Katie

my husband had an affair 10 months ago and i thought i was dealing with until now!

I found out on boxing day and with christmas getting closer i feel like im going to explode, we have been trying to work at things but it plays on my mind loads i have even started to find it hard to be close with him which really upsets me that even a kiss gets my mind racing with thoughts of him with this other girl.I just feel like im going insane and in my head im screaming and just want to explode and scream and shout, i thought i would be feeling better by now its been 10 months shouldnt i atleast be getting over it a little bit not getting worse?We are going to go to relationship counceling soon but i dont know if it will help! I really am on the edge of exploding!

My friend has been going out with this girl for about 2 weeks now and she already has a child who isn't very old and they have been quite full on considering they havent been together that long, she has just found out that she is pregnant again with my mates baby but some people think she could of already been pregnant when she got with him as its seems really quick we get the feeling she is trying to trap him as she is a young single mum who cant cope on her own! He seems totally in love with the girl and seems to fall for everything she says, he has even started calling himself daddy to her other child and wont have anything said against her we all know this is going to end badly but he wont listen to anyone!

I want to tell him i want him to move out but as you can imagine ending a relationship is never simple, he cheated on me months ago and i cant cope with the thoughts of him with this other girl anymore i want out of this relationship i dont even think i love him anymore. How can i end it without it ending in a huge argument?

When ever i stand in the kitchen my 1 year old Shih Tzu jumps up and nips me especially in the morning when i get up, do you think it could be because that is her way of asking for food?

When we got her she was very well behaved and we could walk her off the lead but because she was our first dog we spoilt her and now she seems to have little dog syndrome and bark at people and other dogs especially Staffordshire Bull Terriors, she lives with another Shih Tzu who is very well behaved she doesn't bark and doesn't go for other dogs like the other one we realise it is our fault she is the way she is but she is a good dog in other ways she puts up with my four children and doesn't nip anyone else.

Me and my partner split up for a week after yet another thing about the possibility that he might have cheated, i got told he spent the night with some girl and thinking back he came to visit me the day after he was supposed to have cheated on me and he had a rash on his chin and recently he had the same rash on his chin it was after he had gone down on me(sorry to be so rude but didn't know how to put it),he said its because he didn't shave for a few days,does that mean anything?And yes i am really really paranoid as there has been more then a few occasions that things have happened to make me think he has cheated like texts and getting dressed up and staying out all night and coming home without his wedding ring on etc etc i could go on and on,oh and being seen with another girl in his car!I'm gong insane,he won't admit to anything i have asked him millions of times

In the past there has been loads of things that have happened in my relationship to suggest that my partner has cheated on me more then once and always with young girls,now he has started staying at home and never leaves my side as he wants to build up my trust and make a go of our relationship but i cant get the thought that he may have cheated in me out my head,am i being stupid?

What do i do about my husbands son?He is 13 and he stays with us when ever he wants to i tried to like him but he has started bulling our children and he is rude and i found that stuff has started going missing from our house.He has told us that his mother has told him horrible things about me and his dad and we have both tried our best with him but when he is at ours he is just so rude to everyone even his dad we bend over backwards and get nothing in return not a smile or a thank you,my husband has spoken to him and told him off for bulling our children who are younger but nothing works it feels like he stays at ours just to see what he can get out of us!Its not like his mum and dad have only just split up they have been apart for most of his life,he doesn't act like he even likes his dad when he is here he ignores him,we both don't know what to do we feel we have tried everything,we don't give onto everything he asks for.Any advice?

after not being used for 2 months my toyota previa wont start, i have just replaced all the under bonnet fuses after a friend conected the battery the wrong way whilst jump starting, now it turns over but just wont start, any help would be greatly recieved, oh by the way its a 1998 2.4 petrol uk spec model

I am married and have 4 children,about a month ago me and my husband had an argument and my mother and her boyfriend of 2 years got involved,i didn't want them to get involved but my mums boyfriend insisted on coming to my house to help sort things out anyway when my mum and her boyfriend turned up we all sat in the kitchen talking,my children were still awake so her boyfriend said he will go up stairs and help put them to bed,it was then my my admitted to me that she was fed up with her boyfriend as he had been drunk for the past 3 days he didn't seem drunk but when he came back down stairs it was then i could smell drink on his breath,My kids were all in bed so my mum and her boyfriend left and my husband stayed at his parents that night so we had a bit of space.The next day i picked my kids up from school when my youngest boy who is 6 started crying,when i asked what was the matter he said that my mums boyfriend had hurt him i asked how and he said he pulled him from the top bunk bed and he had a scratch on his arm and a bruise on his knee.I was obviously very up set so i told my husband and we sent a text to my mum saying that her boyfriend had hurt our son and she has never replied and i haven't spoken to her since.It has since come up that my son told my mum what happened that night and she told him not to say anything,my 6 year old is really scared of her boyfriend and i will never let him near my son,i think my mum stopped talking to me because i had my husband back and she don't like him but she hasn't asked about how her grandson is,what should i do?Her boyfriend used to be in the army and is 6 foot tall and to a 6 year old obviously looks scary.Why won't she speak to me i know she don't like my husband but its her boyfriend that hurt my son.What would you do?

