David S

What if there's a stubborn/hostile patient who refuses to leave the patient room or waiting area. Can they be arrested and charged with something? Totally hypothetical.

I have two sets of loans - Sallie Mae and Citibank. In terms of principle amount they're both 6 figures and split evenly (Dental School was so cheap! /s). Sallie Mae has a 4.25% interest rate but it's fixed as opposed to Citibank which has a 1.5% interest rate and variable. In addition because I can't consolidate my Citibank loans they are subdivided into 4 different loans.

I'm getting a tax refund and I'd like to apply it to the principle amounts, I just don't know which one. Any advice?

At work an assistant will often "tease" another male coworker. When patients aren't around and it's just staff, you can hear her call his name out in a melodious way. When she does find him she'll say "There you are!" and then proceed to tickle and prod him in the chest and rib area. She'll also corner him in a way that he'll have to touch her breasts. Although he laughs at this, he visibly turns red and she does it in front of us. I'm going to complain about her behavior, but can sexual harassment be indirect? They're both married to other people, but I don't think that factors into anything.

I have a job offer in Vermont and I currently live in Southern California. I drive a 2005 BMW 530i, but I want to get a Subaru or something with AWD because of the snow in Vermont.

I'm getting two different sets of opinions - one is to sell it here because there may be a higher demand for a BMW in Southern California. The other opinion is to have it shipped (I get a moving stipend/signing bonus), drive it for a few months, get settled in, then trade it in when I buy another car.

Is there a big difference in price and which one makes more sense financially and practically?

Thanks!

While at the gym, this meat head of a guy was exercising next to me and he had an upside down pentagram on his chest (quite visible because of his tank top).

Not religious, but I wanted to know if it had any spiritual meaning. In my opinion because this guy had about three tribal tattoos (lower back and both arms), I think he may have gotten it in order to provoke a reaction.

Any thoughts?

I was at a university party (held at some club) and drinks were free until 10pm. It was busy at the bar counter and I did the typical thing: some cash in my hand, hold eye contact, and when I thought I had her attention I gave her my order: Heineken, Midori, and Gin and Tonic she said in "a minute". About 5 minutes later she got my order and she said, "It's past 10pm, that's 30 dollars." I gave her 40 dollars and I said, "I want 5 back." She says, "Oh man, you're only going to give me a 5 dollar tip?" Not wanting to rip her head off (joking of course) I carefully said, "Fine, just keep it." I walked away, upset, but not wanting to make a bigger deal than what it was... 30 dollars.

My question, is this right? Is this a common situation? I was really upset when she asked for a bigger tip. Could I have said, 'I don't want those drinks anymore.' after she told me to pay for them and give her a big tip?

So I was looking at all the responses and most were yes. Basically if I'm not thinking about my wife or girlfriend I'm cheating. So I like porn, I masturbate and enjoy it. This equals cheating?

How is it different from women who like either or all of the above: shoe collections, purses, Cosmo magazines, etc. What if I told women out there these items perpetuate sexism, misogyny, and is a negative stereotypes on how women ought to behave and look. I don't care what you think, this is a deal breaker for me and my girlfriend/wife shouldn't even be looking at these things and I forbid it. The girlfriend/wife might do it for a couple weeks, but will resent me for forcing her to change. Am I right in demanding this ultimatum because that's what the response most women give to their husbands/boyfriends on this forum?

I know women may feel uncomfortable, unloved, and disrespected - all women agree on this generality. I as a guy as well as other men understand and can relate. From our perspective though, watching porn has nothing to do with you. You're not in competition with the porn. It's normal and almost unavoidable part of being a guy (sometimes women too). In all honesty, it's going to be hard finding a guy who doesn't like porn, let alone sports.

I also want to say that porn isn't 100% harmless. A lot of teenagers get misconceptions about sex from watching porn. I also don't watch the Brazilian ones or the animal ones - yikes. The guy on girl or girl on girl are fine in my opinion.

Ultimately in my opinion, you can't dictate to someone who or what they can fantasize about or tell them what they can or can't watch without appearing like a Big Brother ******. Anyone ever think about compromises such as watching it together, instead of him watching it alone? If he’s watching porn instead of having sex with you, or the porn is getting in the way of school or work or social outings or daily living, then you have the right to demand that he seek help or leave him (or her).

If it’s not an unhealthy porn addiction, and you can’t find a way to get into it yourself, but you’re not willing to walk away from the relationship, then make sure he keeps it a private thing (we usually do this to be polite anyways!). Just don't talk about it and definitely don’t watch it, and ask that he hide all signs of it. In this case, ignorance can be bliss.

Thank you for reading.

So I go to strip clubs once a year when I go to Las Vegas with my friends (the weekend thing). We go to the topless strip clubs, something about the all nude ones that we don't like. Regardless, I like boobs, some grinding action, and some eye candy. I don't expect to take any of the strippers "home" nor do I want to. It's just some drinking, lap dances, and head back to the hotel.

