♥ Daddy's girl ♥

Yesterday I took my child to a dentist. He had an abysys and doctor said he will put him on antibiotics because we were travelling in next 5 days. Next day my boy woke up with a swollen cheek. I panicked and called the receptionist. She said its normal, I asked if I could come because doctor never saw it. She said she will call me back after taking to the doctor. She never did. After 2 hrs I called the doctor directly and he asked me to come urgently. I rushed and she welcomes me saying " You were being impatient or what".. I said I called the doc and he wanted to see him.

The doctor said we had to remove the teeth , without anestisia because there was no time. I was shaking what my baby would feel. I said I want to be outside the room because I dint want to see him in pain. He assured it wont be as bad. I went and asked the receptionist " Does taking out the abysys pain!"..she says " Its not taking out...its draining" and adds " What do I know, go ask the doctor " I wasnt in a mood to argue when my kids inside. I prayed he wont cry...he didnt but when he saw me after, he started well its over.

My question is how do you tackle these rude people?. She couldnt care less about what I was feeling but they must also know that what they are doing is wrong. Please help.Next time I want to stand up...for myself

He is the main bread winner. I earn 1/10 of him. Well I do 100% work of the home and the kid.100%..everything you name. He says he likes gardening brings home plants which costs fortune and which need to be taken care and then from that day its my responsibility to keep them alive. Complains all the time that Iam doing nothing and I am lazy. He complains that I cant find time for gym, my BMI is 18 and his is 30, he went to gym 5 yrs ago for 5 days.

I loved him a lot, my love has never faded by he is becoming more and more rude. I do everything and everything I do is a mistake. I give smss to myself like "I love you,u are of great help,Thank you darling"....I cant leave him, thats not going to happen, any suggestions?

Please people its not about how I look. I am happily married for 7 yrs with a 6 yr old son. When I was doing my masters (last year) a guy was after me inspite of telling 100 times to leave me alone. I only got rid of him when I left college.

After that I joined a job where I got trained and then once again..a guy flirts...he was after me like all the training sending me emails(got from the company profile)..writing poems.Worst..he had a prego wife (what a shame)..He was hectic..I had to leave the job,take another!!!

Today I went to a home store with my kid and there was a salesman..He says" If the microwave has problems call me on.....u can call me even if there is no problem,I will be glad to talk to you"..and writes his cell number.

I am an introvert..never had any boyfriend before getting married. Love my husband..dont dress bad (wont wear anything above knees or NEVER show cleavage)

Whats going on here?..I am getting tensed about this wiered flirting and all of them know I am married!!

I am in PETA and some of my friends (so called) make fun on my emotionally comments on PETA on FB. Is there any way I can comment and still hide from all my contacts in FB??...I mean they musnt get that " Daddy's girl commented on PETA....." thing...help :)

I am planning to put my kid in Grade 1. I am very keen on academics..yeah sports too..not very keen on arts.

I am new to joburg..want to settle in Fourways. Please advice me, I have got these two schools to decide

Hi Iam 30 (yeah old.)...married,kid,husband. I was so busy last year doing my masters in Electrical engineering, I sparsely went on internet. Meanwhile husband became sick with auto immune disease :(.

Well, I finished the degree and then had nothing to do from Feb,just being sad about my other half. So, I wanted to get into something which passes my time....and I got into internet.Now,I have NOTHING to count for hours ...even days....I just waste all the free time I have got on the internet...all of it.

We are financially ok. I dont motivate myself enuf for a job,I dont know why.Sometimes I feel iam a failure coz everyone....literally everyone gets something out at the end of the month...and I only get the broadband bill out. My balance has been same since my degree when I got bursary and its decreasing.

People even ask me " You are very active on FB...wassup?".....i am 30! and I still dont have a job...its either being sad or on FB....I am depending on internet (pity) for support coz I dont want to go to a counsilor and tell " i am addicted to FB".....please its not funny...help me...anyone in same situation or similar issue? PLEASE....

Thanks

I got 2 friends. I rated them 10/10 when i met them but then they started ignoring us coz we are vegitarians and we dont alcohol. Well,thier wish. She got another friend and all 3 of them ignored us for a while...we planned a new year party for all of us and they partied alone leaving us coz we dont drink and they had to drink all night. I lost half respect for them then.

Now one of them dosent have a house to stay, she had a lot of other options(she dint tell me). I thought she dint and said " we are going for a hliday for 10 days,u can use our home". Now she crosses out ALL other options and praises me,calls me 2 times a day and says my dresses are beautiful...and all that fake crap. Then now they plan to have a party at our house when we are gone (got to know somehow).

I dont wanna fight or argue coz iam not interested in them anymore,let them play ploitics amonst themselves(which they do)....but gimme some ideas so that i can get them as far as I can from my life when i come back so that they wont use me like this....