I have just started seeing my son after 10 years as my ex wife disappeared and i have only just found her,my son is now 12 years old and she claims he has aspergers syndrome although me and my wife have looked at all the symptoms and he seems to have none of them,my son even thinks he has it as she told him he does,he has had a test for it but he never got the results his mother spoke to the doctor and then told him what was said.I asked her to come to the next doctors appointment but she said he has not had one since he was diagnosed which i think is odd!When i said i would like to come with her she said that she would like her new husband to go as he lives with her and my son.I have found and spoken to some of her family members and none of them believe her and think she has made it up but why would she make my son believe he is ill?I would like to look at his medical record but i don't know if i can without her knowing.I respect her for bringing up my son and i think she has done a good job,i don't judge her for that but if she is making him believe he is ill when he is not then it's wrong,even his school doesn't reconize he has aspergers symdrome,what do i do?

My mother in-law has 2 papillons and all they do is bark at people and they have even tried to bite my kids,she says they are just playing but i think different,what does every1 else think?And yes i am bored and can't think of a better question!sorry.

My husband bought me a Shih Tzu a few days ago she is 6 months old and is obviously not used to human contact,i know she is in a new home and unsure of her new owners i understand this as i have another dog.Lacey just seems like she doesn't trust humans very much and not used to being given treats and for a dog of her age that just seems abit strange to me.She sculks from one room to another and hides her head,i don't know if she has been hit or anything the people my husband got her from said they only had her for two weeks and they didn't want her as their kids throw her about but i have four children and she doesn't seem scared of them.I did have to cut her hair as she had poo stuck all round her bottom and she had fleas and by the way she eats i presume she has worms so i know she wasn't that well looked after i just wanted to know if anyone thought she may of been abused?

MY SHIH TZU IS 7 MONTHS OLD AND SHE HAD HER FUR CUT REALLY SHORT WHEN I GOT HER,HER COAT IS FLUFFY BUT ITS DULL WHAT CAN I DO TO IMPROVE HER COAT

I have wrote in a few times about my husband and all the problems we have been having but this time its different,yesterday we were having a nice day and his phone rung and i answered it and it was his mum i hung up and it flicked on to a folder that had sent messages in it,the messages were to some women saying he was sorry for being such a c**t to her and another text saying that he will always be there for her,when ihe tried to get the phone from me i wouldnt let him have it as i wanted to speak to this women so he bent my fingers back and scratched my hand just so i would let go of the phone and then he threw it,his reason 4 this was he wanted to talk to me about it.He said she was just a friend and she was a homeless junkie i said get the phone and let me talk to her and he said he threw it away,anyway when we got home i kicked him out,i have since learn't today he still has his phone.Cheating or not,do i believe him?

I have wrote in a few times about my husband and all the problems we have been having but this time its different,yesterday we were having a nice day and his phone rung and i answered it and it was his mum i hung up and it flicked on to a folder that had sent messages in it,the messages were to some women saying he was sorry for being such a c**t to her and another text saying that he will always be there for her,when ihe tried to get the phone from me i wouldnt let him have it as i wanted to speak to this women so he bent my fingers back and scratched my hand just so i would let go of the phone and then he threw it,his reason 4 this was he wanted to talk to me about it.He said she was just a friend and she was a homeless junkie i said get the phone and let me talk to her and he said he threw it away,anyway when we got home i kicked him out,i have since learn't today he still has his phone.Cheating or not,do i believe him?

Last nite i said about my husband having a drug problem and stopped a few months ago and now hehas strted disappeaing all nite again,well he came back at 2am and as we were talking i noticed he wasn't wearing his wedding ring,he had taken it off or as he said he put his hnd in his car door pocket and it fell off.I'm going mad he says he has never cheated on me and never would and that he isn't back on drugs he just says he mucks up and thats why he was like 4 hours late coming home.I don't know what to think my head is a mess,its 4 or 5 nites over the last week or so he has stayed out all nite,he is out at the moment and wants to talk when he gets back he says i make all the choices in our relationship and i just feel its the other way round that he controls stuff because he goes out and decides if he is coming back or not,he only come back last nite coz i threatened to cut his clothes up.I have 4 kids and i don't know what to do i don't have much family support and my head is so messed up i feel like i can't do anything,i can only think he would take his wedding ring off if he was seein someone else but he says he is not and wouldn't do that,i can't cope anymore i really can't,he has been going off for years so he knows i will always ask for him back and i can't help having him back he is my first love we have been together for nearly 11 years since i was 15 i am now 25.

At the moment i am waiting for my husband to come home,i keeps going off all night with out ringing,i isn't having an affair,he has stopped doing drugs a few months ago but he disappeared last Thursday,Fridy,Sunday and this Thursday just gone and now tonight,he says he ain't doing drugs that he don't know why he goes off,i know he is lieing.Wot should i do i have 4 kids with him

I have a seven year old daughter and she slept in my bed up until she was four,we struggled to get her in her own bed but for the last few years it hasn't been that bad up until recently she is constantly coming up and down the stairs to ask us questions and if i'm in bed she keeps coming in to the bedroom it's driving me and my partner mad as we don't have any time on our own.We try reading her stories and bathing her before bed to try to get her to relax but nothing works some nights she could stay up till 1 o'clock in the morning,we have three other children and she disturbs our youngest,any useful ideas?

I have just got a 17 month old Shih Tzu and i wondered if any one had any ideas on the best way to clean round her mouth and what i should use as she gets very dirty?

when ever i'm laying in bed my cat wants to lick my eyes and then bites my nose,what does it mean?