Olivereindeer

I have been married twice to guys and over the years have some encounters with both men and women. I am now in a committed relationship with a woman.

Everyone asks: when did you realise you were gay?

I don't feel gay...I dont feel anything..I am just me...

I always liked girls and was attracted to women but also to men...

I hate the tem 'bisexual'

I don't like being labelled...

Does anyone else find that people just have to label or catagorise them?

Every man I have ever spoken with has said that they never have fantasised about sex with another man but most women I know have rfantasised about sex with another woman.

So, girls.......is there anyone who just doesnt find the idea of being with a woman arousing even if they would never go through with the action?

If I want to marry my girlfriend

we are both adults

have 4 happy, well adjusted kids

have a mortgage

do normal things like bbq, swim, go to the beach, garden, play sport

both have great jobs

have strong family support and ties

have both gay and hetero groups of friends

every thing about us is very normal and regular...its just we are both girls

then why shouldnt we get married...???

NO RELIGIOUS BASED ANSWERS PLEASE...

I want practical answers!!

I have PC with iTunes on it. I would like to be able to connect a few iPods onto my PC and download the songs from them to put into my iTunes. What is the name of the software that I need and where can i get it from? (Someone told me iRip - does this sound right??)

How do I ensure my items get completely dry in the dishwasher? I use rinse aid and good quality dishwashing tabs or powder and the dishwasher is very clean but it seems it doesnt dry properly especially plastic items. The dishwasher doesnt get opened during its cycle. Any tips?

Any self help tips for those with bipolar?

I am very flat and depressed at the moment.

I know there are things I can do to help myself...eg..exercise

but my motivation is so so low..and i have no energy to actually do anything except the absolute essentials.

Anyone can give tips from experience.

PS> I am well medicated.

I have had an on/off relationship with a guy for about 6 months.

I have called it off a few times the last time more seriously but we only lasted 2 weeks apart.

So, once again,we have had a talk and we both want to have a go at it again. There is nothing bad about it...just didnt feel right.

Slept at his place last night and found a pair womens panties in his bed (obviously not mine) He says he thought we were all over and that he thought we were moving on with our lives apart. He says she was a one night stand and is not still seeing her. I actually did the same and had sex a few times with another guy who is also a friend.

I feel a little uncomfortable about the panties..at least he was honest.

It makes me feel wary and a bit yukky. But at the same time I did the same thing.

what do u think? serious answers please...

can i use my heat pump to get rid of the condensation on the inside of my windows. It is particularly bad in the mornings.I keep my heatpump on around 18 degrees celcius overnight. How do I know if it has a dehumidifier in the pump I can use?

After seeing my boyfriend for 4 months I feel it is not working. He doesnt seem to demonstrate much interest in me and only wants sex about once a week. He is affectionate but when we are together it feels like we have been married for 20 years. We are more like friends. There is nothing really wrong with it but also not right. I have a 14 yr old daughter so I dont want to have him embedded in our lives further if I dont feel it will work later on. He also finds it very hard to communicate any feelings. we have discussed this and he feels I misinterpret the way he feels about me - I have told him what I need from him but I dont think he is capable (some attention etc) I am not high maintenance at all..just need some regular confirmation/assurance that he actually likes me. There is no emotional or sexual intimacy.

Am I being selfish?

Additionally I think he is very dampened with sex drive and emotions as he is smoking pot daily.

Can a man have an erection without feeling arousal?

I have been separated for 6 months and in another relationship - casual and nice. But I still feel so much sadness towards my marriage breakdown. I dont love or want to be back with my ex but am sad by the whole thing (infidelity on his part) and still feel some anger.

Anyone have any experiences that can let me know as to whether it is too soon to have a boyfriend??

my boyfriend is shy in bed. i am not. I am not into wierd stuff, just like some fun. The problem is that I cannot tell if he likes it or if he is disgusted with me. I ask him but he wont answer. I recently sent him some pics and a video of myself....no feedback at all!. He has told me he feels shy in bed. What do I do? I feel like I am making an idiot of myself. I just cant do boring old in/out sex without foreplay or some fun and playfulness

Been seeing him for 4 months casually. Stays over 2-3 nights per week. I do not feel like I am love and cannot get close enough to him to know him well enough. He is kind and nice to me - calls me his girlfriend - asks me out with his friends etc. However, he does not seem very interested in sex with me, is shy in bed (which is fine), doesnt have that wonderful desire to just be with me. He likes all the cuddling,affection and family stuff. It is all very casual and very different from any other relationship I have had before.