Thanks friends

I am: 31 year old woman with 6 yr old kid. Husband earns enough.

I was top in school always. Kinda made wrong choices in education in teenage,slef confidence went down the drain still did my best,but wasnt best enuf . Well,went on doing my bechelors in engineering but again, I scored marks,not knowledge. Went on for Masters in Electrical engg, did it better than bachelors thou,but still Iam not that 'sharp' as other master students.

Now, sitting at home...from 3 months,doing absoultely nothing. I have no zest to work my @ss out and get a job. I am not doing anything to go to further studies. But I tell everyone " I will do Phd or a job"...covering up.....

Please help me...why do I feel i acheived nothing and all that i did was a fluke?...i lack zest to go do something.....whats wrong with me?

Wanna add: What ever I get into I do it put 100% effort. But I dont sesrch for oppurtunities. they have to knock my door 100 times...:(..Iam not a go-getter

Thanks fnds.

I wont write as a essay coz its too big...will write it in points:

1.Happily married for 7 yrs,we are in luv

2.Dear husband is diagnosed with arthritis at 35. I get sad ,still luv him to death but iam a caretaker now.

3. Never had a boyfriend before marriage

4. Joined as trainee in a comapny for a job

5. A guy tell me he loves me,I say NO

6.wont accept...tries again and again....praises me writes poems,says iam drop dead gorgoues

7. This happens in all the time. I get weak,say him "ok lets be friends and nothing more"

8.says "yes"...but he still behaves same.Hugs me,tries to kiss me.I say "NO"

9.Says he wants to have s.e.x wit me...I just get rude and angry...he comes back says sorry

10. i accpet him frind again!!!!!!!!! (cant beleive myself)

11. On a chat he gets cross(for nothing)...i give him 5 sorry messages...he couldnt care less

12. I cry for being so vulnerable and weak,discuss it with a frind....she says" just get out"

13. I do it...block him from everything....and give a goodbye message

14.After 2 days I get a message " howz u?...what are you upto"

Now the fact: I NEVER thought of cheating....i just wanted his sweet words,his attention. Would die but never cheat my dear husband. Never thought of sleeping with him...he asked zillion times to kiss..i said no everysingle time.

Problem: iam missing that attention....i go back to pc every 2 min (2 min!!!!) to check if he gave me a message. I check my fone...FB everything...but I dont want to go into this again

someone...please help....

Hi friends,

Iam already in confusion so I wont judge myself,I will just narrate what happened in last 10 weeks of my life.

background: Married for 7 yrs.kid. Amazing husband. Loyal me. Things satrted getting bit sad a year ago when my 35 yr old husband was diagnosed with severe arthritis. Now he is in pain 24/7 and I still love him to death. I do all his chores and medicate and get him dressed,put his sock-shoe to office. I am not depressed coz I am close to nurse keeping my carrer permamntly at bay but because I cant see him suffering...every minute. Docs said this is gonna be our life for next years.

I did my Masters in Electrical Engineering last dec. In Jan I was selected for an intern in a software company.

The main story: We were 12 interns. I was the only female. After 3 days a guy proposes me. I say iam married. All of them know everyothers email. He sends me emails...I warn him. Then I come to know his wife is gonna give birth next week. Then I asked him how he cud think about proposing someone at this stage?. He put me into a lot of emotional stuff ,said that he knows he was 100% wrong but I was a very worthy and beautiful person. That was the last thing I wanted to hear from a stanger. I ignored him...he continued his messaging and writing poems on me. I found it too cheap coz i am a mom to 5 yr old. I asked him to stop,but he started making me weak by giving too much attention. My life was lacking enthu since 18 months...and I found something is making me active again. I clearly said to him that he can be one of my frnids and nothing much. Ofcouse he agreed. I knew he was having bad intentions...but I wanted the attention and kept things safe.Now the training is finished. I am not in.He is. He asks me to meet him. I refuse. But I look for him on gmail EVERY day so that I can chat to him and I feel better so that in mornings I can serve my husbamd with some energy. That man wants sex from me..I know...but trust me frindds. I will NEVER EVER cheat,better I die for my darling husbnd than cheat. But on the other hand I keep this man as a frind to pump me up.

I want to get out of it. I am feeling so guilty of secretly taking to him. I never had boyfrineds before getting married and my first affair was with my husband. I am not able to figure out why iam doing this even thou I know its wrong.

Please help me....i want to lead a seethru life. I dont want to have this person to mak me feel better with his praises and poems on me. Really.

Help :(

So Iam getting trained in a company(hopefull I'll get thru).Anyways, there are 12 trainees and iam the only female. We all added each other on chat to chat on code. All the guys are cool and probably 2-3 yrs younger than me but they are very nice people helping me to learn the new software. But one of them gives me messages like" Iam bathing will you join me". I was shocked and now scared to go back to the training. I mean what was that...then he gives like" iam studying,dont pollute my mind". I kept saying" I have a wonderful family...my husband..." ,he says" Hope you be happy with your family" but again the same scary stuff happens in mail.....how to handle??????...Iam already tensed for this job....

