Ginger

Hi, I'm a single mom with two teenage boys. My dr told me to go to the ER for my galbladder. (When I lift- It swells way up- 9 mo pregnant) Guess What?--- My job is lifting. If I don't go to work then I won't get paid. If l lift I won't make it. I don't know what to do. The ER may or may not take it out because I don't have insurance. Here's the thing...... Should I just go see what they say (I don't know if they will do anything unless i'm throwing up- I'm not) Or should I just continue to try to go to work and let other people help me until I can get some insurance. I'm so confused and frustrated. I don't want to be homeless but this is a bad situation!! Thanks for any advice!! (Any family is 6 hrs away --- My mom has Boderline personaliy disorder-- we could go live with her but REALLY? Thanks!

I have no insurance but have had this for 3 yrs now. Now the pain, pressure is worse. It's bad when i eat but it's worse when I lift anything. My stomach swells to where I look 9 mo pregnant!!!My job requires lifting, lifting, lifting. I don't get paid if i don't go and I'm a single mom. Oh dear, please help. Why would my stomach swell when I lift with a bad galbladder? Thanks for any advice!

I'm a single mom of two wonderful teenage boys. I don't think I'm going to make it financially and health wise. I was just told that I need an operation and it's causing me to gain weight. I've always been very fit) Now, It turns out that I'm not going to be able to do my business anymore (i've done this for 23 yrs) because of my health reasons. I don't have any other training in anything. I don't have insurance. Why is this happening! There's not much money in the bank right now! I could move in with my mother (who has boderline personality disorder) she says she has a roof for me but then she says she doesn't want any troubles with the kids, no friends or no bad days. (Oh dear!!) I feel hopeless like I can't get a plan together. If I don't have the surgery then I could well, die. I have a man that wants to begin a relationship but that's 6 months out. He has insurance. He seems like a true gentleman. Does anyone have any advice? I'm super scared!! Should I go home and live with mom and just suck it up. I could get on some insurance and I could get to know this nice man. I live 6 hrs away from her and the true gentleman. ( he's not going to want me after he sees my weight gain - this is awful) My boys love their schooling here. Help!!! Thanks for your advice. Please no mean answers.

I'm a single mom of two teenage boys. The boys are doing great in school. However, I'm not. I've tried to stay here (in this town) as long as I could to give my boys stability (10 yrs now) but the fact is that i'm not making it financially and having to jump from one month to another to pay bills and I have a very abusive man that is harassing me. I feel that we would be safe at my mom's house and I could make it. Also, I'm very sick and need an operation. My mom is strict and does help alot but at times she can be delusional and she may have a personality disorder. I just don't know what to do but I'm trying to keep a roof over our head and I work very, very hard so my boys can go to this school they love. However, the dr has told me that if I don't get some help I won't be around. This is so hard because either way I go, I will let my boys down. Thanks for your advice. Sometimes you can't see it when your in the middle of it.

I don't want to pull my sophmore in hs son out of school but I don't know what to do? I'm sick and i need an operation. My mother's house is 6 hrs away. I know we could go there until I'm better but she is abusive and has borderline personality disorder and dilusional disorder. For example, if we were to come in 15 minutes late one night she might accuse me of being out with her ex husband and kick us out for the night. That's chaos. However, I feel like I'm in chaos right now. I don't feel like I have any options. My car just broke down so I feel like we're headed for a financial crash! I don't know what else to do. Any advice? Thanks!

I'm a single mom of two teenage boys and I've been trying desperately to stay in the same town that we've been living in for 10 years now. This is home to my boys! However, I'm spending an additional $1200 a month to stay here and I desperately need insurance. I've been sick for three or four years now and need an operation. I feel so guilty and wrong for moving but I need help and this is taking a tole on me. I don't want to let my boys down as they love it here and I know they want to graduate here. I wish I could find a way to keep us here. I've tried forever and I don't know what to do anymore. If something happens to me then that would be terrible but the thing is that kids don't see that.... They only see what is in front of them until things happen. Either way I feel like I'm the bad guy, Thanks!

I'm a single mom of two teenage boys. They love their school and have been so happy here. However, I've become sick and need an operation. I can't get insurance unless I go back to my hometown and move back in with my mother. This way I could save money and get well. The only bad thing is having to move my kids. I have to get well. I've suffered for three or four years now. The other problem is that my mother isn't the easiest to live with. You might say, Well that I should work harder and make more but I've tried and I can only make so much. I've been trying for years. Thanks for your advice. I need to make a decision this week.

I'm really struggling with this but have to live like this due to financial reasons and economic reasons. I've always been one to have things planned out and go with a nice plan. However, nothing ever works out anymore. The last 10 years it's been day to day, blah. Does anyone else deal with this or know how to handle it?