Should I keep trying to get to know him? I suppose I want more - I want him to want sex with me- want him to feel over the top about me.

I know I cannot change him - I really like him - and I know he likes me back..It is just not 'being in love' that bothers me...I wonder if it is worth pursuing??

Opinions?

I have used the same username for over a year but now when I try to log into Windows Vista it says my username is invalid?

How do i fix this without re formatting my whole computer?

Will Vista let me reformat and also save my existing information?

HELP>>>everything i need for university is on it!!

We separated in early Oct as he was having an affair with a school teacher from my stepkids (who were living with us 50/50) Catholic School.

I didnt realise at the time but was suspicious. He has just now told me that had been having sex with her during our marriage and that he moved straight out of our family home in with her.

I have made a complaint to the School and to the Catholic Education Commission.

My 15 yr old stepdaughter who left the school recently is appaulled and says he friends at the school in her year will be disgusted with their teacher. Both my 2 girls went to this school previously and also my younger stepdaughter.

Was I wrong to make a complaint?

Surely this behaviour is unethical?

Would she be dismissed?

Our family and lives have been shattered. It has been so hard for all our kids.

Suppose I just want a bit of support and affirmation that what I did was the right thing.

I have spoken with my local tattoo guy who does not have any design of a dove that I want and has asked me to go look on the net to buy a design. I cant find the one I want.

Can I just take him a picture of what I want...(can he trace it onto his special paper)

Sorry to sound like an imbecile...i know nothing about tattoos..

I am planning on getting a Picasso Dove ...cant find a professional one on the net....

what are my options - this is a pic of what i want

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/39/85341670_cfbd3e2...

2nd marriage - 6 years. I work fulltime, am at uni part time and we have one child living at home. I try so hard to be upbeat and happy. I show interest in my husband, his day, work, his hobbies. I do 90% of everything at home including all the bills, housework etc. He is not interseted in having sex with me except every now and then. If I dont make conversation then I am lucky if he speaks 20 words to me in one day. I instigate most things to make our relationship work...eg. going out, going away, sex, nice dinners, hobbies, fun stuff. I think he might be depressed and is drinking too much (more than 5 beers each night and more) then falls asleep really early. I feel very excluded and unloved. I feel like I cant do all the work all the time. he wont admit he is depressed and doesnt believe in the concept. I just dont know how much longer I can be in a marriage where I am so lonely and have to do all the work. I feel like he just doesnt like me. Most times I am a pretty happy fulfilled person and just get on with it and get satisfaction from work and study and the kids. I dont want to be divorced and will work on this but cant do it alone. We have talked about it..he wont go to counselling. what can i do?

I can receive but not send email. I am using Vista and either Outlook or Windows Mail. I have tried all the troubleshooting things but still wont let me. On the odd occaisions it will send but mostly not. I have tried deleting and re-entering my accounts details...they are all correct. Is this some kind of Vista pain in the butt thing?

In Austrtalia we have a bunch of kids names that are very indicative of low socio-economic, poor educational status.Wondering what are the popular chav (bogan) or redneck baby names in your country??

I am bipolar and have just finished 3 nights.

It is readlly sending me over the top with mania.

I cant sleep some days - other days too much

I end up depressed - rapid cycle usually but more when on nights.

I work in an intensive care unit as an RN so this is NOT good.

I didnt work a night last night but feel asleep in a chair at 5am and didnt wake at all until 5pm...so wierd. I have feelings of doom about nights.

I actually really like the work there so its not that - it is just sending me nutty.

Can anyone relate??

experiences?

No advice please (I am off to the doc tomorrow to discuss and have a wonderful manager who will totally understand)