Florence B

Last year I rented a condo from a lady. I lived there 2 years. She decided to sell + so I moved out. We had a good relationship. I always paid rent on time. For my 2010 income tax I needed a faxed letter from her that I had paid rent. She provided one quickly. I find I need a final one for 2011. I called her last Thursday. Got her housekeeper. Told me landlady is sleeping and to call back to leave a message. I did. Tuesday I called and left a message again. Thurs I called again. Got the housekeeper. Was told leave a message. I told her I left 2. So was provided with cell phone number. Called it. Got landlady. Started to talk. Was told she will call me back from her housephone. No call. So I called cell left message. One whole week. Now this landlady is a professional. Works for the police. Shifts. Single mum. Cancer survivor. But I feel like something is wrong. Am I worrying for nothing? I feel helpless now. I need that faxed letter. Thanx

A girl...age 16...5/8" tall, weights 120 pounds...36.25.27 for measurements. Long, light brown hair. Blue eyes, fair complexion...the boys just seem to pass her by. When travelling with groups of girls..all the other girls get attention. She is completely ignored. When with her sister...her sister gets attention. She is ignored. This happens all the time. We tell her the usual. Be friendly. Be yourself. Be interested. Etc. all the stuff. except dress slutty...lol..

Many of the girls she is friends with, who get male attention, have boyfriends, are actually fat. While she has the figure of a model.

Any ideas...?

He is 51. Refused all his life to leave home. Has not worked at a full time or even part time job for years. Has eaten himself into weighing, I would guess about 350 pounds, most in the belly. My dad is 83 & supports him. Lets him live at home. Gives him $50.00 a week. Sometimes lets him use the car. Last weekend, my brother ended up in Emergency. Because he flew into such a rage. So Dad called Mental Health and they came down. Took one look, called Police. Who took one look, handcuffed him, took him to Emerg. There they let him go. Said there is obviously a problem, but due to the Mental Health Act, unless Dave is a 'Direct Threat' to himself or others, that is knife at throat, they are powerless to do anything. My brother hears voices, and says sometimes they all get together and say bad things to him. He starts to speak very quickly when he tells me this, almost unintelligible. Says he sees women in the park, who flash neon signs from their foreheads..says he can call people on the telephones in his mind, and speaks with them. Then all the lines get distorted he says. His rages are very bad., My dad is worried about what will happen to Dave when he is no longer living in this life. He sees the street people sleeping on grates, the men in the park who sleep on benches. One good thing, is my dad now knows that I will take care of my brother when the time comes. I told hiim this last weekend, he didnt say anything directly, but sounded extremely relieved & happy. But how can I convince Dave to get help? He sees 'dead babies', he screams that my Dad will go to 'San Quentin'..has talked about killing. But, again, the Mental Health Act, says even if Dave talks like this, they are not allowed to do anything unless he wishes. And that most people like him dont realize anything is wrong anyway. 'They think EVERYBODY hears voices'..I have a Psychology background, will never let Dave end up on the street, or be mocked, or be in misery. But what if anything can we do? Thanks

I rent a condo and the place is alive with all of the above. I have told the owner, but she lives quite far away, in another city, she told me to tell the super. So far nothing has been done. I live in Toronto, Ontario Canada...suggestions?

My dad is 82. He has always been very isolated from people. Preferring to keep to himself. Months would go by where he would say nothing, just grunt. And no...he got along with nobody, including his family.

My mum died when he was 62. His first remark...'I hope I dont get those old ladies knocking on my door now..I like young women, under age 25'.

Flash Forward...I decided that since he was old & family..I would call and visit once a week to make sure all was okay and if any changes, spot them early, hopefully. Now he is partying hard. So hard, in fact that I am to text him when my train nears the station...he will leave the party to pick me up..drop me home..drive back to the party.

He has always preferred girl children to boys. I always thought this odd altho I just LOVE small boys...but there is a girl who is now 14 ...for the past 10 years..he has been playing..not father or grandfather to her..but mother. He teaches her to knit & sew. Chats about girly things in the living room. Now she is 14. He drives her to highschool in the morning. Her stuff is all over the car. He seems to like that. He picks her up in the evening. She spends loads of unsupervised time at his house..always has...all by herself or sometimes with a girlfriend. She goes on the internet, watches TV, bakes brownies...last time I visited...the phone rang...he told me..'It's Stephanie'...

He spends large amounts of money on her. $600 for an IPad...all sorts of latest electronic equipment. Her photo is on the fridge....

My brother lives with him. Refuses to leave home or get a job. The town is isolated with little opportunity. My brother is way past the age of leaving, but I noticed my dad will suddenly get very busy and vocal about his OWN future plans...just when my brother is trying to get his own act together. Then my dad tells him he will never make it in the world anyway and goes around the village talking badly about him. He has always done this with me. Tried to confuse me. Trip me up. Make me feel insecure. Isolate me. Etc. My brother has violent rages which is why I dont visit much any more.

People jump down my throat and ask what is wrong with your dad having fun..if he is feeling well..??

I had a wonderful internet romance with a guy. So sweet. Then we had a fight. He refused to answer any of my mails any more. But then when I moved back to the city...he calls his sister, who is a friend of mine, and chats a bit...then asks her about me...and to say hi to me. I am usually at work. The guy has become very busy...that is what everybody, including his sister says. And she is a bit mad at him too, since he never responds to her phone messages anymore. But he if he loves me the way he said he did, would he not make more of an effort? I miss our internet friendship. And when he drops by, I am always at work since I work rotating shifts. His sister is always all smiles when she tells me that he contacted her. She gives me knowing looks...but...it has been MONTHS

We have been together for a year...he talks of getting married. Lately...I have found some disturbing evidence that he might be Gay.

His best friend is a Lawyer for Lesbian..Gay..Transexual..Bisexual immigrants. Himself..Gay.

One of the first 'Friends' I found on his FaceBook account was a Gay man.

He is member of several Groups that help or celebrate Homosexuals.

He texted me from the Gay Pride Parade...'There are a lot of great guys here'. His Lawyer friend was the Grand Marshall.

He is member of a Prayer Circle that meets weekly. The advertise themselves as 'for Queers...but Straight Guys also welcome'.

He has finished an internship for an alternative newspaper...headquartered in the heart of the Gay District of our city...and is known as a 'Gay Paper'.

I never even saw this side of his nature before. And his favourite colour is Pink.

Strange that a straight man would be so comfortable as to seek out large groups of Gay men?

Sent him link using my alternate address. He set up email friendship. Every day and every night, lovely, sincere for 6 months. But he also said he was going crazy loving someone he had never met. But that he did love me, tho he had never seen me. I was in agony. In person, he never spoke to me, or even looked at me. I was really afraid and confused. But at night, there he would be ..online. And we shared our lives and hearts. He helped me so much and said I made him feel at home in Canada. But one day, after he proposed marriage on the phone, I thought I had better tell him. I thought he would be devastated. I called him. He said all the right things. But he was shouting and sounded cold and aloof..'I always knew it was you, I was just messing with ya...I love you really in real life...do you want to go on a date? I screamed. NO. He called 3 weeks later, said he loved me. I called him, but all he said was, 'I hear you breathing...are you walking...? And that voice again. So cold. I ended the call.

But I was of a divided mind. And I missed him. I sent him mails saying that I had been confused, that I missed him and did he really love me like he said he did? No response.

He tried to talk to me in person. But would just stand there. I just acted busy. I was confused.

Then I bought a condo. There is like another big bedroom and bathroom upstairs in my condo so I sought a tenant. So many unsuitable people. After many months, I found someone who seemed okay.

One day I heard a familiar voice in the hall. Yep. This email guy, is her brother and they are very close. First thing he said to me, 'From my window, I can see right into your bedroom'. But we had a lovely talk, he asked how I was getting home and told me about a quicker way, we talked a lot and it was nice.

Faith told me he is very busy, having lots of problems and going through very, very bad times. He doesnt contact her anymore either. And is never online now.

Sunday I didnt know he was visiting upstairs and went into my room from church. Sis. knocked on my door. I went downstairs. Email guy wants to say goodbye to you. I would have hugged him, but he was looking away. Try talking to someone who isnt looking at you...it aint easy. He said, 'I came by, but you werent here'. I told him I had been in church. He said, 'I had come by the church but you werent there'. I told him I must have left early.