I'm a single mom of two teenage boys. They are great kids. The problem is that I'm sick and need help. I'm only getting worse. I have no insurance. We have been living in the same place now for 9 years and the boys love their school. I was thinking if I go home (and stay with my mother) then could save about 1500 a month and get some insurance and get better. The problem is my mother is a little abusive. She can badger, bully, harass, and really make life a living nightmare. However, it's a free home. (She can be nice sometimes) I think it's a mental condition. Now, why would we want to do this. Well the only reason is for me to have an operation and get well.. Do I stay where we are and continue on this same path or endure abuse to get well and move my boys who are stable and well. I'm so confused and I've been praying but I don't have any answers. Thank you for your time and advice.

Well I'm a single mom of two teenage boys and I've been doing this for 13 years. There's no support. i'm tired, exhausted, the whole nine yards. Anyway, God has never let me down, meaning he's been there for me. Maybe not given me everything I wanted but been with us. Now, I don't know what to do. I've been praying and praying about moving back to my hometown. Everything lined up like clock work except the fact that I don't have enough money to make the move. All I need is 600 and I feel like it God wants me to go then he will provide. Otherwise we are staying here, I guess. I haven't paid my rent and they are being very nice about it here and i don't have much coming in. I have a job but it's so slow in the Summer. I'm scared and not sure what to do. I thought I was supposed to move but maybe i'm not or do I just take a huge gamble. Thank you for your advice.

I'm a single mom of two teenageres. I've been doing this now for 13 years. I'm really tired and exhausted. I'm physically sick. How do I keep my head up. Everything I do it's never good enough. Sometimes the bills get paid and sometimes i'm afraid things will be turned off or taken away. It's so hard living like this. I can't help but see others that drive Escalades and have the ability to stay at home and take care of their kids. I know those moms work hard too. It's just impossible by myself. I made a choice about 13 years ago to leave an abusive relationship.I know that was my choice. I'm literally scared and just need someone to say, Don't give up till you can't . Thanks!

I'm a single mom of two teenagers and I've been doing this for 13 years now. The thing is that i'm really tired. I don't know from one day to the next if we are going to make it or keep our place. Things have gotten really bad finacially. I work really hard and do the best I can. I just feel hopeless like everything is an epic fail. Really what choice do I have but to go on but I'm physically sick and do I just keep going till I drop. I have no insurance. Im sure that I can keep going and keep going but I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. I just need some encouragement to not give up and keep going! Thanks!

I'm a single mom of two teenagers and I have an opportunity to move my business where I won't have to drive 16 hrs a week. The new place will be very nice! The only bad thing is that my kids will have to move and the competition there (as far as competing with my business is ruthless and nasty) I own a gym. I don't know if I should stay here in a (hopeless place for me) or move where I could move on. It's all about my kids and they would be happier here. The driving is really killing me though. I can't make a decision and must make one in a week. Thanks for your advice and help. I'm so confused.

I live in a small town with alot of retired old men. There are alot of guys who personally don't take care of themselves or anything. They are not very sophisticated. This has left me to the point where I just don't care anymore. I mean there's no reason to dress up so I don't. There's no reason period. However, the interest is there. I think I need to move back to my hometown where life is more sophisticated. Althought there was a doctor here that asked me out and was very cute but that's it. but for some reason I have grouped these guys all together and want only to go back to my hometown to date. Thanks for advice.

I'm a single mom of two teenagers. I'm currently driving four times a week out of town for my work. I'm spending about 1,000 in gas. There's alot of times that I feel like I can't go on but my kids love the school that they are in and I don't want them to have to start over. I have to make a decision by Tuesday or my "Good Opportunity" for a new job will be gone. I just feel like it's too much pressure on my shoulders. It's alot of work to do to get ready for the move but it might be worth it. Help! I need some good advice.

I have an opportunity to move to a place that I like. The thing is that there are already two large, fancy, nice gyms there. (I own a gym) I don't know if I can compete with that. I would save about 1,000 a month in gas as I'm traveling alot right now, I know that I would do a good job and have a nice neat place but with those other two big super gyms there I don't know if I have a chance. I have two teenagers and I'm a single mom. Too many decisions and I need some advice. Thank you so much!

I have an opportunity to move to a location that I like. The thing is that I own a gym and there are two really big, fancy, nice ones where I will be going. I don't know if I can compete with that. Mine will be nice but not that big and fancy but clean and nice and I will run it. If I move I will save 1,000 in gas per month because I'm traveling alot right now. I don't know what to do as I have two teenagers to consider and I'm a single mom. Too many decisions. I would like to move but it's so risky, I have customers now. Maybe I should be grateful. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks!