years old. I was adopted at age 8 months and growibg up had health issues so naturally my mom was protecitive of my twin and i. as soon as we got to our teen years my dad was laid back knowing we would make our own decisions.....not my mom. i wont go into detail about high school. At age 18 i enlisted in the army right after graduating HS. then after AIT i got posted on Fort Lewis which was great cause Sequim was only 2 1/2 hour drive away. at age 19 i met a guy in my unit. we started dating and then after five months i became pregnant despite use of BC pills. my moms reaction was one as if i said i had a terminal illness. she didnt want Jessy and i to get married despite the fact that we would be better off financially. we married in december 2011 and or son was born in january five weeks early after complications during delivery. after that my mom was always hounding me "do u use birth control?" question. after Ben the pills made me sick and the implant and IUD both caused infections and had to be removed. we practise NFP which worked well and we then decided on a second baby. now i am 9 weeks pregnant and we only told Jessys side. i know damn well all i will get from my family is eye rolling and lectures on how i cant handle another baby or because i had a difficult delivery that it will happen again..... when i volunatrily decided to leave the army to care for Benjamin because two Acive Duty scheuales and baby are were just too stressful i even had my mom bitchig how it wont work blah blah. we moved on post in march and do ine. she wants jessy to stay in because "the economy is bad" even though hes had enough after six ears has a job ready when he ETS in 2015. And tgat insutance in arizona if u are a veteran is pretty cheap. she keeps putting her opinion into everythi.g. its annoying and ive told her so but it keeps going. hence why i despise speaking on the phone unless its important. i feel like she tries i run my life (thats why i joined to gain a dgree of some independence) even then she was always nagging me asking me to call EVERYDAY (

(which isnt possible with a AD scheduale). why dies she still treat me like the frail littke kid i once was? Ive ild her dozens of times to stop treating me like a kid but she doesnt listen.....its aggravating.

Recently my husband finally gained Navajo Nation membership. His father disappeared before he was born but with a lot of digging we were able to discover his father on the Tribal Register. So this year my husband and son both got their certificates (my husband is half and our son - dont blame me for bad math - is a quarter i think) and this summer when we go visit family will make a visit to the Navajo Reservation for the two to get ID cards.

We are expecting our second child in early December. Our first child, Benjamin was given a Hebrew name in honor of the Jewish heritage he gets from me. Now we want to honor his Native American heritage by having our child have a Navajo name. We haven't yet decided if it will be a first name or just one for Tribal use (much like how my Hebrew name is only used for religious purposes), but I do know that their is a special ceramony and the parents can't name the child. I want to know what are some names that could be suggested or how is one chosen? We live on Joint Base Lewis-McChord in Washington so we live nowhere near Arizona of course so we don'thave any guidance. Any suggestions? Should we wait till the baby is born in Tuscon before we bring it up to the Tribe or sould we do it in advance?

Recently finding out i was pregnant my husband went to tell his platoon sgt he wanted to go to my first appt (hard to do family history without dad). First thing the man does is tell the whole company (even though we waned to wait till i was 14 weeks to tell the news), then has the nerve to say he wants actual proof. Like a blood test. As if my four hpts were not enough. the OB clinicsaid he hax no right i ask for "proof" of pregnancy, especially since they have a copy of my appt slip (cant make a OB appt wiheout a home positive first). they told me to tell them that they can wait till im seven weeks when i get my confirmation test and sonogram since he doesnt have tghe right to ask for proof wih private medical records. (dealt with this before but i was in the army and we were dating then, that is how we foundout i was pregnant with my son). i jut think tht have neve to ask for proof when i have proof i have an appt. i also dont like thy spread it after dh told him he wanted to keep it quiet in case i dont make it past the first trimester and have a miscarriage. what is the actual answer to show "proof" besides my obvious dark line and digital hpt?

My DH and i have been ttc for nine months for our second child. it didnt seem it would be hard considerin oir first was concieved on birth control. however nothing happened in my desperation i started to say a special prayer to the Virgin Mary to intercede on our behalf. One month latee, havong thought i mossed my chance thos moh i found out on Friday I was pregnant! I believe she had hear me and i wish to honor her but i am not a catholic yet so i dont know what to do (just started RCIA). What do i do?

