Josh B

I'm already seeking professional help. I just want to see what the Internet has to offer.

2 years ago, I fought for and won custody of my 2 children (one boy and one girl) who were being molested by their older half - brother and grandfather.

Now I find out that my son also molested my daughter 5 years ago. He was 8 and she was seven. Nothing has happened since then that Im aware of. And he says thay he still stuggles with wanting to do it still. The granddad was molesting all of them thier whole life.

I think He needs help understanding what he went through and learning how to navigate his feelings with professional help, but I also think that his part was because he was being taught this behavior and it was accepted.

Will my son and my daughter be able to continue in the same house together? What would you do if you found out one of your kids had molested another one of your kids. How much does time place and circumstance affect your opinion?

My wife told me she wanted a divorce, to get out of her room, and get out of her house, and that she didn't want me to kiss her anymore.

I didn't get a divorce and move out, I still tried to kiss her, and I just slept on the couch. Cuddling with her at night, and giving her kisses on my way out the door, and hugging her when she came home from a friends house was a hard habit to break, but I'm over it now.

But now all of a sudden she mad and says that I don't love her or kiss her, and she wants me to start doing it again. But I'm not ready to go down that road yet. None of the issues that caused her to tell me to leave have been resolved. Or rather she still feels the same way about me as she did when she told me to leave. Nothing changed, she just wants me to go back to kissing her and sleeping with her again.

Mine doesn't think I love her. Is this something that I should have to prove, or is this something that she has to deal with?

My son has bad handwriting. He's 12yo, and in the 6th grade. Unfortunately, all of the handwriting workbooks are listed as being for Kindergartners. I really want him to be able to focus on handwriting, should I go ahead and get the books for him?

My son has bad handwriting. My wife and I sat down together and told him that he needed to work on it by writing the Alphabet 25x in capitals and lower case for cursive and print. Well he brings me his first 25 of capitals, and it looks like crap. His letters aren't the same size, Spacing is better, it's obvious that he isn't starting in the same place on each letter.Some of the letters are written above the line, some are written below the line.

Well anyways, it's garbage. Being the Dad that I am, I tell him don't do the rest until I get him a work book. I feel like the alphabet writing is not teaching him better handwriting, when he's just repeating his bad habits over and over again ingraining them into his mind.

My son has bad handwriting. My wife and I sat down together and told him that he needed to work on it by writing the Alphabet 25x in capitals and lower case for cursive and print. Well he brings me his first 25 of capitals, and it looks like crap. His letters aren't the same size, Spacing is better, it's obvious that he isn't starting in the same place on each letter.Some of the letters are written above the line, some are written below the line.

Well anyways, it's garbage. Being the Dad that I am, I tell him don't do the rest until I get him a work book. I feel like the alphabet writing is not teaching him better handwriting, when he's just repeating his bad habits over and over again ingraining them into his mind. Well anyways my wife gets super mad because I told him not to write the other part. And is going off on this tangent that she has a social science degree and I don't. Then she goes to our son and says if you don't write the Alphabets I'm not going to take you on the trip this weekend with the other kids. Please help me resolve the alphabet thing. Our son is 12.

As far as I know everything seems to be going fine. I get the feeling that they want me to tell them something, but I don't have anything to tell. What should I say to get them to tell me what's going on?

Since I don't have any secrets on my part, I'm thinking there may be some on theirs.

I got a job working overnights on the weekends. It was really because my wife who manages the bills told me we needed extra money and her job wasn't enough, and because I'm not going to college, which means I'm not getting the Post 9-11 GI Bill anymore. Overnight weekends are really the only thing that fits our schedule. She doesn't get off work until 9-10pm some nights, and regularly gets off between 6-7pm. and on top of that we have five kids who get home at 2:30pm. Any sitter that we get or have tried to get wants at minimum $20/day/kid for after school care, so if I work through the week I would need to make at minimum $500/wk just to take care of that. Anyways, all of that was decided, I got a job that fits our schedule, but sometimes I miss church, because I get home and fall asleep. I was going to church anyways but half the time I fell asleep in service and my wife convinced me that it's better to stay home as opposed to disrupting the events with my snoring, and she was tired of poking me in the ribs all the time. Despite that, I still go to church 1-2 times a month, but now the people at church are acting like I'm never there and my wife has accused me of not caring and not wanting to go. It's even gone so far that she said to me. "Are you even a christian anymore?" How would you handle this situation if you were me?

My son keeps saying why ALL the time. I say wash the dishes, he says why. I say tie your shoe, he says why. I say have a nice day, he says why. I think he's doing it to be annoying and get out of stuff.

My wife says he's just a curious kid.

If he is a curious kid, how do I get him to learn for himself?

I'm at the point of just saying "because I'm the parent, and I said so" and "stop asking questions and do what your told" and "if this isn't a science project, don't ask why, just do it"

maybe you know some adages beyond just curiosity killed the cat.

Sometimes for dinner, I'll make peanut butter sandwiches with peas on the side. My kids don't like it and sometimes they refuse to eat it. Later they complain because they're hungry. But they have oranges and apples as an option to eat too. I'm happy eating peanut butter sandwiches and I usually have a whole can of peas to myself. I don't punish them for not eating, but if they are grumbling too much, I will say that I'm sad for them, but I think they should have eaten dinner. The same thing happens on soup nights too. I do try to limit it to once a week at most and usually only once every three or four weeks. I also make sure to remind them about breakfast the next day. Is it bad that I allow them to not eat on those days?

It starts off kind of soft when lady dramaine is suggesting that Cinderella give up her room, and becomes firm when Dramaine tells her to sleep in the attic, but by the time she's knocking over glasses and calling her names to her face, it's just flat out apalling to watch.

Did you see it and immediately think, "there's no way I'd go for that!" He calls his wife and step daughters trying.

I hoped it would have been as beautiful as any of the other dresses in the movie.

I would never think of holiday granger as being fat but through out the movie, I couldn't help myself from focusing on her soft arms and cheeks. I felt like I might have been trying to force it because of her character.

I'm pretty sure this question is emotionally abusive. like to the point that F-you-B would be an acceptable form of defense. If you say "do you even think?" to someone that's throwing the first punch in a all out war of insults. But it's worse, It's like shooting and RPG at point blank range.

"Do you even think?" is only one of the "Do you even" questions, and I think they're all just as bad. "do you even care", "do you even listen", "do you even love me". pretty much anything starting with "do you even" is going to be emotionally charged and damaging.Do you agree or is this just being petty?

I think it is possible to trust someone that you don't love, but can you really love someone without trusting them? It kind of reminds me of getting haircuts. In the end everything is going to work out, but it would look rediculous if you stopped trusting the barber after the first cut.

I'm doing bad stuff so I can get in trouble for I did rather than getting in trouble for what I didn't do.

I don't even know what to say to that.

-I guess not.

Does anyone else take this sort of question as a definite statement, or maybe even as an accusation? As far as I know the correct way to ask such a question is "Are you going to apologize?" Am I right?