Hi Friends,

I am into a job training right now. For a software developer job. After 4 weeks from now my fate for this job will be out. I am basically from non- computer side but I know one lanuage. The company said they trust that I can learn their software requirements because I knew this language,so I decided to join the training.

Now when I join, I see 11 others from strong computer background, even with 3-4 years of experience. Iam a fresher. I feel Iam on the weaker side. But I tell to myself,"I will put 100%, and will see". But is there any funda which will boost up my confidence? and I will defenitely end up getting this job. I want to get the job....I am trying but there is only 4 weeks time to prove myself over the other guys .....tell me what to do....

We bought a bed 4 yrs ago (second hand) and then after a year, I started waking up with back ache. I dont know what bed it is but these are the factors that I can give you which might help you to help me :).

1. My husbnd is double the wieght as me, so when we sleep together, the matress makes me roll towards him. If its me and my son then my son rolls towards me.

2. The matress is a bit bouncy

3. I have a 'swayback' a little too much curve in my lower back and makes my butt stick out(well thats makes another seperate question)

I tried sleeping on another bed in my other bedroom and its better, it says pocket springs and is not as soft as the first one and I dont seem to roll towards my hubby.

Is pocket springs good? any other ideas as Iam defenetly gonna sell this matress and buy a new one as I dont want to induce a back ache at this age or is it because of my unwanted curvature?. Please advice friends

She is 3.5 girl and mine is 5.5 boy. In our culture disciplining a child is being heartless, so generally kids are the kings/queens of the house. Its managable when there are lots of people to handle the kids. But we had to raise our one in a foreign country and choose to disipline and it really paid off. I could complete my masters degree when by the time he was 4.

But the problem comes where we meet with other people from our country,we have a friend and that child always irritates my one by breaking his mega blocks or just starts crying from nowhere saying my one has scarched her. My one shouts back that he didint do it. She sees something in his hand she pulls it until he gets angry and then cries her lungs out and every one asks my kid to give the toy to her as she wont stop. I mean mine is also just 6! It hurts him. There are so many instatnces that he picks up something from the store and then has to give it away because the other kid is shouting in the mall. Parents wont even think of telling anything to that kid...rather they think this one listens so better ask him to give the toy...I am so hurt. I have cut the visits a lot and tell my kid that Iam so proud of him but is there anything else I can do?

When he is with just with other frinds they play together all day long without a single fight and we wont even know where they are playing!

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She is 3.5 girl and mine is 5.5 boy. In our culture disciplining a child is being heartless, so generally kids are the kings/queens of the house. Its managable when there are lots of people to handle the kids. But we had to raise our one in a foreign country and choose to disipline and it really paid off. I could complete my masters degree when by the time he was 4.

But the problem comes where we meet with other people from our country,we have a friend and that child always irritates my one by breaking his mega blocks or just starts crying from nowhere saying my one has scarched her. My one shouts back that he didint do it. She sees something in his hand she pulls it until he gets angry and then cries her lungs out and every one asks my kid to give the toy to her as she wont stop. I mean mine is also just 6! It hurts him. There are so many instatnces that he picks up something from the store and then has to give it away because the other kid is shouting in the mall. Parents wont even think of telling anything to that kid...rather they think this one listens so better ask him to give the toy...I am so hurt. I have cut the visits a lot and tell my kid that Iam so proud of him but is there anything else I can do?

When he is with just with other frinds they play together all day long without a single fight and we wont even know where they are playing!

hey guys, tried lot of sites but the link dont work...4shared has got 500 secs to wait :( . Do you know a valid free pdf download for Complete reference java?

I have applied for a job and then the website says"complete the puzzle to complete the application process".....

it is a 4 page puzzle filled with characters without space,like a kid typing randomly. Now i have to find 'candidates' or 'special characters' which will lead me to the next step in application process. This is what they said. so we have to sif through the 'crowd'. Is this a new type of puzzle?. I mean all the cahracters are very random and they have no connection at all!......siffing through 4 page random characters is not a joke....atleast not for me!

any clues or ideas? Thx.

Hi,

My husband goes to business trips for 2-3 days every 20 days ,so say 5 nights in a month I have to stay alone with the kid(5yr old). Iam independant and do all the chores by my self. Iam ok to sleep alone in bed if I know there is someone else at home,but Iam too scared to sleep when its only me and my baby.

I am scared that someone will break in and shoot me and then i have to rescue my baby. I think of all the probabilities of sending him through the window and asking him to knock on neighbors house and fear that that might not work.

Give me some good ideas how to tackle this nonsense. Its 2.00am and Iam writing this.........by the way we live in a security complex with an electric fence but I far someone may still come.