I recently returned to the Christian faith and go to the local Catholic Church every Sunday. I am currently attending RCIA, I started recently so I will not be able to join the others when they be baptized this Easter - which is fine because I am still learning my way around and I don't feel ready. However in the case of my son, who is 13 months old, I do have a strong desire to see him baptized. I say this because I will be going through the same thing next year - but I keep having terrible dreams about my son dying and being a spiritual person I am afraid that if he isnt baptized I could be condemming him to Limbo or something. A priest did tell me I am allowed to wait till next Easter when I am baptized and Ben - who will be two, can be baptized at the same time. OR I could call in the parish cordinator and scheduale a baptism instead. I am kind of lost. Since I just started attending RCIA this last week I have not been assigned a Sponsor until I enter the second stage, when i genuinely express my desire to join the Catholic faith. I am not sure how to proceed.

my period started two weeks late dashing the hope i concieved this cycle since we have been ttc since augist. it was the worst blood clots bogger yhan a quarter an quite solid. my symptoms of nausea, breat tenderness ect vanished. i used tampons for days three and four with pads cause my flow was really heavy. the bleeding now is what i consider light and its day five. By his point it will taper out very soon but i have his massive headache that feels like im going to get one of my terrible migranes (the ones that required me o go to the ER to relive he pressure by spinal tap) and running a low grade fever which is getting worse. im exhausted. my pelvic area hurts whenever i use the bathroom and forget about pee because ho i drink a lot of water output is pretty scant unless i hold it for the whole day. this has ne er happened after a menstrual cycle. i am taking prentals btw - have been sonce heavy period startex when i was 12 and need iron supplemts because of anemia- but doesnt seem to help evem tho i take it once a day since. why do i feel so crappy?

We just got nws tonight that the Family Advococy has ruled that our 13 month old is neglected. The Sgt Major knows its not true, our family knows, The 1SGT knows, Ben's doctor knows he is NOT neglected. But They went by two closed (false accusation) CPS reports (which were made back in September) and the social worker who said she was trying to help us turns out was really against us. Example, I was mad and confused to why all this was going on and it apparently showed up in our first meeting (so the woman said I was "rude" when the 1SG was trying to explain that I was angry and confused and upset which was understandable - come on, people are accusing me non stop of being a bad parent there will be a time when I clearly seethe my emotions unconciously). She asked my husband if he wanted help, He said "Not right now." and she took that to mean "We don't need help, screw you." apparently. My husband went a few week later to therapy cause the stress of this was getting to him. Before we got married and lived off post my husband wasn't the cleanliest of people when it came to the barracks. They used those negative consuelings from two years ago against us as well - even tho I never had a negative consueling while in the Army for a messy room. SGT Major was on the committee on our behalf saying that he has met us (he has) and knows we are good parents because he hears about it from my husband's 1SG. Anyways by only using old *** paperwork and ignoring the testimony of actual witnesses my husband is now required to go to parenting classes. Both of us are upset and angry but know there is nothing we can do about it. I know there is a slim to no chance to fight this verdict as unfair even though the SGT Major and the unit is. When will there be a time to change this system because to me if they are not going to take the testimony of witnesses and use only what reports on paper (that were proven false) say then what is the point of the Family Advococy trying to "help" soldiers and their families? Now I am terrified that CPS will come back. As soon as my husband told me the news I broke down crying and held my baby close. I don't know what to do. Perhaps start a petition to change the obviously flawed system?

I don't know. I am tired.....

I have been TTC #2 for about 8 months now. On January 15th was my last LMP. On the 28th my husband and I had sex about two to three days before my ovulation day. On February 10th I spotted and I expected my period - which usually comes soon after - but nothing. Today as of February 19th, I am five to six days late. HPTs have come out negative but I am showing pregnancy symptoms like my CF hasn't dried up at all like it usually does sensitive breasts, some nausea, headaches, backaches, irritability, and fatigue. My cramping is starting to get more painful and though I plan to go to the OB/GYN at Madigan to see if they do a blood test (just outta the Army and now a spouse so this is the first place i am going) just so I can be at ease and stop hoping... Am I pregnant or am i just hoping for nothing?

Also I maybe have endometriosis (I was never properly diagnosed, the doctor at sick call said it might be IBS or Endometriosis but he couldn't tell....)

I feel so wronged. Family advocy told the unit not to go overboard. They went overboard. They want to inspect our house constantly, This is harassment. Not only they coming tomorrow but they are also coming on Benjamins birthday which I will not allow. They want this place to be like when we first moved in.....um okay you are f%^$^ retarded cause that means we will have to throw everything we own into the backyard. We are packing this place will not be perfectly spotless. I cant even use the Open Door policy because from what I am told they wont listen to me, they will just go off what some old *** paper says. And they are even denying Jessy the right to go to Ben's checkup. Even though from the start his doctor wrote a note and stamped it saying we both have to be present because of Benjamin's birth circumstances. He is not even allowed to come home for an hour when Birth to 3 comes for Benjamin's therapy once a week and they have stated that it is a lot easier to go through the Family Plan with both parents present. Here is a novel idea 295th, if u are going to harass us about home inspection why dont u do it to everybody else i am prettty damn sure ur house isnt perfectly spotless, this is not the damn barracks this is off post dont go tramping through MY house, opening MY drawers, going throiugh MY bedroom and say "this isnt to standard" because guess what? we dont live in the barracks! Keep your dirty feet off my carpet, your grubby hands out of my drawers and give us privacy and some respect for once. We are both so stressed out that we having to go see our social worker soon now for help. F%^$! this!