Sis always smile at me when she mentions his name. Laughs when I talk about the emails, says he is coming soon. He is so very busy. Seems to be about to tell me something. I laugh and say 'he is funny' 'tell him I said hi' 'He is a nice guy'.

One day, I sent him IM. His sister was worried about him. Just letting him know. He called her and then asked to speak to me. Lots of nice conversation, he is in another city,etc. etc. He seemed to be thinking up topics so as not to have awkward pauses.

Saw him in Coffee Shop. I became annoyed since he kept fidgeting with his dumb cell phone. He didnt get up either like a gentleman should in my opinion. But we talked. He seemed so awkward and shy. Asked 'Do U come here every Sunday'? But here I thought, 'well he knows very well where I live and he has my email...so I said, 'No, not usually, I have to go now'. But he looked so...delighted. 'Okay' he said.

I told his Sis. She was beaming. 'He...He....but since the conversation had not been so good, I just said..'he what? She said he called a few days ago and says he will come again when he is not so busy.

Okay...he tricked me into an online relationship pretending he didnt know who I was. I actually was innocent and inexperienced and after he screamed that he always knew..I felt emotionally raped. Please take this seriously. Because I was devastated and confused.

Then the final few emails where he used my real name, were just businesslike. I felt like he had been with me in a dark room, we had made out, he switched the lights on and then just laughed at me.

But he is very, very awkward. Very shy.

It seems like he is stopping things. One minute he is welcoming, the next he shuts down. Then welcoming again. Then shuts down.

I am getting over this now slowly. Even if his sister lives with me, it doesnt matter, I am just putting this behind me. I figure time will tell. When he comes over...be nice...and no more emails.

But I am curious as to what you all think of this?

A guy & I fell in love over internet. Then we had a fight over internet, He refused to mail me any more. Or if he did, no more "I love yous'.

I rented a room in a condo and we were looking for a tenant. Found one...turned out to be this guys sister.

He came over to visit, wanted to include me in the visits he has with his sister. We have lovely conversations. Sometimes he flirts.

Last Sunday I came home late, didnt know he was visiting upstairs. He knew I had come home. Sister knocked on my door and told me to come downstairs. 'My brother wants to say goodbye to you'.

I said goodbye, he is shy so didnt look at me.

Confused. No emails since December. And I mailed frequently to make up or find out his side or tell him I loved him. No response. I find this very rude. And uncaring.

He is very busy, everybody tells me this.

We work together and he used to try to talk to me, but it always fell apart. I say hi, he says hi, then next time like never said it.

But since the change in my living conditions, we have had wonderful chats and exchanges. Like we were catching up on everything. He was caring, asked how I was getting home. Talked about ...everything.

How should I proceed now? He is coming over again soon. Just be cool and do what seems natural? Should I be mad about all those ignored emails after our fight?

I think we are in love.

I finished my period about 3 days ago. Then suddenly out came a dollop of blood. Seemed like menstrual blood to me. I checked every hour on the hour for 3 days after that, no more blood. I had been lifting lots of heavy suitcases...could that be the problem?

I emailed this guy at work under a different email address. We liked, then fell in love online. It was very real. He would call me to say goodnight, and to make sure I was the first voice I heard in the morning. God how we loved each other. One day, I felt guilty, I told him it was really Florence. He told me he knew all along but was waiting for me to tell him. Then he asked me on a date. But his whole tone had changed. And I felt ...not so good. So for a while I didnt contact him. He called me 3 weeks later, 'I want you to call me after you get this message, I will be waiting for your call, I love you'. I rang him up, but conversation dragged,'Are you walking'? 'I hear you breathing'. It felt almost frightening in a way. At work for a while I just couldnt talk to him. He looks wierd. He sounds wierd. He emailed me to say that he tried to speak to me on a few occasions but I seemed not interested so he thought he would give me some time. Now I have no problem talking to him. And mailing him. But now that he uses my real name, the whole tone of the friendship has changed. He is friendly and to the point. We are working on a magazine together online. It is his dream. His magazine. I got involved back when I was using my other name, and I continue because I really like giving a voice to those who have no voice. But he no longer thanks me or acknowledges my help much. No more I love yous. At work we now speak, say hi, and he walks by and calls out my name. I look over, he looks away but I start talking to him. He stutters. He looks away. Most of my emails go unanswered.