My girlfriend doesn't like it when I go, but she never forbid me to go. Her exact words are, "I see you're gonna go see strippers with big boobies!" I find it funny when she says that, but needless to say she gets upset.

However, when she goes with her friends and have a "girls night out" which consists of drinks and night clubs, it's okay if she gets hit on, gets drinks offered to her, or if numbers are passed to her? I love her, and I know nothing will happen. I don't even need her to reaffirm that.

I think the chance of someone straying though even on accident would be at the club and NOT at a strip club. If you've never been to a strip club, then trust me no sex passes. That only happens on television shows and movies. If people have been to US strip club where sex exchanges occur frequently... then yikes, that's for another topic.

If strip clubs really bothered my g/f and she didn't want me to go, I think many would say she's right and something is wrong with me for wanting to go to a strip club. If I ask my g/f to stop going out to night clubs b/c I'm bothered by it, I'm pretty sure I'll come off as the possessive jerk/pig who's a control freak.

Thoughts and opinions? :D

Many people say it's a preference. So do those who wear shoes indoors prefer the less sanitary and hygienic conditions? On the soles of my shoes I wouldn't be surprised if I had a mixture of spit, feces, urine, sweat, garbage/trash, and animal hair. I wouldn't want to track any of that stuff in anyone's house.

"Oh just vacuum the floor, no problem.", well would you like me to see inside your mouth after I performed a bloody extraction of someone else mouth and not change gloves? "Oh I'll use some soap and water and these gloves will be good as new. No problem!" Would you want those gloves inside your mouth EVEN if the previous patient was only for a check up?

I'm not referring to the occasion when you're late for work, forget your cell phone, and run back inside your home to get it. I understand that.

In my opinion, it's for a "just in case" situation, this situation being marriage. How is a prenup any different from insurance (dental, medical, car, house, fire.... man do I have a lot of insurance). There's also this doom and gloom notion, but keeping the insurance analogy going, just because I get car insurance doesn't mean I'm looking for an accident right? I find it weird that getting insurance would make people think that I'm responsible, but thinking about getting a prenup would make people think that I'm predetermining a marriage to failure.

I also hear a lot of "if you bring up a prenup, then you don't trust the person, then we shouldn't get married", yet I don't know what my spouse (if I ever find that one person) will be like 10, 20, 30 years down the line. Heck, I don't know what I'll be like 10, 20, 30 years down the line. If it's so easy to fall in love, why isn't it just as easy to fall out? My friend's parents dated for 10 years then got married, but my friend says they're not happy and argue a lot. Marriage classes and not rushing into marriage is great advice but it's not going to predict a successful marriage.

I was working today in my dad's office and a patient with braces and her mother comes in. While I'm chit chatting with my patient I overhear the manager tell the boy's mother that my dad wasn't supposed to come in today, but she'll call him to see if he can come in.

10 minutes later he comes in very rushed, and I hear a part of it in Chinese that my dad said "...was on my way to handle some business, but I stopped along the way. I thought we had an appointment on Friday?" Some more Chinese dialogue and I hear the words braces and pain. Coming from someone who has had braces, whenever my dad changed the rubberbands there was always some soreness but nothing out of the ordinary.

2-3 minutes later, their volumes slowly rise but I don't think anything of it. Then I hear the mom upset and all I could hear is "just give me back my money", "no explanation", and finally "treating patients badly". My dad, to his credit, is speaking up but not yelling which was a plus on his part b/c he used to be a screamer. He was countering with "you're not listening to a thing I'm saying" and "you're not giving me a chance to explain". Finally I hear from my dad "leave the operatory, I have to take care of your son" and he finished with "don't you dare threaten me, you don't scare me in the least."

The mom left, my dad started doing something to alleviate the pain, probably removed the rubber bands and wire. The boy had his own questions, calmly asked, and my dad replied back. It was a very polite conversation.

10 minutes later the mom's son is done and the mom comes in calmer. The two talk and basically all I hear is "if you want to get a second opinion, please do" and "if you still want to get the braces done here, I (my dad) have no problems with that". I think I also my have heard "I asked you to leave because we both needed some space to calm down". Don't know what her decision was though.

My question to this community is at what point did dentist's become waiters and the dental office became a Burger King where patient's think they can have it their way? Such inconsiderate manners and lack of respect for my dad who has been practicing over twenty years. He knows what he's doing, yet there was no benefit of the doubt. It's unbelievable the attitude she had toward the dentist. At one point I wanted to throttle the woman because she was being a very rude person. Is there any justification to this anger storm? My dad, I felt handled it perfectly, and he was not in the wrong at all.

We met in dental school and became great friends for 2 years then started dating the last 2 years. We spent a lot of time with one another (sitting together in class, even working in the same dental clinic) and had a wonderful 4 years.

Then we moved to separate areas, Northern California for her because of her residency, and Southern California for me because my families' dental practice is here. We continued to date and see each other until November when she broke up with me. Now this is in '07 and now it's '08 of July, and there are days when I really miss her. I know she's moved on and I'm still looking for someone, but is this common to miss your ex all of a sudden for this long of a duration? Thanks.