I need help its as if we have no rights at all. As stated i cannot use the open door policy because they wont listen to me, the commander takes everything we say and twists it. My husband is at the breaking point, I have to deal with stress and my chronic depression and our 12 month old. If they want to look our for our well being they can stay away. HELP!

I get headaches, pretty mild ones, quite often. Every few weeks or months I get the a headache i can describe only as a migrane. I get struck first with a dull throbbing, i feel sick, my vision gets blurry and i get really dizzy. Eventually the pain gets so bad my head feels like it will explode, spots will form in my eyes and im literally vomiting up my guts. In September I happened to have a migrane headache while in the ER for a neck injury from my car accident and i had doctors stating that they couldnt see my retinas because of the pressure and saw blood spots. They did a MRI and told me i have enlarged lateral ventricals (i was later told due to the fact i was born three months early, my brain did not develop correctly and I have excess fluid). But concerned with the fact i had increasing pressure and in severe pain for hours they did a spinal tap and drained a lot of fluids, so much that they sent it for testing just to make sure i didnt have a infection like menengitis. I was told i will have to deal with the migranes as they get so bad that no medicene will help. Still, the blurry visionb continues, and the diziness and I am tired all the time. I already deal with chronic anemia, i dont want to deal with something else. I have to go to the ER every time i have a severe migrane to get a spinal tap to relive the pressure as i was instructed. should i go see another neurologist or doctor to get treatment?

I've tried everything. Changing him, trying a bottle, teething tablets. Everytime I pick him up he clings to me (literally) and refuses to be put down to play (I usually do if its early in the morning if he wont go to sleep). He won't even let me leave the room. I feel horrible letting him cry it out but I am exhausted (its 2:30 AM been up with him for over an hour). What should I do?

I've been up since 1:30 AM. It is now 2:30 AM. My 9 month old, Benjamin, used to be a good sleeper up until last week. Now he fights sleep, refuses a bottle or even playing by himself on the floor when this happens. I can't leave the room much less put him down because he clings to me (literally). I tried his bottle, changed him, buried him, walking around the house...nothing. because he recently got three teeth about a month ago I've been giving him seething tablets usually if he is fussy and won't take the bottle. It usually works. It didn't this time. I've recently been staying home wig him will waiting for my orders to leave the Army. Before this he was babysit since age 2 months to October 22 by my neighbor. Is it just a form of attachment? I feel bad letting him cry but I am also sick and need sleep...I'm pulling out my hair! Help!

My husband and I were recently visited by a social worker with accusations that our house was filthy, we put heaters in our babys crib and that we let him cry for long periods of time.

Our house is spotless, the only heater we have in the house are attached to the walls, and when I did let him cry it was because I got frustrated and as every mom tells me, when u r frustrated with a baby who won't stop crying leave the room. Turns out most of the time he was fighting sleep.

The fact that the social worker was given my adoptive name which only my family uses and information given only by someone who lived with us. Automatically my husband and I knew it was was my twin sister and her husband also due to the fact he sent me nasty text messages saying he will call CPS again because he feels that we don't care for Ben or have a good marriage. This tore my family apart. And I am very angry for false accusations and wanted to know if I have the right to sue for slander?

BTW the case was closed. But do I still have the right to sue?

I have been crippled on occasion by nasty headaches that would leave me vomiting sometimes. Moat of the time I feel pressure on the inside of ky head and eyes. This started a year ago. In September I was in an accident, to be safe they scanned my head and neck and I was in the middle of a nasty migrane. Turns out my lateral entries were very enlarged as well as a module was discovered on my thyroid.

I have been experiencing irritability (almost like PMS but a bit worse) constantly. I'm tired all the time and my vision blurred, and the dizziness gets bad enough where I've fainted twice. The sick call doctor said take tulenol which doesn't work because they give it to soldiers as a go to drug for pain. Regardless that I told the quack it was getting worse...

When they looked into my eyes they couldn't even see the backs of my eyes from the pressure just spots. I'm not due to see neurology until November 7th and I'm worried.