I feel as if I have lost my good friend. One who I could count on to email me every single day, and whose voice was the first thing I heard in the morning and last thing at night.

I told him how I felt in an email. I asked if he was mad. I told him I loved him. I told him he could call me and ask me whatever it was he wanted to ask or say.

What is going on

We met, got to know each other, liked and then fell in love all on line. I knew it was this guy I worked with but didnt tell him. I was in agony. But he knew it was me, and wasnt telling me. I think because we were in the dark, we shared and connected in a way that would never have happened in real life. He too said there were many barriers between us. He felt they could be overcome. I did not. One day I felt so guilty I told him. He started to shout. Do you want to tell me now. I told him. He said he knew all along and was waiting for me to tell him. That he loved me in real life. But I didnt hear properly. For a while we didnt communicate. When I went back to work he kept coming over and looking very mad. I have since started talking to him in real life. But he is very awkward socially. He finds it difficult to make conversation. I emailed him a few times and just told him my feelings. I think that is okay to do as long as one isnt expecting a certain outcome. I told him I wasnt paying attention and we both got hurt. I told him I loved him. I told him his heart was good and loyal but he is often misunderstood in real life. He mails back but never refers to those parts. But his mails still say things like, 'I will be back soon'. or 'I will be back by 12pm' or he calls me 'Dear' and before he said he hardly ever uses the word Dear, it is a term he reserves only for those he truly loves. Last night I received notification to view his webcam. But I wasnt able to. So I mailed him and asked how to do it. He hasnt responded. On 31 Dec he mailed me to go out for New Years Eve. I told him I had made plans long ago, but he was welcome to join the group. But it was a church group and he is Muslim. I rang him at midnight to wish him Happy 09. He left me message 'Happy New Year' Thoughts?

I recently applied to get an online newspaper delivered to my email. The instructions I received were to COPY THE LINK, and then PASTE INTO WEB BROWSER. But I do not know what a web browser is. I do know how to copy and paste.

Thanks

I have never been attracted to normal guys. At my part time job was a guy who recently lost his mother. He is new and very private. I discreetly emailed him a link to a really good website...from my other email. The one with another name. The other name was Michelle. I didnt expect to hear back. But his mothers name turned out was Michelle and he has a friend also named Michelle so he thought that was who sent the link. I mailed him back telling him no, but that he could mail me from time to time. Oh my god! We both agreed we had so much to say to each other. We 'talked and talked' online. Shared things. Then he started to say, 'I like you so much, this is reality not fantasy'. He wanted to meet 'me' I have self esteem issues and I was nervous about revealing. Soon he told me he was in love with me. And I had developed strong feelings for him as well. We 'hugged' on line, 'kissed'. He loved that I was so moral. But in real life, he seemed introverted and strange. He would say, 'hi' to me, but he never made eye contact and it was just in passing. Sometimes in real life he would attempt to talk to me, but it all just dragged. But online...oh my! Then he called 'me' but conversation lagged again. He told me he doesnt know how to talk to ladies. I began to avoid his phone calls. Then suddenly he wanted emails every 10 minutes or so. If I forgot, I would get a mail titled, 'Why Have You Forsaken Me'. He would say he was upset and worried and confused if I didnt mail him every single day at least 5 times. He proposed marriage on the phone, 'even though I have never seen you, I love you' I so needed to tell him that it was me...Florence..so I called him one day. 'Do you want to tell me now'? he demanded. In tears and agony, feeling certain that I was disappointing him, I told him. He shouted that he knew all along. He was waiting for me to tell him but decided to play innocent because he loved me really in real life'. It sounded wierd and insincere. Actually his whole voice changed he sounded cold. He screamed 'do you want to go on a date? I screamed back at him, 'NO' I left the email account open til the end of the month, told him if he wanted to rant, to go ahead , but plse keep it clean and decent and then I no longer wish to hear from him. It was the middle of next month, that he calls and acts as if nothing is wrong and wants to continue emails and told me he loves me. I called him a week later, conversation dragged. I had stopped working at the job, but went back and he came over and stood there many times. Said nothing. I was so confused and nervous I said nothing also. But then I mailed him again. Confused. I told him we can continue mailing each other, go out from time to time, we seemed to care about each other. He mailed me back. Saying he considered me a good and loyal friend. On 31 Dec. at 3pm he calls me to go out for dinner. This was New Years Eve and so I had made plans long before. I invited him along, to the church, I knew he was Muslim but he said a long time ago he often goes to church and that religion just divides people. I looked forward to seeing him first in a group setting. He screamed that I knew he was Muslim, etc. etc. At work now, I feel comfortable talking to him again. He was kind last time, and seemed fine.

What is going on?

I ask this question in good faith, I am only trying to understand, not argue or try to convert anybody. I am Christian. Plse help me understand my arguments against being Muslim. (No offence intended) Okay. Mohammed actually made wine, I understand. And he had sex with his little cousin who was about 9 or 13? And such a lot of weight on the teachings of one man, who was so imperfect. And at what point did the substitution happen of Mohammed for Jesus, anyway. One version says angels took Jesus of the cross and substituted Mohammed. Another says that at the Last Supper, Jesus was desperately looking for a replacement and Mohammed stepped up. And why do you have to scrub yourselves down so much when praying? And what we humans want most of all is love and we dont get much of it and what we do get is far from perfect. Yet Jesus is perfect love (I am not trying to convert anybody here) but I can talk to my Father any time. Also, how much good works will get you into Heaven...you never can be sure. Whereas I know that I will never get into Heaven on my own and am saved by Grace alone. Thanks.

My dad is 80. In my opinion, a man of 80 should be calling his adult child once a week at the same time more or less. He should be talking about how he is feeling. A person of 80 cannot be feeling fine sometimes. My dad always sounds hyper energetic, busy, very happy and always on his way somewhere. Then he asks about my health. He never complains of aches or pains. Never sounds like an old person sounds, you know, like, 'It takes me longer to get out of bed now' At times he calls and says, 'I fell over the handlebars of my bike' or 'I fell off the ladder and drove myself to Emerg, they put 12 stiches in my head and some in my knee, and I drove myself home again'. He lives alone in a house, and when I go to visit him, he always wants to go out and 'do something' like visit the Casino and have all our meals out, he still drives and...I dont know, this denial seems dangerous to me.

We were getting so close, so fast, within 3 weeks, we both said we loved each other, which we did. We spent all our time together, and it was so great, we both said so. Then a couple days ago, he told me something, and I told him I didnt agree, look what a mess, you should have kept your mouth shut, I told him I was saying this because I loved him. He stammered and stuttered and tried to be polite, I told him yesterday, I was sorry, I had been totally ignorant of the facts, that he had in fact been very courageous to stand up for other people.

He said forget it, it's a small world, have a good day, goodbye.

I am so sad.

What to do?

I emailed a link to a coworker whose mum had died. I used my other email address with a different name than my own. I didnt expect to hear from him but he emailed back and we have been conducting a 'romance' on line. It seems sincere and he says my emails are the high point of his day, when he gets home from work in the evening, the first thing he does is check if I have contacted him. He told me he is so glad he met me, if even online, I am special to him he says, we have a lot to say to each other, he says...I wrote back saying this was fun and he is a great online pal, he wrote back, saying, yes and he 'knows me' and would like to continue this forever, and he wonders what it would have been like for us if we had ever met a different way.

Oh My GAWD!! He sits across from me at work!!! It just happened. I didnt think.....but it is fun, but it is not fair, but it is helping him....what do do??????

A young man is angry at Jesus. His mother always told him to place all his trust in Jesus, and Jesus would protect him and be his friend. This young man, watched his mother suffer and die. He needed her. Jesus did not even protect her.

It was God's Will. Someday we will understand.

But what can I tell him other than that?

I have my first real boyfriend. I am white, blonde, blue eyed and Musadiq is black.

My dream guy was always white.

But Musadiq is a wonderful boyfriend and I am very happy. He is too. He goes to a different school, my school mates found out about him.

They are spreading rumours in school that I 'like Black men' and some of these girls are black, too.

The guys that are black are acting all funny. One of them seemed nice at first and I talked to him and joked with him because one reason that he reminded me of Musadiq, came from the same country, and it helped me to understand my boyfriend. Now this guy is acting wierd too.

By wierd...all the girls are catcalling, saying, 'Florence just loves black guys'. The black guys are all strutting around and saying 'hi'.

I am deeply hurt by this.

What should I do?